Ngoku awuyi kummangalisa nabani na onobutyebi be-matrimonial. Ukuba ngaphambili, uMfazi, ngakumbi evela emfazini, wayegwetywe ngokungqongqo eluntwini kwaye kumazwe amaninzi ayehlelwa ngokubonakalayo ngokwemigaqo esemthethweni, ngoku isimilo siye sahlulwa kakhulu. Abafazi abaninzi, badiniwe bulwalamano lwemitshato, bahlala benengxaki kwaye bengqubana, bebandakanyeka ecaleni.
UAnna Yasnitskaya uthetha malunga nendlela yokuphila ngonxantathu wothando
Ngamanye amaxesha ezi zinto zingaqhelekanga kwaye zinexesha elinye, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha-ubudlelwane bexesha elide, ezakuzo ngexesha niyajika "umtshato wesibini". Ngesizathu esithile, umntu obhinqileyo akanakusuka kumyeni wabo wasemthethweni - kusenokuba sisidingo sokukhulisa abantwana abaqhelekileyo, kunye nokuziphatha kwezinto okanye ubukho beemvakalelo - azinabantu abaninzi abazithandayo. Ndikunye no "umyeni wesibini", ixhasa ubudlelwane kule meko, esekwe ngakumbi ekubonakaliseni nasemotweni osondeleyo kunye neemvakalelo, ukuqonda kunye nokunxibelelana noluntu.
Kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo, isixa sokungcatsha inyuke nge-50% phakathi kwabasetyhini abatshatileyo kunye nama-60% phakathi kwamadoda atshatileyo. Kwangelo xesha, i-56% yamadoda kunye ne-34% yabasetyhini abathatha isigqibo malunga novuko-ngqiqweni abaqwalaseli umtshato wabo ungaphumelelanga. Ewe, "kwindawo engenanto", oonxantathu abanjalo. Izazinzulu zifumene ubudlelwane obunomdla - amadoda kunye nabasetyhini bexelisa i-orgasm kunye neqabane labo banomdla wokukhangela ngesondo ecaleni. UAlicia Walker, uNjingalwazi weDyunivesithi yaseMissouri, kwincwadi yakhe, encwadini yakhe ebonisa ukuba abafazi babonisa ukuba abasetyhini kwiimeko zabo zitshintsha ngesondo kwaye baphephe uqhawulo-mtshato.
Abasetyhini kwiimeko ezininzi batshintsha ukuze banelise iimfuno zabo zesondo kwaye baphephe uqhawulo-mtshato
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Abathathi-nxaxheba kuphawu baqinisekisa ukuba ukungcatshwa kubanika ithuba kungekuphela nje ukugcina umtshato, kodwa nobuhlobo obulungileyo nendoda yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iinkqubo kunye neemeko xa zisebenza ngesondo xa umntu obhinqileyo unendoda encinci, okanye kufuneka afumane ukonwaba ngokwesondo namadoda ahlukeneyo. Kule meko, sinokuthetha ngokuziphatha kwaso ngokwesini 'sohlobo lwendoda "lobudoda.
Ngequbuliso ngokwaneleyo, kodwa eyona "ilula" kumfazi otshatileyo onokhetho "loTriangle" yimeko adibana nayo nendoda etshatileyo, kuba kule meko omabini amaqela athanda ukugcina iintsapho zazo. Oku kuyasebenza nale meko xa kuphela ubudlelwane besini inxulunyaniswa, kwaye umthandi akayenzi ukuba akhokele ibhinqa oluvela kusapho. Kungatsho ukuba le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokugcina kungekuphela nje kwaye kungabi nolwalamano oluninzi losapho njengoko, ithuthuzelwa yingqondo. Ukuba umfazi uyazi ukuba iqabane lesibini liyayidinga le nto kuphela ngesondo, ivakalelwa kukuba ilunge ngakumbi kunebhinqa elilo lonke ulwalamano olunzulu kunye naye.
Ngokungafaniyo nendoda enokuba "ecaleni" ukuya kwintsapho yesibini neyesithathu, umfazi akasebenzi ngenxa yezizathu zemfanelo. Akunakubakho "abantwana abafihlakeleyo" abavela kwamanye amanye amadoda abangaziwa kwindoda yakhe (ngaphandle kwabantwana abavela kwimitshato yangaphambili ephakanyiselwe kwintsapho katata). Ngenxa yoko, nabuphi na ulwalamano "ecaleni" kuba umfazi unzima ngakumbi kunamntu. Ukubandakanya ngenxa yesidingo sokukhuselwa, okanye ukufihla ubomi bonke ephuma kumyeni wakhe, ukuba umntwana akazigqali ngokubanzi, hayi ngokwenene kuye.
Kwezinye iinkalo, abafazi bahlala bejonga ukuqonda kunye neemvakalelo.
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Kukho enye i-nues-ngokungafaniyo nendoda, engafaniyo ne-Polygamy, uninzi lwabasetyhini lujolise kubudlelwane neqabane elinye. "Unxantathu" banzima ngakumbi kubo, kunokwenzeka ukuba baya kucinga ngamathemba okudala usapho olugcweleyo kunye nomthandi. Oku, kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki zengqondo, ngakumbi ukubahlula nomyeni wakhe kunye nokudalwa kosapho olutsha elinesithandwa akunakwenzeka nasiphi na isizathu.
Zonke ezi zinto zingasentla azithethi ukuba "Uthando lo Triangle" kumfazi ochasene. Kuluntu lwangoku, apho izimvo zobufazi kunye namalungelo alingana nezesondo zinamandla, kwaye ziziva zinemicimbi yakudala kwaye zinyanzelekile ukuba zidlale imithetho yakudala, uninzi lwabasetyhini babonakala ngathi baziva ngokuzola namadoda aliqela. Namhlanje, ibhinqa linethuba lokukhetha ukhululekile ukuba likhululeke (ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga iimfuno zengqondo nezabelana ngesondo) uhlobo lolwalamano nendoda, likulungele ukwamkela ukhetho lwakhe. Zingakumbi iintsapho apho umyeni engachasene nenkosikazi ukuba aye ecaleni okanye amaqabane omabini ngokusemthethweni abe nolunye ulwalamano. Umfazi akasafuneki ukuba abe neentloni kwaye efihlile, unethuba lokuseta imithetho yabo kumdlalo kwaye adlale kubo.