Omnye wabafundi bethu wayezibuza, kufanelekile ukuba babe ngabafazi abaninzi: Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uthembele umntu okufutshane? Ukuthenjwa kubalulekile nakulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye kumfazi ozithemba sisiseko sobudlelwane. Kukwimeko enjalo ukuba aphumle, avule iqabane lakhe. Ukhuseleko yinto eqala umfazi kuqala ilinde umntu wakhe.
"Ndandinencoko ebalulekileyo naye, apho ndatshoyo ukuba andiyi kuxhasa ukunxibelelana naye nokuba yifomathi enobubele. Akavumelani nale nto kwaye wathi ndiyayenza ngelize, kwaye umntu apho kwiindawo ezikujikelezileyo wayefuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba asinxibelelani. Ndilala nombuzo, ngaba kufuneka ndiyithembe? Ngaba ndenze into elungileyo eyaphula ubudlelwane?
Kwaye ngobusuku obunye balala:
Ndisondele kwindlu yam. Ndiyabona ukuba indoda yam ivuse indoda yam isuka kwifestile yomgangatho wesibini wendlu eselumelwaneni. Okokuqala ndiyamangaliswa kwaye andazi, ndisabela okanye hayi. Mama ngesandla kuye ukuphendula. Ndiya endlwini yakhe, ndikhwela umda kwaye ndiyijonge ngefestile. Ifestile ngesiquphe iba ngaphezulu, ukusuka kwisilingi phantsi ukuya emgangathweni, ukuze ibonakale kwenzeka ntoni apho. Uthi unepati, kwaye anikezela ukuya, ndizifumana. Baninzi abantu kwiimaski. Ndiyayiqonda loo nto, kuyacaca ukuba, unetheko lempahla, kwaye ahlala efaneleka ezo ziganeko. Ndivuka ngexesha elinye. Ithetha ntoni le nto?"
Ukulala yinto ethe ngqo engaphikisi yingquzulwano kuphela, kodwa ikwasebenza neminyhadala yemihla ngemihla yemvakalelo yosuku. Sifunda ukuba i-heroine iqhekeza njani ubudlelwane neqabane lakho. Yimfesane esingazazi iinjongo zakhe. Ephupheni, ubona umboniso wezinto ezingena ngaphakathi kwifestile yendlu yakhe. Mhlawumbi, eqonda indlela awayeziphatha ngayo njengemibala, bonisa, unxibelelwano luphantsi kwemaski.
Kwangelo xesha, iphupha le-heroine yethu liyambonisa ukuba lingathi lijonge ubomi bomntu, kodwa akazange athathe inxaxheba ngqo. Ukulala umfanekisela ukuba ugweba ubomi bomnye umntu hayi ngaphakathi, kodwa njengale projekthi "emva kweglasi." Iintlola ngokwayo, endaweni yonxibelelwano ngokuthe ngqo.
Kwi-Gestalt Prepy kukho umbono wokuqikelela. Oku kukwazisa ukungazi kwamaqela ukuya kwelinye. Sibonisa ezinye iipropathi ekunzima ukuthwala. Umzekelo, sithi komnye umntu onobuxoki, ubuxoki, igwala. Nokuba bagatya abantu ababonakala ngathi. Okanye endaweni yoko, kufanelekile ukuba sibabone benjalo.
Masizame ukucinga ukuba imidlalo, i-masquerading, i-suaatricaling ngamaqela aphuphayo angazi nto kwindoda yakhe, nangona edlala naye kumdlalo, endaweni yonxibelelwano lokwenene. Ke, iphupha libonisa kuphela umdlalo wesibini kulwalamano lwabo.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin