Kwizixeko ezikhulu, le fomathi yoBudlelwane yamkelekile ngakumbi kunokuba ngaphandle. Isingqisho seSixeko, ukwakhiwa komsebenzi, ekutsaleni izicwangciso kunye neentsuku zeMicimbi ngokungathi bayakuqinisekisa ukuba "ulwalamano lwasimahla" kwaye babenze babonakale ngokudalwa kosapho.
Okwesibini luqondakalanga njengesisombululo sabantu ababini malunga nokuhlala kunye, ukuzalwa kwabantwana kunye nokuxhaswa ngabantwana, njengomthwalo kunye nokuxhomekeka kwabo sibathandayo.
Ulwalamano lwasimahla luvumela abantu ukuba bagcine inkululeko ephambili komnye nomnye nokuzimela. Ukulahla imali sethu, senze izinto zokuzonwabisa, ukungazithembi ukulahla ixesha. Izibonelelo ezivela kolu hlobo lobudlelwane. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abatshatileyo baphila iminyaka engapheliyo, ngabahlobo abahle, abahlobo abahamba, ukuphumla kunye nokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa, ngamanye amaxesha bodwa.
Kodwa ubudlelwane obunjalo bunamatye aphantsi kwamanzi. Iinkcukacha-manani zithi izibini ezi-10, ubudlelwane bawo abubhaliswanga, iiakhawunti ze-6-7 yeemeko zotshintsho, ezingaphezulu kwesiqingatha. Emtshatweni Le pesenti incitshisiwe: Ngaphandle kwezibini ezili-10 zokutshintsha amaqabane kuphela kwi-5 ngababini.
Ngapha koko, olu lwalamano luphela ngomnqweno weqabane lakho ukudala usapho, nikezela abantwana. Kwinxalenye yokuzinza kwaye yomelele, enyanisweni, olu lwalamano lwakhiwe kwibhalansi ebuthathaka yabantu. Omabini amaqabane ngokucacileyo amisela umda ekuphuhlisweni kobudlelwane babo (uninzi lwenzeka ngokungazi), olungenakufuduka. Xa uzama enye yazo, lo ngumgaqo oyimfihlo wokuqhekeza, ubudlelwane buyeke ukuba bumnandi kwaye bunenze ngokwanelisayo.
Ingqondo yengqondo yosapho ithi umnqweno wokudala usapho ayisiyisitampu senkcubeko kunye nedatha yembali. Ngaphakathi kosapho kunye nemida ehonjisiweyo ngokucacileyo, ilungu ngalinye losapho linokwanelisa iimfuno zalo: ekuthembekeni, uthando, ukuqatshelwa, njl njl. Oku kubonakala njengesakhiwo esingaqhelekanga Abazali / amaqabane basamkela isigqibo sokuya kuba kunye kwaye badlulise iingxaki ezibalulekileyo kunye nemipu ngesandla.
Kulwalamano olukhululekileyo, eli candelo lisisiseko alikho. Nokuba ubudlelwane bokuthembana, akukho nto ingenakwenzeka ukuba bangene: ukuba bangene ngexesha lokuzalwa kwabantwana, ukona okanye bamona okanye bakha izicwangciso zexesha elizayo. Yonke le nto ichaphazela imvakalelo yokuthembeka kunye nokhuseleko. Ngapha koko, izibini ezihlala kolu hlobo lobudlelwane zihlala zilumkile: ngequbuliso yonke into iza kuphela ngoku?
Ngakumbi, ubudlelwane obunjalo bugqiba kwelo yamaqabane avuthayo kwindalo yosapho kwaye ufumana kufanelekile kulowo mntu.
Nangona kunjalo, ulwalamano lwasimahla, ukuba awuzihlaziya ixesha elide, njengokuhlafuna, linqanaba eliluncedo kubantu abaninzi. Ngenxa yefomathi yolwalamano, unokufunda ukuhlonipha imida yobuqu yelinye, ukubhengeza ngeminqweno yethu kunye neenjongo zethu, phuhlisa ecaleni, zama amandla abo kwaye uzame amabhongo.
Nangona yonke le nto inokwenzeka ebomini bosapho, ngakumbi ukuba uyayisusa intsomi malunga nendlela, ubomi kunye nokuxhomekeka kwamaqabane omnye komnye. Kodwa ukhetho luhlala lukhona!
UMaria Dyachkova (iZgkova), ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye nokuqeqeshwa ngokuqeqeshwa koqeqesho lomntu weZiko loQeqesho lweKhazin Khazin