Ngaba ucinga ukuba kutheni abanye abantu becinga ngemingxunya yekamva, ethi yonke into inikiweyo ngokulula, abanye bazimisele ngokulula, abanye bazibize ngokulahlekileyo abangakhanyisiyo ebomini? Bazigxeka, bafumana imvakalelo engakufanelekeli, kuba ezinye "kungenjalo": ubudenge, ezibuhlungu, akukho seti yezo mpawu ziza kudala Umntu ongaphumelelanga, yonke ishishini ekucingeni.
Kwinqanaba elinye okanye enye, uloyiko lwezinto ezintsha, ukungaqiniseki kwimikhosi yabo kwakufumana ngamnye kuthi, kwanabantu ababonakala ngathi bakuphumelela. Yonke ilungile. Kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukukhusela uluvo lwakho, ucele ubuhlobo, thatha iprojekthi yephupha okanye uxele ngeemvakalelo zakho into yovelwano sisizathu sokuhlaziya isimo sengqondo ngobomi. Kuyavela ukuba ukuze nje ukuzithemba ngumntu, akuyomfuneko ukuba kunyanzelekile ukutshintsha indawo yokuhlala, ukufumana ilifa imali enkulu, yokutshata ngempumelelo isifuba. Konke okudingayo kukutshintsha uluvo lwakho malunga nawe.
Khumbula ifilimu "ubuhle kwintloko iphela" nge-Amy Shumer kwindima ephambili? I-heroine iphumelele umsebenzi kunye nempumelelo yakho, ukukholelwa ukuba ubuhle obumangalisayo. Kwaye waqala ukuziphathela ngokufanelekileyo. Kwaye nangona abantu ababengqongileyo besabona phambi kwabo, wayengakwazi ukubabiza ngokuzithemba kwakhe. Ixesha elingaphezulu, baqala ukuyibona kanye njengoko wayenendawo yakhe. Kwaye iqhawe, i-amy ekupheleni kwefilimu yaba sisityhilelo sokuba eneneni wayefikelele kumnqweno onqwenelekayo ngaphandle kwenguquko yangaphandle yomlingo, evakalelwa ngumtsalane kwaye enomtsalane.
Ukuzithemba kunokungafikeleli kwiimpawu zakho, kodwa kwindlela oyivavanya ngayo
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Sibonisa isakhelo. Kutheni le nto sakha sagqiba kwelokuba isidenge, embi, uBerthalanny kwaye akanakuze adanise? Zikhulisa phi iingcambu zethu? Ugqirha wezengqondo uyakuphikisa ukuba zonke iingxaki zivela ebuntwaneni. Ukuba abazali babedla ngokuthi mahashe abangabamelwane benza into engcono, kwaye babekwiminyaka yakho kwaye bafunda ezintlanu eziphezulu, kwaye ii-Olimpiki ziphumelele, kwaye bavela ngokubhukuda, . Umntwana uya kuziva ngathi ukwinto embi kunabanye, kunye nokoyika ukwenza into, ekwenzeni ukungaphumeleli.
Ndisaphuphe ngephupha lobusuku ndinikela ngoviwo lwemfundo. Esikolweni, iindaba esisebenzisa iikhilomitha ezintathu namhlanje, zandibangela ukuba ndikhathazeke. Ndiye ndancamathela zonke iintlobo zezizathu, ukuze ndingayeki esimdlayo, kuba bendiqinisekile: umnqamlezo andiyi. Yintoni engalunganga? Isizathu sokuba ndihlale kwaye ndihamba nomgama othile-andikwazi ukuqonda. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yayingumntwana oqhelekileyo, osempilweni. Andikhumbuli xa kuyenzeka nini na ukusilela okokuqala, kwaye ndaqala ukuzijonga njengentombazana yokukhubazeka, kodwa bendiyijongwe kakhulu. Kwakhona, iFizruc igalelwe ioyile emlilweni, iqhubeka ngokubukela ubuthathaka bam kunye ne-clumsy. Kodwa kwibanga leshumi elinanye, umbuzo wawuvukile: ndiye kwi-golide, kwaye inkcubeko etyhafileyo yanditsalela phantsi. Kwaye emva koko kwavela ukuba ingxaki ayifanelanga iqanda lemfazwe. Mna nomhlobo wam saqala ukuqhuba kusasa. Sele inyanga kamva, ndibalekela ezi khilomitha ezintathu njengentaka. Uloyiko, i-edoding yayo yayiyifizbek ene-tomatch, engasandiqhubekisi. Ndikhumbula ubuso obumangaliswayo, xa ndipeyintiwe, kodwa ndonwabile ukuba ndibaleke. Okwalo mzuzu, xa usohlula ngokwakho, izinto zakho ezikhoyo zibonakala zivula ivalve ethile, kwaye unamandla okuvuya. "Ndinga!" KwiZiko, sele ndithathe inxaxheba kukhuphiswano, ndikhusela imbeko yeyunivesithi ye-nacval, emva koko umdlalo wawuhlala ukhona ebomini bam.
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Ukungazithembi ngokwabo, abantu badla ngokuziphatha ngamandla kwiziphoso zabo kwaye bangaqapheli impumelelo. Kwaye kuyavela ukuba yonke into ayilunganga kangako. Ukwenzela ukunceda, kuya kufuneka uqale ukubhala iingcinga zakho. Ngaba ucinga ukuba isidenge, kodwa ungayazi njani? Mhlawumbi ixelelwe nguMariya Ivanovna kwisifundo seMathematics? Kodwa hayi kubo bonke ooSfya Kovalevski, ingqondo yakho ibonakaliswa kwenye into, kunye neengxabano ukuba ngokwenene ulumkele okungakumbi? Zeziphi izibakala ezivela ebomini bakho zingakuqinisekisa oku? Kuluncedo ukuthatha iphepha kwaye liwahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlula-nye, kwikholamu enye babhala iimpawu zayo ezintle onokuzingca ngazo, kwelinye-impumelelo yakho kunye nezona ndawo zinokubonisa kuzo izakhono.
Sisoloko sisibeka esichengeni, hayi nokuthatha isigqibo sokuqalisa imeko entsha, le projekthi ikhathazekile ukuba ingabi nalunobuchule. Kodwa xa umqeqeshi waseMelika owaziwayo kwindawo yokuzikhusela uAnthony wabuza ukuba ithini imfihlo yempumelelo, wathi nayiphi na ishishini lihlala liqala ngokufumana iziphumo ezilikhulu. Kwaye kuphela ziinkosi zezakhono kunye namakhuseli ayimfuneko ekufezekiseni ikhule. Uninzi lwethu lufika ngokuthe ngqo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, lutyelele rhoqo iikhosi zoqeqesho eziqhumiseleyo, asikazenzi isigqibo sokubuza kubaphathi malunga nokudluliselwa komsebenzi onoxanduva olunoxanduva kwaye ohlawulelwa kakhulu.
Iluncedo ukulawula "Incoko yakho yangaphakathi", ukulandelela iingcinga ezimbi
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Ungafumana phi ukuzithemba? Kukho imithambo emininzi ezokunceda ukuba le mvakalelo yomlingo. Khumbula umzuzu woloyiso oluphezulu, hlehlise ngengqondo kuyo, yiva imeko yekratshi, i-Euphoria, iyonwabisa, ethi ifumaneke, "zitshonile. Ufumene ke, kuyavela ngoku! Unokuzicamngca. Zininzi iindlela. Hlala eTurkey, phumla, lungisa umva wakho. Khawufane ucinge ukuba ugcoba umqambi wokuzithemba, ugcwalisa yonke i-cage yomzimba wakho ngamandla kunye namandla afunekayo ukwenza umntu okhulelwe. Abanye baqhelisela unyango lwe-ART-khangela indlela esinokujonga ngayo ukuzithemba kwakho. Oku kunokuba yiyo nayiphi na into: Into engaqondakaliyo, isityalo, irhamncwa, isidalwa somlingo, i-Superhero. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba, simjonge, uziva esoyika kunye namathandabuzo ukubuyela umva. Kuluncedo ukulawula "incoko yababini yangaphakathi", ukulandela umkhondo weengcinga ezimbi. Ndibuze umbuzo: Bubuphi ubungqina endinokubazisa ngayo le mvume? Kwaye ndiyaqinisekisa: Ukukhumbula amanye amava amabi, uya kufumanisa ngoko nangoko ukuziphikisa, uya kuqonda kwangoko ukuba akukho sizathu se-alamu eninzi. Into ephambili kukuphucula ingqalelo yakho. Abantu abazithembayo abajongi kwiziphoso zabo kunye nokusilela kwabo. Ayilunganga enye engento. Amava amabi angaba sisiqalo sokuhlengahlengisa imodeli yokuziphatha, tshintsha inkuthazo. Ngokubanzi, nakweyiphi na imeko enzima, zibuze lo mbuzo: "Ndingenze ntoni endaweni yam?"
Thatha ipite evela kwiishelfu!
Sifunde ukungazithembi ngaxeshanye: intetho ebilayo, inkoliso yokuqhuba, ukusika amagxa, ngokungathi uphantsi kobunzima beentshaba zemihla ngemihla kunye neengxaki. Zama ukuba nolwimi lomzimba: Hlikihla umva wakho, cacisa amagxa akho, hamba ngaphaya kwenyathelo, nyusela intloko yakho emhlabeni. Dibana nabantu uncumo olunobuhlobo kunye nempahla eyomeleleyo-uya kuziva ukuba isimo sengqondo sakho siya kutshintsha njani. Kwaye ke ukwazi ukutshintshwa komfanekiso omtsha.
Abantu abanokuzithemba okuphantsi, njengommiselo, ngaphakathi abathandi kwaye abazihloniphi. "Ndizakwenza", "kwaye iphuma kangaka," "Andinakukwazi," "Ewe, ndingakuvuyelwa entlokweni yakho. Ukuba beza, bagxotha. Ungumntu, owodwa wenza indalo kwaye ulungele okona kulungileyo. Makuqale ukuba ungazifumananga i-yacht, inqwelo moya okanye ichiza kwihotele ethandekayo yaseParis, igxile kwinto oyithandayo, hamba i-ice cream, thenga into encinci, thenga into encinci, Kodwa kumnandi-nceda wena yonke imihla.
Basebenza njani abaqeqeshi? Kwiqela eliphumileyo, bafumana irhamncwa ngesiqwengana seswekile. Yonke imihla senza into kwaye sifezekise iziphumo. Isuswe indlu? Wenze ingxelo? Ityikitywe kwindawo yokuzivocavoca? Zidumise kulo mvuzo, kwaye ngumvuzo, kwaye kwangoko! Ingqondo yethu ilungiselelwe ngoko ke ukuba umvuzo awuzanga ngokukhawuleza, akayinxibelelanisi nesiphumo esiphumelelayo. Oko kukuthi, ungayiqonda ingqondo yokuba ukuthengwa kwesinxibo esibi kakhulu kunye nohambo lokuya kwelinye umda lwenzekile kuba usebenze nzima kwaye kunzima, kodwa akukho kuqiniswa kwinqanaba leemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Ke akukho mfuneko yoloyiso, kwaye ayikhuli ngokuzithemba kwethu. Nokuba idlulile iyure, sele kukho umsantsa phakathi kokufezekiswa kwesiphumo kunye nomvuzo ofunyenweyo. Ke kungcono ukumisela kwangaphambili ukuba yeyiphi "injana" oya kuyivuza. Mhlawumbi iya kuba ngumnxeba kumntu wakho othandekayo, iyure yexesha elinikezelweyo, ikofu enetshokholethi - ndide ndincome idilesi.
Zidumise ngayo nayiphi na, nokuba impumelelo kunye nempumelelo kunye nomvuzo, kwaye kwangoko!
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Amagumbi amancinci
Omnye umhlobo wam wayesoyika ukudibana nentombazana. Ngaphezu koko, inobulumko kwaye idlala ngothando kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo, kodwa kwakamsinya nje emva kokuba ifike ezintlanganisweni kubomi benene, isipho sokuthetha sasilahleka. Amaxesha ambalwa o ndoda inamathele kwimihla ekhethiweyo. Ngoku, kwixesha legajethi yaseZasille, akukho lula kuthi ukuvula umntu ongafundanga, kodwa awuyi kwakha ubomi obuqu kwifowuni. Qala ngokuthe ngcembe ukuze wenze abanye. Uncumo kwi-cashier kwivenkile enkulu, tshintsha amabinzana kunye nomlindi kwi-cafe, xoxa ngento nommelwane kule ndawo. Ungaqala uziva ungonwabi othile, kodwa kokukhona, kuya kuba lula.
Ngokubanzi, akukho nto yomeleza ukuzithemba kwethu, njengendlela yokuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela. Umzekelo, ndide ndandazi ukuba ndizakutsala umnxeba. Kwakukho iimvavanyo ezimbalwa ebuntwaneni, kodwa ukusukela emva koko idlulile iminyaka emininzi ... Ndacela abahlobo bam ababeka iifoto zamaphepha kunye nevidiyo kwi-rink. Kodwa yena ngokwakhe wanentloni - ndisoyika ukuba ndijongeka ngokungakhathali kwaye ndihlekise. Kwaye ngoku ubusika obudlulileyo, umntwana womyeni wam, sahamba sahlala apho kunye. Kwavela ukuba bendililize, ndizihlutha olo lonwabo-ukulayisha kumkhenkce. Umzimba thile emva kokukhumbula izakhono ezifunyenweyo, kwaye ndajikeleza kakuhle, andizange ndiwe. Ndiyacinga, ukuba nditsiba neparashute, andizukumothusa nantoni na kobu bomi.
Zama entsha kwaye yandise uluhlu lwezakhono zakho. Into ezonwabisayo enomdla, apho umntu onoyolo novuyo uya kongeza kwaye aqiniseke ngokwakho, kwaye uya kunceda ukutshintshela. Iluncedo ekuqaleni ukugcina idayari, ilungisa uloyiso lwakho oluncinci kunye nezinto eziphunyeziweyo. Kwaye ke ayiyi kuba yinto ebalaseleyo. Imini nganye entsha iqala ngesiqinisekiso esinqwenelekayo, sikuvumela ukuba wenze ngendlela efanelekileyo. Yenza isigqibo malunga neengxaki njengoko zifika kwaye azizami ukuqikelela ikamva (ngakumbi kwimibala emnyama).
Kholelwa ukuba yonke into ilula, khumbula ukuba akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, kwaye umntu uphumelele kwinto enye inokuba yi-bargan kwelinye intsimi. Akukho nto imbi kakhulu kule-andazi into kwaye ungabi nakho. Kubuntwana, sasingazi ukuba sihamba njani size sithethe - safunda okufanayo! Kungokwemvelo ukwenza iimpazamo-xa sisazi, siyaphumla, siyekele ngakumbi thina kunye nabanye kwaye ngenxa yoko sifumana amandla amaninzi. Musa ukuhlala ngamava amandulo. Impazamo-yindlela nje yokubonisa indlela yokwenza okuhle!
Inyathelo lenyathelo lenyathelo:
Kwiveki yokuqala. Iluncedo kakhulu ukugcina idayari. Yonke imihla, bhala ubuncinci izinto ezintathu onombulelo ngazo. Inokuba yiminyhadala encinci yosuku. Ngokuthe ngcembe, uya kubona ukuba enyanisweni unezizathu ezininzi zovuyo. Ngaphambi nje, ngenxa yesizathu esithile ubungaziboni.
Iveki yesibini. Rekhoda iimeko oziva ungaqiniseki kubuchule bakho kwaye uthandabuza. Ucinga ntoni, zithini izizathu zokungaqiniseki okunjalo? Ekupheleni kweveki uyakuqonda ukuba yintoni uloyiko luphambili. Cinga ukuba ungahlangabezana njani nawo, otshintshiweyo.
Iveki yesithathu. Bhala phantsi into oyenzileyo ukoyisa ialam yakho kunye nokoyika. Uziva njani? Nokuba incinci kangakanani amanyathelo akho aya kuba yiyo, kusisiloyiso. Ngokuthe ngcembe siye ngqo kwinjongo yakho. Kwaye musa ukoyika ukwenza impazamo.