Ngandlel 'ithile ndaya ekuboniseni ijelo elinye lolutsha, kwaye thina kunye ne-Masha kunye ne-mata kunye ne-leroy bancokola ngayo yonke into esehlabathini. Phakathi kwemixholo emininzi esiye yathetha, ndayichola iindlela zabasetyhini kunye namandla obhinqileyo, kwaye esi sihloko sinomdla kakhulu ngaphandle kokukhokela kuphela, kodwa ababukeli abaninzi beTV.
Nditshixiwe kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo yemibuzo kunye nezicelo zokuxela malunga nayo ngakumbi, kwaye kum oko kukuthi, kummangakisayo ukuba kwiminyaka yethu abaninzi abangazange bayive ngayo. Amantombazana olu lwazi kufuneka enze umama, kwaye asinanto yokwazi ngayo, kuba balima njengamadoda ukondla abantwana babo. Athini amandlakazi enkazana apho, akukho mandla okanye ixesha.
Elona binzana libi, thina oboyika iintombi zabo: "Niya kufunda kakubi - niya kuba ngumfazi wasekhaya." Ingqalelelo ngqo okanye isigwebo. Izandi ezivela kumlomo kaMama ziphantse zakoyikisa "njengesela" okanye "i-scoundrel". Ngaba kuyabi ukuba ngumfazi nje wendlu, kwaye kutheni isidima esikhulu somfazi 'sokuba ngugqirha wendlu yakhe' saqala ukoyikisa? Ngapha koko, indlu yindawo apho uvuyo luhlala khona nentuthuzelo, uthando nentuthuzelo. Kukho indoda ebuyile emva kwedabi lemihla ngemihla "lendawo phantsi kwelanga"! Kwaye xa ithe ufika ekhaya, ayifuni kubona i-querrior efanayo namandla amadoda (ebizwa ngokuba ngumfazi). Udinga inkosikazi yakhe, eya kuthi ivule intuthuzelo enkulu kunye nentuthuzelo, iya kuqonda, iyaliva, isondle kwaye ilala ukuze ilale.
Omnye umhlobo wam wamshiya umfazi wakhe kwinkosikazi yakhe, kwaye kumbuzo, oko kungcono, wamxelela ngemehlo avuthayo: " Ke musa ukungxama ukuze uhleke iingcebiso zam, amanenekazi athandekayo. Kuya kufuneka uphathe umyeni wakho ngoMnumzana, kwaye uyamhlonipha. Xa kungekho ntlonipho, kwakungekho nto kuya kwenzeka, uya kwenza ngowonwabanga naye, kwaye ngokwakho.
Ukuba uyindlu yendlu, ngaphandle kwento yokuba yonke into ifanele ukuba yonke into ifanelekile ukuba ilandelwe, kwakuqala konke, kufuneka ihle, inovuyo kwaye izele ngamandla obhinqileyo. La mandla anokuthelekiswa nomqhubi: Kuyacinywa, kwaye i-rumor inqwenela, kwaye uthuli luya kuphola. Ke ngoko, indoda ayinamnqweno woku "kulwa" nomfazi onjalo, ufunge okanye into yokufumanisa.
Yila yonke imiqathango yendoda yakho, kwaye wena uya ungayiboni indlela "yindoda yokwenene", enokubangela yonke!
Ifoto: Marina Grinevich
Umzekelo, xa umyeni ebuya emsebenzini, kubalulekile na ukuhlangabezana ngokuchanekileyo:
-Ukhe wayibona indlela abantwana abanoyolo ngayo xa bevela emsebenzini mama okanye utata? Ukufika kwendoda yakhe ekhaya kuya kugatywa kanye loo nto - ngokunyaniseka nangoncumo. Sukuqonda ukubuya kweqabane lakho njengento efana nento eninzi. Yibani nemihlali ngalo lonke ixesha!
-Ukuba umyeni wangena, hamba uye kuqala, kuphela, makalunge. Oku kubalulekile kuba kwakuqala isibini nothando, kwaye umntwana sisiqhamo sothando lwakho. Ungalibali!
Izindlu etafileni kufuneka ilinde isidlo esimnandi, le yi-axiom. Kuyanqweneleka - ilungiselelwe ngezandla zakho, kwaye ayiyalelwa kwindawo yokutyela okanye i-SEMI-igqibile kwivenkile. Xa umfazi elungiselela, ubeka amandla akhe ababhinqileyo ekutyeni.
-Ungangxami ukumbuza ngezinto. Kwaphela, akunyanzelekanga ukuba uncokole naye, ngelixa yena engafuni ukuthetha nawe. Yiva ukuba imeko yakhe.
Mamela umyeni ngononophelo. Umamele, kwaye ungajongi into oyiphulaphulayo.
"Ukuba uphupha okanye amanqam, musa ukuyiphula, uyabhabha." Ngaphandle koko awuyi kuba kufutshane namaphupha akhe.
Anditsho ukuba ngumfazi ngoku kufuneka enze imini yonke kwaye indoda yakhe (nangona uya kuvuma, akwanele). Ukuba unamandla neminqweno, unokuzibandakanya emsebenzini, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uyathanda. Lowo wayeya kusebenza phi ukuba akazange ahlawule imali. Lo ngumsebenzi apho umfazi anokuzibonakalisa khona, oko kuya kuba nobuchule buqu kuye. Kwaye ufumane imali yimali yamadoda. Yila yonke imiqathango yendoda yakho, kwaye wena uya ungayiboni indlela "yindoda yokwenene", enokubangela yonke! Kodwa ukuze uqale "umfazi wokwenene", kwaye emva koko uza kubamba!
Lonke uthando nemvisiswano.