Mhlawumbi, wonke umntu ebomini bakhe ubuncinci bebekuva ekuqhekeka okanye kwizikrini zeTV malunga "nabantwana abanzima." Iingcali zengqondo zibhala ngazo, iifilimu zifihlakele, apho abantwana babonakala bohlwaywa ngenxa yabantu esibathandayo. Okanye ngaba yonke into ayikho kwaphela?
Uninzi lwabazali lukhalaza kakhulu: "Asinakwenza nantoni na, umntwana unzima kakhulu," akukho sidingo sokuchaza ukuchaza indlela obunzima ngayo ubomi balowo phahla.
Kungaba bantwana, kuyingxaki kakhulu ukufumana unxibelelwano. Bayikhanyele ngokupheleleyo igunya labadala kwaye abaphantsi kwemithetho emiselweyo. Uninzi lwabantu abadala, abazali kunye nootitshala basoloko benikezela ngemithambo kwaye akukho mnqweno wokujongana naye, uhlala nje ukuba aqhubeke nomntwana, uliphulaphule nje.
Kutheni le nto abantwana bekhula "?
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Awudingi ukuba nexhala kakhulu: Ungayifumana indlela yakho nakowuphi na umntu ukuba uyakwazi ukumisela ukuqonda kunye nendlalifa, kwaye wena, uya kubona umntwana wakho ngamehlo ahlukileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, imfundo yomntwana onomlinganiswa onzima oya kufuna imali ebalulekileyo yengqondo neyengqondo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yimfuneko ukunceda ugqirha wengqondo ofanelekileyo. Eyona nto iphambili ekufuneka iqondakalanga abazali ngumntu okwiminyaka yakhe, bazenza ngokwabo.
Kutheni abantwana bekhula "
Ukwenziwa kwengqondo yengqondo kuchaphazela imeko-bume, ngakumbi usapho. Ukuba abazali ababandakanyi ngentlonelo, nayo yonke into ebona umntwana ngokungqongileyo, ezi ziselwandle ezinxilisayo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ubambele ekukhuleni komntu.
Isiseko somntu okhulileyo ubekwe ebuntwaneni ngabazali. Umntwana ufanele avakalelwe kukuba uyamthanda kwaye umkhusela kusapho ukuba kukho imfuneko. Ukubambelela kule khosi-uthando kunye nokuqonda, - uyakuphumelela ukuqonda kwaye ubeke isiqalo sophuhliso lomntwana ohambelana nalo.
Okubangela umdla kukuba, akusoloko "umntwana" onzima "onjalo, mhlawumbi, kunjalo nako konke kunjalo kwimeko yalo yokufumana i-hypective.
Zama ukuvumela okungakumbi
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Bazama ukwazi eli lizwe ngeesampulu zabo, bahlala bephosakele kwaye balindele isohlwayo ukuba ungowokuba ungumzali ongqongqo kakhulu. Zama ukuvumela okungakumbi.
Mhlawumbi kuvakala ngokungaqhelekanga, kodwa cinga: Ngaba kukho ingeniso kwizithintelo zakho? Umntwana wakho mhlawumbi wenze yonke into ngendlela yakhe, kwakufanele ukuba iguqukele kuphela. Zama okungenani kanye ukusombulula oko kudala kuvaliwe, kwaye ujonge iziphumo.
Akukho sidingo sothusa ukuba umntwana aqonde ngokukhawuleza ukuba 'uhlale entanyeni ", endaweni yoko, iya kuyikhuphela ngaphandle imeko xa umntwana ezokwenza into xa umntwana eza kuthulula okuthile.
Impendulo elindelweyo iya kuba ngumnqweno wokuba nexesha lokwenza yonke into ababengenakwenzeka ngaphambili, kude kube luhluzo lwezinto ezenziwayo. Kuya kufuneka ulinde okwethutyana ukuze umntwana aqonde ukuba esi asisosiphumo sokwexeshana sabazali, kunye nokukwazi ukumisela ubudlelwane obutsha, zivulekile ngakumbi, emva koko kuya kuzijika.
Eli linyathelo elinzima elinzima, kuba kukholelwa ukuba imvume ayikhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into elungileyo. Ewe kunjalo, ayikhokeli, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ubize ubume, endaweni yoko, ulawulo olulula lokuziphatha, kodwa umntwana unelungelo lokukhetha umntwana.
Iingcebiso zokusekwa konxibelelwano nomntwana
Kuya kufuneka unxibelelane, ayinamsebenzi phantsi kweziphi iimeko: Nokuba uyahamba okanye uphumle kunye ekhaya. Umntwana kufuneka azive ekhathalele kwaye axhase abazali, kuphela kule meko yakhe iya kuba sempilweni.
Kuya kufuneka unxibelelane nomntwana
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Umele abonakalise imbeko, kwaye oku kunokwenzeka ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye, thetha naye kwaye uzame ukuqonda. Kwinkqubo yonxibelelwano, kufuneka ubonise umntwana ngobubele, oko akuphosakele kwaye kuya kufuneka kwenziwe njani.
Kubazali kubaluleke kakhulu ukusebenzisa iimvakalelo, kodwa ungacingi ukuba uphutyha ngoko nangoko yibhanti: ugonyamelo luvelisa kuphela ubundlobongela. Soloko uzama ukuchaza nomntwana, bonisa izizathu zokungoneliseki kwakho. Indlela elungileyo-nceda.
Kwenye yeemeko ezingathandekiyo, zama ukweyisela umntwana ukuba enze eyakho, ethethelela isikhundla sakho aze achaze ukuba kutheni kuya kuba ngcono ngaye. Kwaye kunjalo, akukho sidingo sokulibala malunga noqeqesho kunye nendlela yosuku, kuba umntwana uza kuzama ukwenze ubuthathaka bakho ngeendlela zonke.