Bazali baba ligunya kumntwana ukusuka ngexesha lokuzalwa. Babelana ngamava abo kungekuphela nje kwizinto zabo ze-inteyali, kodwa abantwana ngovuyo kuwo onke amabakala obomi - ukusuka esidlangalaleni. Isifundo seNew York Times sabonisa ukuba oonyana bakaBawo badla ngokukhetha ubuchule bukaBawo kunye namaxesha amabini rhoqo - lo msebenzi kamama kunabo bonke abantu abakhethayo. Iintombi zinamaxesha ama-1.8 amaxesha amaninzi ngokuthi zikhetha umsebenzi wamama kunye nowamaxesha angama-1.7 kuphela-oorhulumente bawo. Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndihlalutye i-Psychology yesi sigqibo kwaye ndincedise ukuvelisa isizukulwana kunye nabazali babo senza ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
Sukucinezela umntwana
"Ukuba sithetha ngendlela abazali enxibelelana ngayo nabantwana malunga nesikhokelo somsebenzi kunye nesikhokelo somsebenzi, ke kufuneka ukuba uphulaphule abantwana. Bayeke baye kwizangqa, khetha oko bakuthandayo. Ukuba umntwana uphosa iiklasi, ayisiyiyo nje. Ngasexesha elithile, uya kuhlala efumana into enomdla kwaye eya kuba kukulungele ukukhulisa ngakumbi njengengcali, "umrhwebi weProjekthi yeMsebenzi ka-Analev. Iingcali zengqondo zibambelela kwizimvo ezifanayo, zikholelwa ukuba ekubeni ebuntwaneni ukufundisa emntwaneni inzondelelo yokufumana amava amatsha kunye nokungabi koloyiko lweempazamo. Umntwana wakho akufuneki anyamezele kwaye aya kwiiklasi ukuba angazithandi. Ukuthobeka kunye nokunyamezelana ngexesha elingenamsebenzi-kude nezakhono ezilungileyo zenkokeli yexesha elizayo.
Ingcali ye-feshit.
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Yabelana ngamava akho
Ukuba ubona umntwana phakathi komsebenzi wakho, ungawaphuli amaphupha akhe ngamazwi malunga nokuba usebenza nzima kangakanani. Kuyo nayiphi na imisebenzi apho kukho iintolo kwaye ziyi-Cons, kuya kuba lula kuye ukuhlala ekhaya kwisofa. Kungcono ukuvumelana nesikhokelo malunga nokuhamba komntwana kwinkampani yakho: Mbonise indawo yakho yomsebenzi kwaye udale ngesangqa semisebenzi yokwenene, landela oogxa kumasebe afanayo. Ukuba intetho yakho sele ineminyaka eli-15 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala, inokucwangciswa kubuchule bokwexeshana - iziqu zabo ekugqibeleni zimkholisa ngomnqweno wokuhamba ngeenyawo okanye ukwala ngokusisigxina umbono wakho. Ngendlela efanayo, xa sicela umntwana, ungakwazi ukunxibelelana kwiqela likaPoe okanye izalamane ekufutshane kunye nabahlobo bosapho. Umxhasi kuya kubakho uluhlu lokukhetha, kokukhona umbono wobungqina beenyosi ezahlukeneyo kwaye kuya kuba lula ukukhetha uhlobo lokugqibela.
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Ulibale ngamaphupha akho
Umntwana ayisiyo projekthi yakho, kodwa umntu ohlukileyo ekufuneka wakheke ubomi bakhe. Iminqweno yakho yobuntwana malunga nomsebenzi we-skater ye-skater okanye iphupha elingafakwanga kwisithuba semigqwetha kwinkampani ephezulu yile ntliziyo yakho, hayi izicwangciso zomntwana. Ingcali yomsebenzi iyaguqula nathi ngokweeMbono: "Ndiyakholelwa ukuba abantwana bafanele bakhethe oko banomdla kuyo, kwaye akukho tyala abazali akufuneki banyanzelise umsebenzi wabo okanye izimvo zabo. Ngokwemvelo, kukho iimeko apho, masithi, abazali okanye ootata bangabanyangi kwaye umntwana uyazibona kule. Ewe kunjalo, le yinto enye. Kodwa ngelishwa, ngelishwa, kwaye ukuze abazali babambelele amaphupha abo angenanto kunye neenjongo zabo. Umzekelo, ndinomzekelo onjalo, njengoko abazali bentombazana besimisele ukuba yimvumi ye-opera, xa wayengayifuni ngokupheleleyo, yaye kamva wayeguqukile xa wayengafuni ukwenza i-ad ishishini elingathandekiyo. Ngapha koko, kwavela ukuba yayingumnqweno kulutsha lomama wakhe. "