Akukho la madoda abafazi abakhetha nje ngokunjalo. Ngokutsho kweengcali, i-liyine yethu ibeka ityala ngayo yonke into, efana nabantu abangalunganga. I-Libedo yindlela yethu yokuzonwabisa. Yenziwa ngobuntwana obunzulu, kubandakanya phantsi kwempembelelo yezinto zangaphandle, ezinje ngobudlelwane nabazali. Ukuba ukhule kwindawo yokungakhathali okanye igunya, ukhubekiwe liLizwi, kwaye umntu akazange alubone kuwe, ke, onesimo sengqondo, le yimeko entle yeqabane lakho uya kutshona eqhelekileyo. Ungayilungisa njani imeko?
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Yeka ubudlelwane bobuxoki. Uyakhubeka, ukukopela, gcina umgama, ungafuni ukwakha ubudlelwane, ukutshintsha, ukuthuka, ukuwisa imvakalelo yakho, yonke le nto iwela phantsi kwegama elithi "ubudlelwane bobuxoki". Obu bubudlelwane xa iqabane lakho lifanelekile yonke into, kwaye ujamelene noxinzelelo rhoqo: Ukulila, ukubandezeleka, ukukhathazeka kweentombi, khupha ikhwele kunye nokukrokrela. Kodwa ubudlelwane kunye nomntu othandekayo bungafanele buzive ubunzima, kodwa uvuyo nolonwabo. Ukuba oku akunjalo, ke lixesha lokuba utshintshe into, okokuqala ngaphakathi ngokwakho, kuba oko kungakhululekanga kolu lwalamano.
Igama olwaludinga ubudlelwane bakho. Uphupha ngokudala usapho kwaye uqalise abantwana, kwaye ngesizathu esithile ukuba itsalelekile, kunjalo, le meko ayithandeki kuwe. Kodwa awumshiyanga, uhlale ulinde ummangaliso. Yenza incoko ngesihloko sekamva edibeneyo kwaye uzisa iminqweno yakho ephambili kwiqabane ukuba impendulo uyifumana into esuka kolona chiza "Masilinde", "ngoku sinokugqiba kwelithi Kungakulungeli. Emva kwale ncoko, unezintombini ezinokukhetha kuzo uphuhliso lweziganeko: Thatha into ekuxelele yona iqabane, kwaye uhlale naye ngolangazelelo, okanye ushiye kuba awuzange ulungele. Ngayiphi na imeko, kufuneka wenze isigqibo.
Chaza ukuba awuthandi kwiqabane lakho. Wangena kwinto embi kunye nawe (ebizwa njalo, waphakamisa izwi lakhe, waxoka), uyamnika ngokukhawuleza impendulo engabuyileyo kwaye uthi uyiva ngalo mzuzu. Ungabizi kwaye uyithumele ngokuphendula, kodwa thetha ngawe kwaye umcele ukuba ayenze kwakhona. Ukuba uyakuphulaphula, ke amathuba ukuze ubudlelwane bakho buguqukele ngcono.
Yeka. Akukho sidingo sokutshintsha, hleze ngcono, unciphise ubunzima, amafutha, usebenze ngokungxamisekileyo kwiikhosi zokupheka okanye ukhubazekile njengokuba u-Dud othanda ukuqhuba isidlo sangokuhlwa. Ulonwabo kunye nothando lokuhlawula ongayi kufezekisa ngokuchanekileyo. Uthando alunakufakwa - likhona okanye alikho.
Musa ukoyika ukuvuma ukuba asilothando. Musa ukoyika ukuba nguwe kwaye uhlala wedwa ukuba le ndoda ayisiyiyo yakho ukuba ikwenza rhoqo izikhalazo ongazihlangabezi iingcinga zomntu. Kamsinya nje ukuba uqaphele oko ufuna ngokwenene kwaye ulinde ubudlelwane kunye namadoda, emva koko uya kukuthanda ngento oyiyo, kwaye ayisiyonto ungayibonayo ebomini bakho. Ke yiba ngokwakho, hlonipha wena kunye nemida yakho.