Imfundo ngokwayo iyinkqubo entsonkothileyo, nangona kunjalo, ukukhuliswa komfazi omncinci kufuna ingqalelo ekhethekileyo yabazali ngenxa yesixhobo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunabafana. Uninzi lwabazali luzenza iimpazamo ezinzulu, kwaye azikazi ne. Siza kukuxelela ukuba leliphi na ixesha ekufuneka linike ingqalelo ngakumbi okanye liqwalasele indlela.
Intombazana ayidingi ukupakisha
Oku kusebenza kula mantombazana namakhwenkwe, nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwe "nkosazana" lukhulisa amantombazana, ovela kubuntwana ovela kulo nawo nawuphi na umsebenzi wasekhaya, iingxaki kwaye atyhile ngenyameko yonxibelelwano phakathi kwentombi. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana hula, eqinisekile ukuba abantu abajikelezileyo bayakuthatha isigqibo zonke iingxaki zakhe, ngokwemvelo, inyani leyo iya kujamelana nayo intombazana yabantu abadala, inganyikima ngokuzithemba intombazana. Akukho mfuneko yokuba uvumele ukuphuculwa kwemeko enjalo, kwaye ke ngoko kuyeke ukulimaza kakhulu kunye nokwenza wonke umntu otyhafileyo.
Thanda umntwana, kodwa ungavumeli ufakelo olungalunganga.
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Musa ukukholisa intombazana ukuba yeyona intle
Le nto ilandela ilandelayo yangaphambili. Ewe kunjalo, kuwe, intombi yeyona nto intle kwaye intle, kodwa oogqirha bezengqondo balumkisa - olu luvo kwixa elizayo baya kudibana kubo bonke abantu abaya kuhlangana kumkhondo wentombi yakho. Intombazana engakwaziyo ukuvavanya ubuchule bayo kunye nenkangeleko yayo, umngcipheko wokujongana nothuso olukhulu, unobangela wofakelo lwakho.
Sukuba ngoyena mhlobo ulungileyo wentombi yakho
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ukugcina ubudlelwane bethemba kunye nomntwana kubaluleke kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, abazali, uninzi lwabo luhlala luhleli, hambisa eli nqaku kwaye baqalise ukunxibelelana nentombi yakhe, njengoyena mhlobo ulungileyo. Khumbula ukuba iinkcukacha zakho zangaphambili zinokuxhawula kakhulu i-psyche yentombazana yakho: Ayizukukwazi ukukubona umntu omdala onokunceda, kwaye kwixesha elizayo le ntombazana inokuba neengxaki ezakha iintsapho zabo. Shiya iinkcukacha zamabali akho othando kwiintombi zakho.
Ungatsho: "Uyintombazana!"
Mhlawumbi eyona mpazamo ithandwayo. Ngokuchaza eli binzana, unyanzelisa uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha, kunye nokungenisa izithintelo ekuziphatheni. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuphindeni kwentombazana ephepheni yentombazana: ingaqala ukwamkela umgca wokuziphatha, kuba ekuqondeni kwakhe amakhwenkwe ahluthwa izithintelo. Yenza i-amphunga yesondo, kodwa kwiimpawu zomntwana.