Ngokwesiqhelo i-orgasm ibeka umfazi onobunzima bokufumana i-orgasm. Ukuba i-orgasm iza ngokulula kwaye ngokwemvelo, akufuneki ukuba iyingqinile. Xa siphinda inyathelo elinye amaxesha, unxibelelwano oluzinzileyo lwenziwa entlokweni-yonke le nto oomatshini baxhonywa, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha, ezi zenzo ziqhelekile kwaye azilungelelanisi. Ukuba okokuqala ukuxelisa i-orgasm, emva koko kufuneka iinzame, kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha kuya kwenzeka ngokwemvelo. Ngamakhulu amabini kabini, ukuxelisa kuya kwenzeka ngokuzenzekelayo, kodwa i-orgasm yendalo iya kufuna umgudu. Ke abafazi badala umkhwa owenza ubomi sibe sisiphelo.
Ukuba indoda yaphulwe kwingxelo, akaboni ukuba umntu obhinqileyo une-orgasm okanye akunjalo, akanawo amathuba ophuhliso. Oko kukuthi, esi sibini sizenza ngokuphela, kwaye ayilunganga kwaphela.
I-Orgasm ilapha nangona ingeyiyo injongo yesondo, kodwa ibaluleke kakhulu kuyo, kwaye imbi ukuba ayikho kwaphela. Akukho nto imbi ukuba i-orgasm ayikho namhlanje, kodwa ukuba ayicwangciswanga ngoku, ke kwinqanaba le-filsogy alubi.
Kodwa ukuxeliswa kwe-orgasm kukhokelela kwinkanyezi kwinqanaba lolwalamano. Kwelinye icala, umntu obhinqileyo unokukwenza oko, kuba ufuna ukuba indoda ibende, kulungile ukuba kwabonakala kuye ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle, ayithembeki Ukuba akwazi ukujamelana nale meko ukuba ayizise kwenye indawo, ukusombulula lo msebenzi. Kodwa ke ngumbuzo wokuba ukuzithemba: Kolu lwalamano, umfazi onentembelo, ukuba awubeke ngobumnene, akakho.
Ngapha koko, umntu unokuyiqonda le okanye ayiyiqondi ukuba ufuna. Kodwa umntu unokukhetha ukungaqondi. Kufana xa indoda icela umfazi: "Unjani?" Uphendula athi: "Kulungile" kunye namazinyo. Indoda iyayiva le nkozo yamazinyo, ingavakali: Kulungile, kulungile, akukho mntu uyamcela ukuba axoke. Ke ubudlelwane buvela kubudlelwane, ukunganyaniseki, ukunqongophala kwabo, njalo njalo. Ingxaki kukuba iyanda kwaye ayiqondakali ngokupheleleyo, ngaphandle kwayo ukuphuma, kuba xa sele iphindaphinde into enye.
Umfazi uyaphucuka ekuxeliseni i-orgasm, kwaye hayi kwi-orgasm ngokwayo, engekho ngqiqweni.
Ndinokucinga ukuba umfazi ufuna ukubonakala ungento intle ukuba akafuni kuphulukana le ndoda ukuba ufuna ukuzonwabisa kwiingxaki zakhe - kunokuba luluhlu olude lweenjongo. Kodwa kukho esinye isizathu sokuba bambalwa abantu ababonwayo, kodwa isekhona. Umfazi woyika ukuba, ukuba uthe jikelele, uya kuba ne-orgasm nomntu, uyambulela umntu, uya kuxhomekeka kuye. Olu lolunye uhlobo lokuhanjiswa: Ngoku uyilawula le meko, kwaye ke uya kuwunika ulawulo, kuba luyazithemba elikhulu kakhulu, kwaye loyika kakhulu. Kodwa oku kuthetha ukuba weza ngelixesha lobomi, ngexesha lophuhliso, xa kufuneka enze isigqibo ngalo msebenzi, kuba ukho, entembele kakhulu, uphuhliso lomfazi .