Xa sineentlungu zezinyo, singxamele ukuya kugqirha wamazinyo, kuba siyaqonda- ngenye indlela ayiyi kuba mbi. Kodwa xa kuvela intlungu yethu yokomoya, asikhawulezi ukuya kwi-psychologist, izama ukujamelana neyakowethu okanye ngoncedo lwabathandekayo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ngokungaqhelekanga ngokwaneleyo, oku kuyenzeka ngokwaneleyo-ukungathobeli nayiphi na imeko ngokuhlalutya, siye saxoxa nomhlobo, thina siye kwisisombululo esivumela ukuba siphile kwaye siziva silungile.
Akukho kusebenza kwilizwe lethu ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba libonisane nogqirha wezengqondo. Kodwa kukho iimeko xa ngaphandle koncedo lwengcali awanakwenza. Kwaye nokuba unethemba lokukwazi ukujamelana nazo ezi meko, awuyi kukusebenzela ukuba wenze kakuhle nangokulahleka okuncinci, ngokungathi kukho ugqirha ecaleni kwakho. Ke ngoko, ngamnye kuthi kufuneka ayazi ukuba kufanelekile ukuba uqhagamshelane nogqirha wezengqondo.
1. Ukwahlukana nobudlelwane, uqhawulo-mtshato olunzima, ukungcatshwa kwiqabane. Ukuba ucinga ukuba nje ukuba ubudlelwane bungayibuyiseli, ayinangqondo ukuya kwi-psychologist, uphosakeleyo. Ugqirha wezengqondo kule meko akadingeki ukuze ubuyele kuwe iqabane, kodwa ukuze ubuyele kuwe: Yiza kwiimvakalelo, fumanisa kwaye uphile.
Ubudlelwane kumdlalo wokuwa okanye ukuqhawula umtshato. Uncedo lwe-psychologisty kule meko kuyinto ebalulekileyo: iya kunceda okanye ingayi kuzisa ukuwa, ukuba ubudlelwane bunokugcinwa, okanye buya kuphuma kubudlelwane ngaphandle kwezandla ezingenamzimba kunye nezandla ezinyukayo.
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3. Awujamelana nawo. Xa ucinga ukuba kufuneka ihlangabezane, kodwa musa ukujongana (kunye nokufunda, ukusebenza, ukukhulisa abantwana, umtshato, njl njl.), Yiya kwingqondo. Ngakumbi ukuba sele izamile iingcebiso ezininzi apho ukujonga khona inkuthazo kunye nendlela yokucwangcisa ixesha lakho. Ugqirha wezengqondo kuphela uya kukunceda uqonde ukuba ngubani na kwaye kufanele ukuba uchaze ukuba ungayimi kuphela imisebenzi, kodwa ukonwaba ngakumbi kwathabatha ubomi bomntu.
4. U-batch kwindawo enye - kwaye ubi. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba yeyiphi ngqo intsimi yobomi owenzeyo "ukubheja": awukwazi ukuthatha isigqibo sokutshintsha umsebenzi okanye ucele ukonyuka komvuzo, awunakuthatha isigqibo malunga nesixeko. Awungekhe uxelele iqabane olonelisekanga ngabantu. Awunakubhengeza abazali malunga nezicwangciso zabo zekamva. Ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uthathe isigqibo malunga nento okanye utshintsha into ebomini bakho ebomini bakho, yiya kwingqondo.
5. Unokwazi ukuzithemba okuphantsi. Iingxaki ezininzi zinokusonjululwa ngendlela enye - ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwinqanaba elaneleyo. Uninzi lwethu luzama ukusombulula iingxaki ngokuzithemba ngokwabo, kodwa, njengommiselo, alufikeleli eli tyala kude kube sekupheleni, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile, ukudubula kwinqanaba elithile. Okwangoku, ukuzithemba okwaneleyo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze uphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo obonwabisayo: ukwakha ubudlelwane nabantu abafanelekileyo, ukufezekisa ubuchule bokwenyani, ukufezekisa ukubonwa kwayo kwaye kungangoyiki ukuthatha yonke into ayinikezileyo.