Ubudlelwane obuhambelana nokuhambelana bufuna umsebenzi omkhulu kwinxalenye yamaqabane omabini. Kukho iimeko xa kufuneka senze isigqibo esinzima, ngokuchasene neengxaki eziqhelekileyo ezingasabonakali ngathi zinzulu. Sithetha ngenkani.
Ngaphezulu kwento yokuba iqabane litshintshe isiqingatha sayo, kodwa zombini zibekeke kuzo zombini, kodwa ayizizo zonke izibini ezazi ngazo, ziqala ukuzityhola ngento eyenzekileyo. Ukongeza, ayikho kuphela inkcitho yomzimba kuphela, kodwa isimilo, ekungekho lula ukuchonga, kuba kwakungekho nxibelelwano lomzimba.
Yintoni ukuvukela umtshato wokuziphatha?
Yonke into ilula - nokuba yeyedwa neqabane lakho, le ndoda "ihamba emafini", ihlala icinga ngomxholo wodumo sakhe, ngendlela, iqabane alikho. Oku kunokubizwa ngokuba yintsimbi enexhala lesiqingatha sesibini: njengommiselo, ukuvutha komzimba kwandulelwa ngokwasemzimbeni.
Kodwa kuthekani ngenkani yomzimba?
Njengoko sele sithethe, ukuvutha komzimba sisiphumo esivakalayo sokuziphatha, kuba i-sent engafunekiyo, ukuba umntu sele eneqabane, kunqabile ukwenzeka ecaleni. Ubuncinci kukho imvakalelo yothando, njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba uthathe isigqibo malunga nerestu kuphela ukunika iimvakalelo ezinamandla.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ubuyisele ubudlelwane emva kovavanyo?
Ngelishwa, uninzi lwamaqabane akhohliweyo akakwamkeli ukuvutha komsindo wesiqingatha sabo sesibini, ngakumbi ukuba isibini sisebudlelwaneni ixesha elide. Kodwa kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba amahlakani ayazi ukuba iimvakalelo ezinzulu kukuba umntu ongamaziyo wayengakwazi ukutshabalalisa, kwaye aqalise ukusebenza kubudlelwane obuphindwe kabini, obanye bamaqabane ubuthathaka obuncinci. Ityala ngalinye lingumntu ngamnye, ke ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba sithethe ngokuzithemba ukuba umntu othile uza kusabela njani.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka yenziwe emva kokuba iqabane livumile "kulwaphulo-mthetho", zithathe isigqibo sokuba uhlale unxibelelana nolwalamano. Ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokugcina iManyano, khumbula ukuba kwixa elizayo kufuneka uzame ukukhankanya isiqendu esingathandekiyo kuwe, akukho sibetho iqabane elinetyala. Ukuhlala khumbula ubuthathaka bee-halves zabo akuyi kubangelanga nantoni na ngaphandle kokucaphukiswa, kwaye kuya kukhokelela kwi-discrinue.
Ngaba ucinga ntoni iingcali zengqondo?
Uninzi lweengcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba kuhlala kukho ithuba lokubuyisela ubudlelwane emva kovavanyo, kodwa sebenza ngokuvuselela kuya kuba nzima, kuya kufuneka ulungiselele. Iingcali zicebisa ngababini ukuba zingafezekisi izigqibo-musa ukuthatha izigqibo ezinzulu ngokubhekisele kwikamva losapho lwakho, ngelixa uphantsi kwempembelelo yeemvakalelo ezinamandla. Zinike ixesha lokuzola. Ukuba kukho imfuneko, qhagamshela ugqirha wezengqondo oya kufumana indlela nawe, indlela yokuhambisa isibini sakho ngqo kwimeko yakho. Khumbula ukuba ukwahlukana kwimeko yokuvutha kwenqaku, kodwa ngokuxhomekeka ekubeni omabini amahlakani alungele ukutshintsha.