Ukusondelela iintsuku ezifudumeleyo, kokukhona ngakumbi kumanqaku e-Intanethi, imifanekiso, intengiso malunga nokutyibilika kwexesha. Ehlotyeni kubalulekile ukuba siyitywine, mhle, uqinile. Okubangela umdla kukuba, ngoochwephesha bengqondo ngamanye amaxesha entwasahlobo kolu phawu luba ngaphezulu. Kodwa baya kuhlala. Mhlawumbi kuphela xa ezemidlalo, ukutya kunye nezinye iindlela zelizwe liphela azincedi ukuba zihambele kwinjongo.
Abasetyhini abakutyeba kakhulu ekuzinqeni babengekho rhoqo. Endaweni yoko, bahlala bebuyela kwiikhabhathi ezivela kwisondlo okanye kwindawo yokuzivocavoca. Kodwa iimeko ezimbalwa kwintshukumo yam kusafuneka ibonakalise ngokucacileyo ukuba i-toweight ayisiyongxaki yesondlo, ukuba mingaphi impawu yomzimba, odaliweyo ngumyalezo obalulekileyo.
Ke, imeko yeyokuqala. Ukutyeba kakhulu njengomhlobo osenyongweni. Ibhinqa elihle lixele ukuba akukho ndlela yokutya kunye nokunqwenela kwamnceda ukuba aphulukane nobunzima. Ukugubha kakhulu akumthinteli ukuba akhokele indlela yokuphila esebenzayo, kunye nokucwangcisa ubomi bakho. Ufumanise ukuba uthanda udidi oluthile lwamadoda akhetha iPynes. Nangona kunjalo, watsho ukuba kukho ubungakanani obu-7 ubuncinci ngexesha lobutsha. Ukuhamba ngeefoto zaloo minyaka, wayekhumbula ukuba ngexesha lokuvisisani kwaphela eluthandweni, nangoko. Njengoko besitsho, kuba isigama esilifunayo sifuna isimo kunye nomsebenzi. Kodwa ifakwe kwiifoto ezifileyo apho inoveli yayingeyiyo, kodwa ubunzima bube mncinci. Ejonga imbali yosapho, safikelela kwisigqibo sokuba kula matyala angaqondakaliyo kubunzima obuncinci ngaphandle kokuthanda ikhaya wayenguyise. Kule minyaka, wakhonza, ngoko ke kwakunqabile ekhaya, kwaye lonke utyelelo kwintombazana yakhe yayiyiholide. Ubunzima bakhula ngalo lonke ixesha abantu abaselula bamshiya okanye uTata oshiyekileyo. Ngamanye amagama, sazisa ifomula ekutyeni kakhulu ngumhlobo ongayikiyo.
Elinye icala. Umfazi opheleleyo weminyaka eqolileyo. Uninzi lobomi lwaluhlala kakhulu, lungaqhutywa ngumthwalo kubo. Utshatile, wazala abantwana, waya kwaye wabandakanyeka kwezemidlalo. Akazange abaphazamisene naye. Ngequbuliso, emva kweminyaka engama-30 yokuhlala kumzimba ogudileyo, wathabatha ingxaki yokuphulukana nobunzima. Kukangakanani, iindlela ezifumanekayo esidlangalaleni azisebenzi, ukutya akuniki umphumo okhawulezayo okanye emva kokuphela kukuphelisa, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuzuza ubunzima. Nangona kunjalo, umzabalazo wakhe wobunzima baba nesizathu esahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Wakhankanywa ukuba xa umama wakhe azale, wahamba ngeentsuku ezininzi ngokuzala umntwana - umntwana wawumkhulu kwaye wanamathela. Kwaye kwafuneka ndenze icandelo leKesareya, inkqubo yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo, kwaye intsomi yavela kusapho ukuba "umntwana otyebileyo" waphantse wabulala umama wakhe. Emva kwamashumi embalwa amashumi, umfazi onzulu wakudala waqalisa ukukhalaza malunga neMalaise, encwina, wayediniwe kukuphila. Kwaye intombi yakhe yaqalisa ukunciphisa umzimba, ukuze ingabinzanga i-mama kamama, ingamoyikisi ubomi nezempilo. Iziphumo zale nto zazimangalisa! Umfazi othukayo, wafumana unxibelelwano phakathi komnqweno wakhe wesiquphe wokunciphisa umzimba ngokukhawuleza kunye ne-tie ye-tie yakudala enomama wakhe, wakhathazeka kakhulu kwaye wafumana inkxaso yakhe. Mhlawumbi ubunzima ngoku buya kuhamba, nangona kunjalo, umzimba unokuncedwa ngokutya kunye nokuzivocavoca umzimba.
Elinye icala. Ibhinqa eliselula, endleleni, litshatile. Ubomi bakhe bobuqu bulungiselelwe, waneliseka yiyo. Kodwa ubunzima bomzimba bakhupha umthwalo entliziyweni, umsebenzi wokutya kwakufanele ukuba ucoceke, ngononophelo. Andikwazanga ukuphulukana nobunzima ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa olona phawu lubalulekileyo kule meko lwaluphantse ukungahoyi abathengi ngokwembonakalo. Wayeyi-biber, intaba ekufuphi noogxa bakhe okanye iintombi zakhe. Ubizwa ngokuba "Pyshechka", "ngokulula." Kodwa yayingeyiyo. Abajikelezile babuza ukuba ungaphili kwaye ungazami ukwenza nantoni na ngobunzima. Uye wancuma kwaye wathambisa. Yayingumqhubi ophambili wokusebenzisana nomfazi. Kwimeko yayo, ubunzima kukhuseleko kwiitanki, krwada, izilonda kwidilesi yayo. Kwavela ukuba intetho yakhe yeyona nto ilumkileyo kwaye igudileyo, kunzima ukufumana okungenani ezinye izinto ezigxekayo, ezinamasiko zombini ezibhekiswe kwabanye kwaye zizisongele. Unyango lwayo yayilubizo lwezinto namagama akhe. Nje ukuba bambize ngokuba "ngokulula kakhulu" okutyeba kakhulu. Ukusukela namhlanje kwaqala ukuzinyanga. Kwakufuneka ahambe ngendlela yokucekiseka, etyhala emzimbeni wakhe, kwafuneka afunde ukuveza ezi mvakalelo kwabanye, kunye nokudelela, ukufuna abanye. Ngokuthe ngcembe ukuyeka ukuba uthambile kwaye udibanise unxibelelwano, wazama ngakumbi ngaye, umzimba wakhe, wayeka ukuzisola kwaye waqalisa ukumqeqesha.
Kuwo lo mfazi wayeneqhosha layo elikhethekileyo lokuqonda imisebenzi yomthwalo wayo ogqithileyo. Kunzima ukuyiqonda malunga neengcebiso zokutya eziphakathi. Kwaye ukuba abanye bakho abasebenzi, iingcebiso ngokubanzi abasebenzi, kuthetha ukuba lixesha lokuba uzibuze imibuzo engeyiyo. Kwaye amathuba emibuzo enjalo uninzi. Ngamanye amaxesha koku kufuneka ujonge umzimba wakho njengomhlobo onovelwano kwaye onomdla othi ubambe iintswelo zethu kwaye, ngaphandle kokwanelisa, uqala ukuba ahlukane nobunzima bokusinceda.
Kwaye unokuhlala unceda umzimba ngokokuphumelela ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nesondlo esipheleleyo. Kodwa oku kufanele ukuba kube yindlela yokuphila, hayi isiganeko sexesha elinye egameni lemvisiswano.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin