Ngale ntsasa ndiphumile kumatyala ebhankini kwaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndiqhubeke nokufunda amaxwebhu kunye nezinye iitayimu eziyimfuneko kwipaki enkulu kufutshane. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa kamva, ndiza kufikelela kwelinye ilizwe elitsha kunye nesixeko esitsha, kodwa ngoku, ndiphefumla ngomoya omtsha we-geneva kwaye ndimamele ukucula kweentaka kwi-lange.
Kukho ezimbalwa: Abantu abaliqela basasazeka kwipaki enkulu engca. Kwindlela ephakathi kwemithi kwaye imiphunga ihamba isibini samadoda amadala kunye nexhego, elinethamsanqa, elinethamsanqa, emva konyana, okanye 'emva nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "nje" nje "? Nanny ... Eyona nto ifumanekayo esidlangalaleni ngu-Thai noPhillipin babhinqileyo kwiintlobo ze-European zabantwana. Enjalo imizuzu ye-quandem ye-10 ukusuka ekungeneni kwepaki kwivenkile, eyafikayo, ndadibana ne ezine. Abantwana kwizitulo ezinamavili okanye ngaphezulu, enyanisweni, bazinikele. I-nannies, ijonge ngononophelo, ukuze umntwana angakhathazeki okanye akazange aqalise ukutya ingca, axelelwa ngenzondelelo kwifowuni, mhlawumbi enomdla. Kumahluko omi emva kweminyaka engama-20 epakini, iBritane okanye iAmerican kunye nabantwana ababini ivele - enye emngxunyeni, omnye wabaleka waya kuye. Ngomntwana omdala, watshintshana uhlobo lwamabinzana, exhasa umdlalo wakhe. Omncinci wayenethamsanqa, engcangcazela phambi kwakhe.
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Mhlawumbi le post yam yi-hormones eneminyaka engamashumi amathathu eneminyaka engama-30 kunye neminyaka yokugxekwa ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Kodwa kwabonakala kum umahluko ocacileyo phakathi kokukhanya emehlweni abantwana abaye bahamba nabantu abanyanzelekileyo nabanenkwenkwe, kwaye apha le nkwenkwe ibaleka ijikeleze umama wakhe. Amehlo akhe aqaqambile kususela kumnandi wokubona okutsha ekuhambeni, ekusebenziseni nabanye abantu ababathandayo. Ewe, kunjalo, ayicingi ngayo okanye icinga, kodwa ayikho kanye la magama. Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba kubudala buya kuhlaziywa ukuba incedisiwe ukuba ihambe ngobomi kwaye inomdla kuye, nokuba bongeze italente yetalente yokuhlala nokudlala ngenzondelelo. Nangona kunjalo, kubonakala ngathi ukuba ezi zibonakala zibonakala ngathi "zingezizo izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu" ekupheleni komntwana okanye i-suble evulekile kwaye inomsindo emhlabeni, kuba akunzima kangakanani Yiva, akukho nto inokuziva.
Kwi-Switzerland, ngokomthetho, ikhefu lokuya kubeleka, kubandakanya i-rinatal, ziinyanga ezi-4. Oku kuthetha ukuba malunga neenyanga ezimbini umntu adlulisela kwi-babysitters nakwisitya sokufakelwa. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uza kuziswa kunina ukuba bondle, kwaye umama ubuyela kwisikhululo sokusebenza. Kwaye umntwana uye kwiPhillipin, isiUkraine okanye omnye umongikazi.
Kwenzeka ukuba phakathi komsebenzi wam oqhelekileyo kunye nomsebenzi omtsha kwelinye ilizwe endandingcatsha ixesha elide ngaphaya kwendawo ehlala kuyo. Ngaphandle kokusebenza, ngaphandle kwethagethi yokuthengisa kunye neeprojekthi ezilishumi. Kwaye oku emva kweminyaka eli-10 yohlanga lwenkampani. Okokuqala ndingekhe ndiqonde - ukuba wenze ntoni? "... kubalulekile ukwenza into! Kungenjalo, ndingubani? Ndingubani? Ngokubanzi, kutheni ndim, ukuba andikwenzi nto, kodwa isidlo sangokuhlwa sipheka intanda yendoda! Uya kudinwa kungekudala! Hayi, ndikhumbula ukuba kwiincwadi ezimkileyo endizibhalileyo - kunyanzelekile ukuba ndiphuhlise kwaye ndihlukane ... ngoku ndiqhuba ndibaleka ... ", kwaye ingxolo entlokweni yam yaqala ukundiqhuba. Ndasiqonda isizathu sokuba abafazi bangxame ukuba babuyele emsebenzini, ngaphandle kokugwetyelwa komthetho ongqongqo: Uninzi lwethu lubonakala ngathi, emva koko 'ngumntu. " Kwaye ukuba ekhaya sihlala kwaye sikhule abantwana (okanye uThixo akade akhule abantwana, kodwa phila!), Ke sineklabhu.
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Kwaye akukho nto ingonwabisiyo, kwaye sitsibela uncumo lwabantwana bethu. Amagama okuqala kunye namanyathelo abakwenzayo kuluntu abakhathaleleyo i-nanny, engafumani mbono inomdla kwaye eqinisekile ukuba eqinisekile ukuba aqinisekile ukuba akanamdla. Ndicinga ukuba ingxaki yethu (inkathazo yoKhuseleko "Ukucinga ukucinga kunye neenkokheli ezipholileyo") kukuba asithethi ubugcisa ukuba. Ekwenzi nto, ukuhlala ebhentshini epakini okanye kwisofa ekhaya. Akukho nto iqalayo, kodwa ukuba kufutshane nabantu ababathandayo, nabantwana. Ngaphandle kokudala naliphi na ixabiso elibonakalayo. Enkosi kula mava, bendiqonda ukuba kutheni uninzi lwabaphathi abaphambili, endibaziyo, abathanda kakhulu kwaye bonwabile "ngabafazi bakho" akukho nto. Banesipho-yiba. Kwaye kule nto-amandla aqinisekileyo. Ukuhlaziya, ukwamkela, ukungayigxeki. Kula mandla kukho ubuchule bokuthatha inqanaba lomntu. Inendawo kunye nendawo yokuzalwa nokukhula kwabantwana. Ewe, ewe-ngokuchanekileyo kubalulekile. Kubukho, ukwamkela, inkxaso kunye nobushushu. Akuthethi, kunjalo, ukuba ndicela yonke into ukuba iyeke yonke into kwaye "i-Zen", kodwa ikwazi ukuyeka kwaye isuse imaski kunye nokubonisa imisebenzi yakho. Kuphela kweli lizwe kukho indawo yokuthatha abanye, kwaye, ndiyacinga, kuphela kweli lizwe likho indawo yokuzalwa nokukhulisa abantwana. Kwaye ewe, ndingathanda ukuba nabantwana bam emva kokuzalwa kwabo okungenani iminyaka embalwa. Nokuba kunjalo kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi kum ukuba ndiye kwi-marathon yengcali.