I-Balal, kodwa nangona kunjalo, i-stereotype etyhafileyo entloko yabafazi abaninzi belona xesha libalulekileyo kuvakala ngolu hlobo: "Musa ukuyiqonda indoda kuqala kwiimvakalelo zakho." Le nto imbi kakhulu kukuba iya kusebenzisa kwaye inyamalale. Le ayisiyonkohliso okanye ingenamsebenzi. Ngokubanzi, izizathu ezininzi zokufihla iimvakalelo zakho. Nangona kunjalo, njengalo naluphi na uhlobo lwe-stereotype, luhlobo kuphela lonxibelelwano, olungele ukuba wonke umntu.
I-heroine yeli nqaku yaqala ukuthetha neqabane malunga neemvakalelo zakhe, amaphupha osapho kunye nabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, kwafuneka ajongane neemvakalelo ezihamba nale nyathelo: uloyiko, ulinde isoyikiso, ungakhuselekanga. Veza iimvakalelo zakho ngokungagungqi, ngaphandle kokuqaqamba - le yenye yezona zinto ziyingozi.
Ke, iphupha leqhawe lethu emva kwengxoxo yokuqala kaFrank kunye neqabane lakhe kwisiqingatha sonyaka odlulileyo:
"Ndimoshiwe. Ndigoduka ndibone ukuba ndinomsindo, yonke into ixhaphakile, izinto zixoka macala onke. Ndiyaqonda ukuba bendinamasela, bagqithiswa ngezinto zonke. Ukucinga-kakuhle, apha, olona lungelo lukhulu kwaye luye lona uloyiko lwam lwalufezekiswa ... bawela yonke into kwaye batyhafisa kakhulu ... ndidimazekile. Emva koko ndivula ibhokisi kwaye ndibona ukuba iidola zam bezingathathwanga. Kubonakala ngathi yeyona ibiza kakhulu kwaye icacile. Ndiyaqonda ukuba eyona nto iphambili isekhona kulondolozo. Ndiziva ndilula kwaye nolunye uvuyo luvela ... "
Kuyabonakala ukuba, ubuthongo bayo bungqina buhlaseleleko kwemida yakhe. Amasela okhukulisa yonke into edibanisa ngayo ukhuseleko. Ukongeza kwimali, obu bubutyebi obuphambili abangamasela engaqaphelanga. Mhlawumbi uyaqonda ukuba emva kokuhlasela okunjalo, eyona nto ishiyekileyo ihamba nayo.
Emva kweenyanga ezintandathu, incoko yasenzeka phakathi kwabo, inzulu. Isibini esasibiza amathemba abo, uloyiko, uloyiko. Ebusuku, phantse ukulala okufanayo.
"Ndisekhaya, kwindlu yam endala. Umntu uyahlukana, amanye amasela ... Ndiyaqonda ukuba inqaba yam iphelelwe lixesha ... kunye neqela labantu abangenamakhaya (ngaphandle kwamakhaya) kuzama ukungena kum ... kodwa emva koko azingeni kwipaseji. Ke umntu undilumkisa ukuba baya kuza ebusuku, emva kwe-12, kwaye baya kwenza imali kum. Ummelwane wam undilumkisa ... ndiziva ndingakhululekanga. Ndivakalelwa kukuba ndiphula imida yam ukuba andinayo inqaba ... ngenxa yoko, aba bantu bangenakhaya banesitshixo esivela kwinqaba yam yakudala. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ndifuna inqaba yokutshintsha. Ndiziva ndingakhuselekanga ngobu busuku, njengoko bebuyela kwakhona. Ngapha koko, ndiyaqonda ukuba abayi kwenza ububi obukhulu, kodwa kukho ukungonwabi, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba bandiphangele kwinani elithile. Ndizama ukufumana inqaba, kodwa kusemva kwexesha, iivenkile azisebenzi. Kufuphi akukho mntu uza kundinceda ukuba ndigcine le nqaba ... Iqabane lam livele, kukho into endenzela into, ndiyayibulela. Ngequbuliso ndiqonda ukuba kukho ivenkile yasebusuku kwaye ndinemoto, ndingafika apho, nangona izithuthi azihambi. Ndithenga inqaba, ndilungile, ndimzisela ekhaya, kodwa andikwazi ukufaka ... akukho sikrwwdriver kufutshane nesicaka. Andazi ndithini. Iiyure ezili-12 ezakhayo ... Okokugqibela zange kufike, ndikwisidima esikhanyayo (nangona kungekho loyiko olomeleleyo) malunga nokungazithembi kwimida yam kwaye ndingenakhaya ebusuku ... "
Sibona ukuba iphupha le-heroine laphinda lavuselela ukuhlasela 'kwindlu' yakhe - indawo awayeziva ikhuselekile.
Mhlawumbi, umboniso weemvakalelo yenye yezona nzondo zinamandla zamaphupha ethu. Unxibelelanisa nohlaselo, ubusela
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Veza iimvakalelo zakho, inkcubeko kunye nemfundo kwizithuba ezithile zizinto ezikhoyo. Yonwaba kwaye uzole-kulungile. Yidanile, ububi, boyikisa, buyinto embi. Inkcubeko yakhelwe kumgaqo-siseko "olungileyo", "awunakuba", ngubani othi ", ngubani obeka umqobo konke ngaphandle kokukhetha. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngamnye kuthi ukwiimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ezinye zazo kuya kufuneka zifihle ngenxa ye- "yenkcubeko". Ngendlela, uthando nothando lunokubangelwa kukufihlwa. Ngakumbi xa kunjalo. Okanye uyoyika ukuba ayikho ngokudibeneyo. Ukomisa kuya kunceda ukuphinda kuphinde kwakhona ezi zithintelo kunye nokuveza iimvakalelo.
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UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin