Xa ungena kubudlelwane, amantombazana amaninzi alinde inkosana yawo, eza neentyatyambo ezinkulu zentyatyambo kwaye ebakhokelela kwi-cinema aya kuhlala ethandana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuziqhelanisa nemifanekiso: Emva koloyiso lwentliziyo yomfazi, phantse onke amadoda aphumla. Kwaye ngoku, endaweni yesidlo sangokuhlwa kwindawo yokutyela, uya kufumana isidlo sangokuhlwa, ulungiselelwe nguwe. Ngaba uyazi ukuba yintoni umahluko womntu onemodeli yabantwana yokuziphatha kunye nomntu omdala owoneleyo? Ngelixa enye yokuqala iya kuvuthuza iqabane kunye nelicebiso kuye, owesibini uya kuthi ngqo ngokungoneliseki kwakhe kwaye, njengokunqongophala, akugqibezele imikhwa emidala. Ixhasa udidi lwesibini - kwaye yiyo loo nto.
Ukwazi ukuvavanya "ngo" kunye "ne" nxamnye "
Iingcali zengqondo zangaphandle zaseCindy Khazan noFilipu Shares ngasekupheleni 80s zithandwa kakhulu yithiyori yothando, eyayingaphambili ibisetyenziswa kubudlelwane babazali, kwaye kamva bakhule phakathi kobudlelwane babantu abadala. Ngokutsho kwakhe, abantu bahlulahlulwe baba ziindidi ezine: ukuthembeka, ukuxhalaba, ukugxothwa - ukunqanda - ukuvunyelwa kunye nephobic. Uninzi luhlala luhlobo lwesibini luyafunyanwa-abameli balo baya kubanjwa iqabane lokugqibela, nokuba yintoni. Abakwazi ukukhangela intanda, basuse kwiimvakalelo, ukuze bahlole iimpawu zakhe ezintle nezingalunganga. Chitha umthambo olula ukuze uqonde ukuba unengxaki enjalo. Kwiphepha, bhala oonobumba u-A kunye no-B. phantsi kwaye ubhale zonke iimpawu ezingezizo zezalamane ezikhumbula ukusuka ebuntwaneni, kwaye phantsi kweempawu ezintle. Olu vavanyo luhleliwe ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: Ngaphantsi kwe-B-umfanekiso weqabane esilifunayo, kwaye phantsi kwe-a-yintoni esiqhele ukuyifumana. Ukuba umzobo weqabane lakho ulingana nento, emva koko uye wakuxabisa ngokufanelekileyo.
Intloko jonga intanda
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Ukunqongophala kweengxabano
Iingxaki zezibini ezininzi kukuba zombini zize nomfanekiso weqabane ngesiseko sokuzikhethela kwiinyanga zokuqala zokunxibelelana, kwaye emva koko azikwazi ukuyisusa. Ewe, abantu bathanda ukubafundisa phambi komntu oqhelekileyo de baqale ukumthemba - emva koko, zonke iingxaki zengqondo kunye neengxaki zengqondo ziyatyhileka. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi yonke into ibiza kusonjululwa nje, nokuba kuvulekile kwaye inyanisekile kuye nakwabanye, kodwa kukwimisebenzi yabantu abambalwa. Zama ukusombulula le ngxaki ngokwakho okanye ngengqondo ukuze ungabenzi iqabane elinomfanekiso wobuxoki, ngenxa yoko kuya kuba ne-trigger yakho, hayi ngokufanelekileyo ngokufanelekileyo. Okwangoku, zama ukuvavanya ngokwaneleyo umntu othandekayo kwaye ungagcinwa ngamazwi amahle kunye nezimbo zomzimba, kodwa uye engcanjini.
Ukukwazi ukuveza iminqweno yakho
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane bomzali buhlukile kubantu abadala ukuba umntwana usoloko elinde de umzali ayelinde umnqweno wakhe, kwaye abo abadala bayabazisa. Esi sikhundla siphikisane kwaye uninzi aluyi kuqondwa, kodwa licacisiwe ngokwaneleyo. Ngokusekwe kumnqweno wokufumana ezona zinto zibalaseleyo, sinciphisa amathuba kwiqabane elineqabane esingaziqikeleliyo. Ke, umzekelo, endaweni yeengxowa esiyifunayo, iya kuthenga iziqholo ezintsha ezisele zibhale eshalofini-lo mzekelo ucacelwe. Kuyinto yesidlo sakusasa, kuba sele eyaziyo loo nto Isenzo esinjalo siya kusinandiphe. Kodwa isenzo esinye, esenziwe sasoyika ukuba ngaphandle kwesidlo sakusasa uya kuba nomsindo ngaphandle kwesidlo sakusasa kwaye uqalise ukuyisika, incokola ngephethini engenakuthelekiswa nanto yolwalamano lwabazali.
Ukwamkela iintsilelo zeqabane
Abantu banomlo ophakathi kokulindelweyo kunye nenyani ukuba iqabane alihambelani neyona nto ifanelekileyo kwinkangeleko, indlela yokuziphatha, imeko yezinto ezibonakalayo okanye ezinye iimpawu. Ndikhumbula: Unokonwaba nomntu kuphela xa wamkele ngokupheleleyo kwaye uye kwindima yomzali ofuna ukufundisa umntu kwaye umkhombe kwilizwi lakhe. Ungalutshintsha njani ukukhula kweqabane, ngokuchanekileyo ongenakutshintsha uhlobo lomsindo wakhe okanye umnqweno wokufumana imali eyinkunzi. Sukulinda de itshintshe - inokwenzeka ngaphandle komnqweno wasekhaya, kodwa hayi ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yamabango akho. Ewe, uninzi, ingxaki kubudlelwane ayikho konke ngenxa yezitya ezingahlambulukanga kunye neesokisi eziphangaleleyo, kodwa ngenxa yokungoneliseki ngokubanzi ngomntu. Ukuba awonwabanga, ubandakanyiwe nomntu kwaye ujonge uhlobo oludingayo, kodwa ungayenzi ubusuku ngenxa yeminqweno yakho engeyiyo.
Sukuzama ukuphinda uqwalasele iqabane
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Umnqweno wokuLunga
Ukuba awukwazi ukwakha naluphi na ulwalamano olomeleleyo ngobomi bakho, ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ujongane neengxaki zakho. Kungenzeka ukuba indlela yakho yobudlelwane bakho buyiphepha. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukulungele ukwahlukana nomntu kwangoko, njengoko uziva ngathi kukho into engahambanga kakuhle. Le ndlela yokuziphatha inokwanela kuphela xa uqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba leliphi iqabane elijongileyo kwaye alikulungelanga ukunyamezela inyani yokuba umntu ubonakalisile ukuba umntu abonakalise. Omnye umbuzo kukuba ufuna ukwahlula, kodwa awukwazi ukuchaza unobangela - oku kuthetha ukuba woyika uxanduva kunye neemvakalelo ezinamandla, ngokugubungela olindelo olufanelekileyo kwiqabane.