Ewe, inoveli kunye nomphathi, ngokweenkcukacha-manani zokugqibela, kwenzeka wonke umfazi. Makufutshane, nokuba luxanduva, kodwa usaqwalasele iziphumo.
Okokuqala, kunokwenzeka, emva kothando olukhawulezileyo kunye nokuqhekeka okuthe ngqo kuya kuba nzima ukugcina ubudlelwane obuchanekileyo bokusebenza. Rhoqo, emva kokophula inoveli ngentloko yenkanuko yakhe, kuyimfuneko ukuba ichaze okanye iguqulelwe okanye ihambe kwiholide ende yokubuyela ngobuso obunqabileyo. Kunzima ukugcina ubudlelwane bokusebenza kumaza endala, kuba ubuqu kakhulu buthatha ngaphezulu, ubuncinci bamaqela.
Okwesibini, inoveli kunye nomphathi lucelomngeni. Ke ngoko, zilungiselele ukuhleba, ukuhlebeza kwakho umva wakho kunye nokuthathelwa ingqalelo kubudlelwane bakho, ngakumbi ukuba zonke iziphithiphithi yena okanye awukhululekanga.
Ngobodwa, umonakalo we-gossic akafakwanga, kodwa bayakwazi ukuphakamisa ngokufanelekileyo igama lakho. Ukongeza, ukuba wenza imfihlo kwinoveli yakho, akunakulindeleka ukuba uphile ixesha elide. Akunakwenzeka ukuba wonke umntu ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho bufihlakele.
Okwesithathu, xa ixesha le-euphoria liphelile, inoveli enomphathi ayisayi kwahluka kwezinye iinoveli namanye amadoda. Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba iintsuku ezinjalo aziyi kungenzeki xa, emva kokuxabana okanye incoko enzima, awuyi kwenziwa. Kwaye kufuneka uyenze. Ngapha koko, akanguye kuphela othanda wena kuphela, kodwa kunye nomphathi kwangoko. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, uvavanyo oluthandekayo luqala kuwe: ungubani kuqala - ngothando kunye nebhinqa elihlaselayo okanye umqeshwa onokuthenjwa?
Ngendlela, ukuba ungumqeshi kwaye unenoveli enezingamati, ke nina ngenxa yenu yonke imiphumo efanayo. Ngawo kuphela umahluko kwimeko yekhefu elimangalisayo, akufuneki ujonge umsebenzi.
Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, akukho nto yolwaphulo-mthetho kwinoveli kunye nomphathi. Xa sele yenzekile, akukho ndlela yendlela. Kuya kufuneka sijongane nazo zonke iziphumo. Ngakumbi ukuba le noveli ayikho phakathi kwabantu abakhululekileyo, kodwa phakathi kotshatileyo kwaye utshatile.
Inyani enomdla yile, ngokwemizuzu, abantu abasebenza iiyure ezingama-8-9 ngosuku banomdla wokukhangela amaqabane kwiqela elisebenzayo. Okokuqala, umntu uye wavavanywa, kwaye okwesibini, akukho mfuneko yokuba uthathe iinzame ezintsonkothileyo kunye nezithunzi zeqabane elifanelekileyo kwenye indawo, akukho mfuneko yokuba ubeke umngcipheko nolingo ongaqhelekanga. Iqela elisebenzayo yindawo entle engeyiyo yeenoveli ezimfutshane, kodwa kunye nolwalamano lwexesha elide.
Kubalulekile ukumisela ngokuchanekileyo. Kwaye unike ingxelo ecacileyo: Ukuba ndinenoveli kunye nomphathi, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba akade, ngaba akahlali indawo yomntu oxabisekileyo?
Kwaye, yinoveli enomphathi wesikhundla esihle kunye nomvuzo. Ukuba kunjalo, kwaye ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane kunye nokusebenza kwayo kuthetha ukuphela kobukho bakho obuqinisekileyo emhlabeni, ke lo ngumqondiso onzulu kwisenzo. Akukho nkcazo yemisebenzi kufuneka inyanzelwe kubudlelwane bokuya. Amava anjalo anokuba krakra, kubuhlungu kwaye ukhohlakele, kwaye kuya kuba nzima ukubethelela umvuzo omnandi.
Yibanentlahla kuwe!
UMaria Dyachkova (iZgkova), ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye nokuqeqeshwa ngokuqeqeshwa koqeqesho lomntu weZiko loQeqesho lweKhazin Khazin