Ubudlelwane abulula kangako- awuyazi. Nangona kunjalo, apho eyedwa eyenziwa khona eneengxaki zobomi kwaye uzama ukusombulula, abanye bazenze iingxaki ngokwabo kwaye baphikisane nokuchasana nokuchasana nokuchasa. Ndikhumbula amabinzana aqhelekileyo amantombazana angaze abancede balungiselele ukulingana kubudlelwane beqabane.
"Uhlala unyamalale emsebenzini, kwaye akukho xesha lam!"
Amantombazana afuna izinto ezimbini kwangaxeshanye, ukuze umntu ochitha umntu ngesisa imali kuwo aze ahlale ezinyaweni zakhe njengenja ethembekileyo. Kuphela kobomi bomntu okhulileyo awuyontsomi yefani, apho imali iwela entlokweni yakhe ezulwini. Ukuba intanda yakho ineshishini okanye isebenza ngokuqesha ukuze ifumane ngokwaneleyo ukuba ifumane ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphila, kufuneka angenelwe ekulobeni phantse imini yonke. Umfazi osisilumko uyayiqonda le nto, kuba yonke ixesha lokusebenza lishishini, kwaye alithumeli ikhulu lezithuba kwisithunywa kwiqabane lakhe. Hlonipha ixesha lomnye umntu-ngokuhlwa uya kuba nethuba lokuxoxa ngosuku oludlulileyo kwisidlo sangokuhlwa.
Yiba nenkxaso, hayi iintshaba
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"Ukuba uya kubahlobo ngoku, ndiza kuhamba, kodwa ivela!"
Iindibano ezingapheliyo nabahlobo ngokusela-hayi kuyo yonke into oyilindeleyo kwiqabane ofuna ukulichitha naye ubomi bakho. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi, ingxaki ayikho konke oku: Amantombazana akayivumeli intanda kubahlobo, kodwa ngenxa yeparanoia yabo. Ke kubonakala kubo ukuba kwinkampani yamadoda ngequbuliso kwabahlobo abangaqhelekanga abazaziyo, ngokuqinisekileyo abaya kutshintsha kuye omnye. Baza kunyuka nabo abahlobo bamenzele umfana nxamnye nabo kwaye bamphembelele ukuba abuyele kwindlela yokuphila kaBachelelor. Khumbula: Iqabane lakho ngumntu omdala, hayi inkunzi yegusha, ungakhokelwa, hayi umntwana onokuqiniseka ngento ethile. Musa ukulinganisa indlela yokuziphatha kwabahlobo kunye nokuqhelana kwendoda yakho ekuziphatheni kwakhe, kuba bubuntu obahlukileyo kubo ngokufakelwa kunye nemilinganiselo yayo yokuziphatha.
"Okanye uyatshintsha, okanye ndifumana umntu endim?"
Emva kwebinzana elinje, ubudlelwane bufanele bufike. Nge-blackmail, awusoze wenze umnqweno wendoda ukutshintsha, kodwa uthoze kuphela. Ukudibanisa umntu kubudlelwane njengomntu onyanisekileyo, kufuneka uthathe zonke izinto ezilungileyo nezilingeneyo zeqabane. Ngeekhontrakthi, unokucebisa ukuba kutshintshe imikhwa yasekhaya, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kusilela ukulungisa imilinganiselo yokuziphatha komntu okhulileyo. Kwimeko enjalo, kungcono ukusasaza kwaye ufumane isibini esifanelekileyo kunokulwa ngenjongo engekhoyo kwaye wenze omnye komnye.
"Kodwa eyam yangaphambili yayisebenza ebhedini ..."
Thelekisa iqabane lakhe lokwenyani kunye naloo ntophambili, uvuselela ubumbano kuye kwaye wenze umbono wento engekaphumi kubudlelwane obudlulileyo. Ngalo lonke ixesha ufuna ukuthetha ngento oyithandileyo ebomini obusenyongweni nomntu odlulileyo, bulume ulwimi ngalo mzuzu wemiyalelo yomntu othile. Xela ngcono: "Uyazi, ngendimnandi ukuba uyavuma ukuzama into entsha, umzekelo, ... Enye into, unokuthenga i-toy toy toy yokuphucula ukhuthazo kwaye uyibonise iqabane, okanye umbone iimuvi kubantu abadala ngalo mzuzu ongathanda ukuphinda.
Ubulumko bakho buyanceda ukugcina umnqweno wokuya kwingxabano
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"Ngobomi bakho andikho endaweni yokuqala - andiyithandi"
Awusoze ufike kuqala ebomini beqabane- Endaweni yokuqala kuye, kufanele ukuba abe njalo, kungenxa yexabiso, ephakathi kosapho, ukuziqonda kwaye usasazwa. Ukuba indoda iqinisekisa ukuba uyintsingiselo yobomi bakhe, ngoko ayikaze ifumane nantoni na ebalulekileyo kuyo (kwaye akunakulindeleka ukuba ikwenze). Baxabise amadoda azibophelele kwaye afune iinjongo zabo, kwaye angabuntu abathandanayo oya kukucela uSerenade phantsi kwefestile kwaye akukho nto ngaphandle kwanto. Kungcono ukwenza izenzo kunokusasazeka ngamagama, kulandelwa nantoni na. Kubomi bam, kuya kufuneka ube kwindawo yokuqala-uthando kwaye uzixabise ngokwakho ukuba uhlangabezane nendoda efanayo.