Imibono malunga nento esifuna ukuyibona abantwana bethu, uninzi lwethu luzityelele ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwabo. Kwaye, ewe, abantwana bethu bamele ukuba bayalumka, bahle kwaye baphumelele. Masithi abazali babone umntwana abe yintsholongwane yetalente kwaye azame ukulibazisa amalangatye ngandlela zonke. Kwaye umntwana ngokwawo ufuna ukuphuhlisa kule ndlela. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, iziphumo ziya kuphawuleka. Kodwa ngaba luncedo kuzuko lokuqala? Kwaye ngekhe babuthathaka njani abantwana babuntwana?
Eyona ngozi iphambili ilele kubantwana ngendlela eya kwikamva eliqaqambileyo kukulunga kwenjongo. Ewe kunjalo, ijoni elibi elingafuniyo ukuba yi-jikelele, eyona nto iphambili avakalelwa kukuba umntwana avakalelwe kukuba uMama noTata bamthande kwaye baqhelekileyo. Ngaphandle koko, iibhongo zabazali zenza umntwana ukuba afake ukuba ifunwa kuphela ukuba uloyiso kunye neerekhodi. I-Wa-Bank idlalwa: i-champion okanye ingcali. Nangona kunjalo, intshatsheli kwiimeko ezinjalo iba nzima kakhulu.
Khawufane ucinge ngenqanaba lokufunyanwa, ukuba umbuzo usonjululwe: "Yiba okanye ungabi njalo?" Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kwimeko yokoyiswa, kunokwenzeka ukuba uve ukubakho: "Ndacinga ukuba ungunyana wam, kwaye ungumsila wenja!" Uninzi lweetalente ezincinci ziwela kukhuphiswano lwalokwandiswa ngabazali babo, kwaye zazingenalo ixesha lokuqonda, nokuba yimfuneko kubo.
Kwaye ukuba umntwana woyisiwe? Ukukhetha kunokwenzeka nalapha.
Imeko yokuqala: "Ndikhona ngelixa ndiphumelela." Ngale ndlela, iimbaleki okanye ukophula kwelizwi kwimvumi elinokuthi zivuselele uxinzelelo olunemiphumo emibi.
Imeko yesibini : "I-caliph kangangeyure." Umzekelo, ukuphumelela i-Junior Hight yoMhlaba, umntwana ushiya ezemidlalo. Kule meko, ezemidlalo ziyayeka ukubonwa njengeshishini elithandwayo kwaye ijika ngokukodwa njengesixhobo sokuziqinisekisa. Kwelinye icala, iimbaleki eziselula zanelisa esona sihloko siphezulu kudidi lwaminyaka ubudala, kwelinye, ukuphi na ukukhuphisana phakathi kwabantu abadala boyika.
Ityala lesithathu: "Lonke ukhuphiswano ngamava." Mhlawumbi eyona nguqulo ichanekileyo yembono yazo zonke iintlobo zokhuphiswano. Ukuba umntwana ufuna ukucula, ukudanisa okanye ukudlala i-tennis, nokuba akukho mntu ujongayo, kuthetha ukuba uza kuphuculwa kuyo. Ukuthatha inxaxheba okuninzi kukhuphiswano kuya kunela kuphela, kuya kuba yibhonasi emnandi kwimeko yoloyiso okanye ukufundisa ukuba ungahlali woyiswa. Kodwa, kunjalo, kufanele ukuba ukhunjulwe ukuba nakuphi na ukuqala kufuneka kulungiswe.
Izifundo zexesha elidlulileyo
Ngapha koko, iintetho zabantwana ngaphambi kokuba uluntu lube yindawo rhoqo. Bambalwa abasebantwaneni bengafundanga ukuba banesikhumba, bemi kwisitulo. Yimvakalelo evela kuye wonke umntu yayingahlukile: abanye babedidekile kwaye bafuna ukubaleka, abanye abantu ababenenjongo yendalo iphela. Kungenxa yoko le nto umntu waba yi-account, kwaye umntu ungumdlali weqonga. Kwaye abo, nabanye sizidinga ngokwenene, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukungadibani nabo kwiindawo - idrama kwihlombe zerhafu ayizukunikwa. Ngokuchasene nokugwetywa kwabazali, abantwana bawo bafunda iileta zikaTatiana, benza iingoma ze-ZMFISI, apha sineparados esengqiqweni. Ukuba siyithabathela inyaniso ukuba abantwana, ngenxa yobudala, abaziqondi into abayivumayo kwaye bamenzele umonakalo "abantu abadala" abaze zenzeke. Ukuba uyaqonda, akukho ngxaki konke konke. Akukho namnye kubatshutshisi balwa nolwimi lwasemzini, akangengabo, kodwa afumana iimvakalelo ezinamandla?
Enye into egqithileyo
Obuncinci babazali abaninzi babantwana abanesiphiwo kubizwa ngokuba "bangazihluphi ebuntwaneni!" Izandi, inokubonakala ngokuchanekileyo, kodwa ifuna ingcaciso. Umzekelo, ukuba udlala i-cinema ukuba iqale nangaliphi na ixesha, emva koko umsebenzi wemithambo yobugcisa kungcono ukuba ungahlehli. Inkqubo yokukhutshwa kobuntwana ibonakale kakuhle kwifilimu "I-Alvin kunye neChipmunks", kuqala ngumdlalo, ndiyavuya ukuba ndibabhalele eswini kwaye ndidlale inqanaba, kodwa a Umvelisi obawayo uyavela, kwaye abantwana bavela ebukhobokeni. Kungoko ukupheliswa: Ukuqala ukuphuhlisa italente yeChad ukusuka kubudala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina ukwanela, umthwalo onyanzelekileyo ukuba ube nezakhono zayo zomzimba nezengqondo.