Rhoqo, xa sizama ukufumanisa ukuba zeziphi na ubuchule, i-fantasy ibekelwe umda kwiinkcazo zesiko kakhulu. Uyilo lungumculo, iingoma, ukudanisa, ukupeyinta. Ngapha koko, ayinjalo. Amava am abonisa ukuba uninzi lunolwazi olukhulu oluzifilileyo ngaphakathi. Abantu abanezinto ezifihlakeleyo ezifihlakeleyo ezifihlakeleyo ziphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo, zama ukwenza umsebenzi. Kodwa ngaxa lithile banesiphene sengqondo enzima, kuba ngaphakathi 'endingenakukwazi ukufumana ukuphuma.
Ukususela ebuntwaneni, siva kubazali nakwizihlobo eziphezulu ngokubaluleka "komsebenzi" wokwenyani ". Kanye ngelo xesha, umntwana uyayiva ukuba ulilungu legqwetha, okanye i-uqoqosho, okanye injineli uya kuyifumana isonka sakhe. Iingoma kunye nemidaniso - i-freak's ininzi, umculi uya kufunda kuphela emva kokuba umntu efile, kwaye ngokubanzi, nawuphi na umntu odalayo owomileyo, njengomthetho obhinqileyo. Ukufakelwa kokufakwa kukhokelela kwinto yokuba abantu boyika ukuziqonda ngokwahlukileyo
Abantu abanjalo baziva bexakekile, ukuba imeko yangaphandle ayinakukwazi ukwamkela. Kwabanye, abantu abanjalo bathathwa njengongazinzanga ngokweemvakalelo. Ingxaki yabo kukuba bahlukile, kwaye, badlale imithetho engathandekiyo kwaye yenzekile, ayifihlisiyo.
I-Stigma, yabekwa ebuntwaneni, ikhokelela kwinto yokuba i-stereotype yokusilela komntu wokuyila ibekelwe nzulu kwi-subcoonsous.
Ubugcisa bokuyila uluntu ngokuthathela ingqalelo okungagqibekanga
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Ndiza kuthi "hayi", umntu wokudala akasoloko waphunyezwa, endaweni yoko, ngokuchaseneyo. Ewe, iingxaki zakhe aziqondwa ngokupheleleyo, kunzima ukunxibelelana naye.
Le ndoda iyile imvakalelo yokubangela ukuba izenzele ilizwe elingaphakathi, hayi ukuba nesakhono sokulinganisa ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ngenxa yoko, umntu onjalo uqalisa ukuhlala efaka impikiswano noluntu okanye ababathandayo. Ukuba awuyitshintshi imeko ngendlela yexesha elifanelekileyo, emva koko ke yondla ngokwakho kunye nokungaqondani indalo iphela kukhanya.
Izifundo zam ezinxulumene nohlalutyo lwezizathu zokungoneliseki komntu, zeziphi uluntu ezigqala njengezona zinto zingazinzisiyo, zibonisa ukuba esona sizathu senziwa
Umntu ngamnye unendawo yayo eya kubo eyabelwe yona ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe. Ngaphambili, injongo yaqondwa nje kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, injongo yentlalontle njengoMzekelo woBomi, omiselwe wena nosapho kunye nendalo. Namhlanje, ingcinga yenjongo itshintsha kakhulu.
Kumntu, ubuchule bokuqonda ukuba yintoni, kwaye le mithetho iphambili yokusinda kunye nokuseka ubudlelwane bobume kunye nabanye. Umntu odalayo ekungaqinisekini kwakhe ebuhlungu, owayeyidweliswe luluntu, akazi ukuba aqale phi. Abanye baba luhlobo "loMthetho wokuPhumla". Ingxaki yokuxhomekeka ekubeni ukusweleka kwexesha, apho, kutheni kwaye sikhula, njani kwaye sikhule kwaye sithintelwe izicwangciso ezingekho ngqiqweni. Olu qeqesho luphela, kwaye emva kokuba ucango luvaliwe emva komqeqeshi, iziphumo ezilungileyo zomsebenzi onjalo zisasazwa.
Ifomula yokusinda komntu okudala kukuxela amandla ayo
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Ewe kunjalo, uqeqesho lunokuba luncedo, kodwa kuphela xa lunokubonisa indlela yokuqonda injongo yabo.
Ndiza kunika amanye amatyala: Omnye umhlobo wam, egqiba ulondolozo, waqonda ukuba akazokwazi ukwenza kwanele ukwenza umculo. Wayezilinde ixesha elide, wasebenza kangangexesha elithile kwintengiso. Ukungoneliseki, ukungakwazi ukubandakanyeka kubuchule bokuyingela kukhokelele ekuchaseni kwangaphakathi.
Emva kokuhlalutya izizathu zentshutshiso yakhe, sikwazile ukufumana indlela yokuphuma. Namhlanje, isikolo sakhe selizwi lishishini elisebenzayo neliphumelelayo elincedayo ukumilisela amandla akhe kwaye aqinisekise usapho lwayo ngaloo nto ifunekayo.
Ngenxa yoko, ukushwankathela phezulu, kunokuqatshelwa ukuba ifomula yokusinda komntu okudala kukuxela amandla awo. Kwaye umsebenzi we-psychologists yengqondo kukunceda ngexesha lokunikela umntu ngokuzithemba ukuba indawo oya kuyo ayisoloko iqhagamshelwe kuzo ezo ntweni zoluntu aziqhubayo eluntwini.
Ukwakha kunye nokuphuhlisa uphawu lobuqu kuphela kwesisombululo esaneleyo esiya kunceda umntu okudala ukuze silondoloze ubuntu baso, ukuxhathisa loo miceli mngeni apho uluntu oluya kumnika khona.