Ndikhumbula zonke iingxaki kwaye nditsiba idola eyenzekileyo ebomini bam. Ndineminyaka engama-61 - ngenxa yenyani. Ndikhumbula okungagqibekanga ngo-1998. Ke uMvuzo wam wawa izihlandlo ezi-5, ndandikhulelwe umntwana wesithathu, kwaye umyeni wam wayeka umvuzo.
Kwakukho ezinye iingxaki xa, zinikezela kwimincili, sasithenga umatshini ongafunekiyo okanye umatshini wokuhlamba, "ukuze imali ingapheleki." Yintoni eyayinokunyamalala?
Ndikhumbula-kwaye iyahlekisa ukuyifumana ngoku. Ungasiguqula njani ngokulula emhlathini, yenza ukuba uye apho, apho kufuneka khona. Kuphela ngumbuzo-ofuna?
Wayekwintsapho yethu kunye neyona ntlekele imbi kakhulu xa unyana ephulukana nayo yonke imali ekutshintshisweni kwesitokhwe, kwaye sahlala sodwa ngaphandle kwebhedi. Okwalo mzuzu, ukuhlaziywa kobu- hloble obonakalayo kwenzeka. Ukususela ngoku, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba akukho nto imbiza kakhulu kwabathandekayo, impilo kunye nobushushu endlwini.
Ndicinga ukuba ukuba unika umntu ukhetho - imali okanye impilo, kodwa impilo kwifom elungile, ithengiwe, uninzi luza kukhetha impilo. Kwaye kusengqiqweni - kutheni sifuna imali ukuba akukho nto ikholekileyo, akukho mnqweno, kwaye awunakuchitha ungabi nalo ixesha?
Kodwa basoyika amabali ahlekisayo, kwaye iphi ingqondo yethu? Ayisiyiyo kwaye ayikho, kude kube lula kakhulu ukuguqula ibe lumhlambi.
Irina Shabanova
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Ulwazi. Le yinto eyenzeka yindoda yale mihla. Ukubona ngamehlo akho, mamela iindlebe zakho kwaye ube nombono wakho. Kula mazwe kuphela anokubonwa umfanekiso wokwenene kwaye uqonde ukuba ndizifunayo. Ayehlehlikiwe lonke ixesha elithethwayo. Kwaye uqale ngayo. Imali ityale imali kwisitokhwe inokujika ibe luthuli. Ungaphulukana nezinye izixhobo zemali. Kwaye, ngenxa yoko, impilo encomekayo ngakumbi.
Ndicinga ukuba bathengiswa impilo kunye novuyo, ulutsha kunye nokonwaba njengemveliso, ngokuqinisekileyo bayakuthengwa ngamaxesha abuhlungu. Kodwa akukho zimpahla zinjalo, ngelishwa. Okanye mhlawumbi ngethamsanqa? Mhlawumbi obu butyebi abufumaneki kuye wonke umntu? Mhlawumbi lo ngumvuzo ekufuneka uwafanele?
Omnye osisilumko wathi: "Inyathelo elilandelayo lendaleko ngumntu." Kwaye oku ufuna ukwazi kunye noxanduva.
Xa ndichitha icebiso ngezemali, into yokuqala endiyenzayo inceda ukubandakanyeka ebomini. Qala ukubona imisebenzi yenene, kwaye ungadalwanga ziingxaki zomntu. Kwaye ke umntu uphumle, uqala ukubona kwaye uve, qala ukuziqonda.
Andikwazi ukunika iingcebiso ngotyalo-mali kule meko yangoku. Andazi ukuba ufuna ukuthenga iidola. Ndicinga ukuba akukho mntu waziyo. Kukho izimvo ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa ezi zimvo kuphela kunye nethamsanqa elithetha kwizinto zekofu. Andazi, "apho kufuneka baqhube phi, ngubani na oya kudubula." Ndingakunika ubomi bam kunye namava oqeqesho. Imali inikiwe ukuze sonwabe. Apha ndiqinisekile kakhulu. Kwaye yintoni uyolo ngamnye wethu - lo ngumbuzo ongawupheli ngezezimali oza kukuphendula. Kum, le yimpilo. Kweli nqaku lohlahlo-lwabiwo mali, bendihlala ndityala iminyaka eli-15. Kwaye kudala ndifumene izahlulo ezilungileyo. Kukho amaxabiso angenakuvavanywa ngemali. Abanakuthengwa kuthengwa, kodwa banengqondo yokutyala imali.