Nawuphi na umama uyazi ukuba umntwana ukhululekile kwaye kulula ukulala kwibhedi yomzali: Ngelixa kukho umntwana, uziva unguMama, ngoko kulula ukufumana iingxaki, ukugula kunye nobusuku.
Kodwa iya kuza nini imini, okanye, ubusuku xa kuxakwe khona umntwana ukuba alale?
Nokuba kwimeko yazo zonke iintlobo zobusuku ezifanayo, iingxaki nezifo?
Ungasabela njani umama wakho xa unyana wakhe abadala bacela ukuba balale naye. Ngaba utata wakho kufuneka asabele isicelo esifanayo sentombi? Vumelana, entlokweni yam, ezona ngcinga zimnyama zivela, kwaye azikho kwako konke ukhathalelo lwabazali.
Ithintelwe uninzi loluntu isihloko se-icest ayilili kangako enyanisweni. Akaxoxwa, kodwa kwimpucuko yanamhlanje, ngelishwa, ixhaphakile. I-incestant ithathelwa ingqalelo ukuba ubudlelwane bezesondo phakathi kwezalamane ezisondeleyo kwisebe lasezantsi okanye elingaphezulu: phakathi kwabantwana nabazali, phakathi kwabantwana kwintsapho enye. Nangona kunjalo, xa wayekwinkcubeko yaseRussia, igama elithi "ukuphanza gadalala" elaziwa eNtshona lalisabakho - oko kukuthi, ukusetyenziswa. Ngokuthe ngqo unxibelelwano ngesondo usenokungabi, kodwa umntu usetyenziselwa iminqweno yabo kwaye uziphathe naye, ngokusekelwe kolu ntso.
Umzekelo, kusapho, apho umama notata bahambe bahambe bahambe omnye komnye, intombi encinci ibuyela kutshaye ngokupheleleyo uyise womfazi wakhe amthandayo. Mhlawumbi akayi kumchukumisa ngomnwe wakhe, kodwa angenise, pamper, ishawari ngezincomo kwaye anyamezele iintsimbi. Ngokubanzi, uziphathe njengomyeni wentombi yakhe. Okanye umama unokuzama unyana weengubo ezintsha, awuyi kulibala ukuvala umnyango kwigumbi lokuhlambela, linda i-boequet ngezandla ezinamandla kunye negxalaba lakho lihlala likhona. Nangona inokujongana nale nto kwindoda yakhe.
Ngendlela, abantwana abakwiintsapho ezinjalo bathanda ukufezekisa kakuhle ukuba ngokunxulumene nabo banxulumana nabo basebenza kakuhle. Akunakulindeleka ukuba inkwenkwe iya kubaxelela abahlobo bakhe ukuba umama wakhe uzicofe isitokhwe kuye, kwaye le ntombazana ayiyi kuthetha iintombi zakhe ukuba utata uyaziyo ubungakanani belinen yakhe. Ngokwenyani qonda ukuba umgama phakathi kwabo nabazali wophule. Kungcono ukuba uthe cwaka ngayo, kuba kungenjalo ungahlaziswa kwaye ungowedwa phakathi kwabahlobo bakho.
I-Psychology ye-Psychology isabela iminyaka eli-9 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala kulutsha oluncinci. Oko kukuthi, umntwana ovuthiweyo ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo, elungiselela ukuqhuma kwe-hormonial kunye nomdla obukhali kwinqanaba lesondo. Ngapha koko, ngokugqibeleleyo abavela kubazali sele bephuhliswa kweli xesha leminyaka: izilangazelelo zalo, imigudu yobomi, izihlobo, utyekelo, imidlalo yabo oyithandayo.
Sele sele ikhoyo ngomda wayo, indawo esondeleyo apho unokuqhubeka khona kwisimemo. Kungenxa yoko le nto nomhlobo omnye edlala kuphela esikolweni, kwaye omnye unokumenywa nasekhaya. Omnye umntu ovela kwizalamane hug, kwaye umntu uyadlula. Kwaye ibhedi yakho yindawo yokuphumla ngokupheleleyo kunye nawe. Xhasa uMntwana wakho ngokusekwa kwezi nkqubo ngumsebenzi wabazali. Kodwa abaninzi abakho ngaphambili oko. Abantwana baba yindlela yokuba baxhaphaza omnye komnye, ukuziphindezela kunye nembonakalo yokungathandi.
Kwenzekile ukuva ukuba umama uya kulala nonyana wakhe, kwaye umyeni wakhe wayenegumbi lokuhlala. Le yinkcazo esesikweni, kodwa enyanisweni yindlela yabazali ukuba bathi omnye komnye balibale omnye komnye. Kwangelo xesha, umama ugxininisa ukuba amadoda akhe ayaqhubeka ethanda kwaye ayifunayo. Kwaye ngamana lo ngunyana wakhe. Ewe, yonke le nto ayinanjongo. Izenzo ezinjalo kunye neenjongo zazo azifane ziqwalaselwe.
Ewe kona, kwiintsapho ezinabantwana abafikisayo kunye nabantwana basezantsikazi, uhlobo olunjalo lokuziphatha kukumka kwabazali kukusondeza kwesondo. Kwaye inqaku apha alikho kwimpazamo yomyeni wakhe okanye umfazi wakhe. Zombini zikhetha uhlobo olunjalo lomgama, ukubhala ukuthanda kwabo iingxaki zokulala ebantwaneni.
Oku kwenzeka rhoqo kwiintsapho ezimangaliswa yintsomi yokuba "bonke ubomi babantwana." Emva koko unokuwavala amehlo akho kwaye "gcina" abantwana abasuka emadodeni baye kwezinye iinkalo zokuhlala kunye ekupheleni kweZiko. Ikwenzeka nakwiintsapho ezikholelwa kwintsomi "Sinobubele." Ke akukho zimfihlo phakathi kwamalungu osapho, kodwa, ukongeza, kunye nemida yakho. Ke ngoko, nganye idlala iindima ezininzi zomntu wonke. Unyana uthatha indawo kaBawo, intombi - mama, njl.
Kufanelekile ukuthi kunzima ukuba abantwana baphazamise le ndlela yokuziphatha. Bona, njengeyona nki ikhonkco elisengozini, qhubeka kwiimfuno zosapho ukuba ligcine ibhalansi ye-shaky phakathi kwabazali. Ukuba unyana kaNyana kunye noMama uya kusindisa usapho kwizikrelemnqa zabazali, ukubheja nokuhlulela, uya kulungelelanisa. Kwaye intombi iya 'ngaphandle "uYise ekukhathazeke umfazi wakhe.
Ke ngoko, abazali abachaphazelekayo ngale ngxaki kufuneka benze isigqibo sokuba bafuna ukusebenzisa abantwana babo ukuze bazinze uzinze ubusuku kusapho? Eyona nto inzima koku ayizukukwazi ukuzifihla emva kweengxoxo zobulungisa ukuba zonke zenziwa kuphela kwiminqweno yabantwana.
Imeko eyenzakalisayo yabantwana abaphumeleleyo iya kuba yimvakalelo engenakwenzeka ngokwazo kunye nemvakalelo yomsebenzi, abaya kuthi banike abazali ubomi babo bonke.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin