Lo ngumbuzo ngokwenene lo mbuzo.
Wayekho, ukhona kwaye uya kuqhubeka ebukho. Ndicinga ukuba akazange aqhubeke nomfazi ongatshatanga. Nokuba umfazi waba ngumfazi wakhe, akukho mntu ukhuselekileyo kwisisongelo sokubonakala kwenkosikazi. Kwaye kukho abo basesikweni, ngokuchasene noko, indima yomfazi wayo ayihambelani. Izibophelelo ezininzi, izithintelo ezininzi, kungcono ukugcina ukuzimela kwabo.
Ke ngubani onokuba yinzuzo ngakumbi? Ikamva likabani elinomdla?
Masizame ukuyifumana.
Abafazi. Ungatsho nje ukuba abazange baphuphe ngomtshato kwindawo emhlophe, isigwebo sothando sesandla nentliziyo, kunye nabantwana. Nokuba ngoku niyinto ecekeceke kwaye niyinto entle, kwaye iifoto zomtshato zibangela ukuzisola nokudelela, ke ebuntwaneni, enye indlela, ubuyifanekisela umtshato wakho.
Masishiye umsitho ngokwayo, kuba ifihliwe ingaphezulu kwentetho esemthethweni yeofisi yobhaliso. Esi sisiko, utshintsho kwiLizwe elitsha, ziva wena kunye neqabane ecaleni kwakho.
Ibhinqa eliba ngumfazi layo liyayazi ukuba obu budlelwane nethemba. Ngapha koko, ubudlelwane buquka lonke utshintsho ebomini bakhe: ukhathalelo kunye nokuzinikela komnye umntu kunye nabantwana babo ababelana nabo, ugxininiso lokuthabatha ukusondela kunye neentuthuzelo, ukugcina kunye nabantu ababathandayo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kwangelo xesha, uyayazi loo nto ngokubhekisele kuye kukukwanjalo nazo nakwiimbophelelo. Ngoku uyinkathalo yokhathalelo kunye nokukhusela iqabane layo. Kwaye ukuba inokuthenjwa, unokuphumla. Kwaye imfuno yeqabane elinokuthenjwa yenye yezona zisisiseko. Esi sisibuko esikhethekileyo esithusayo, inkxaso iyonke enokuthembela kuzo zonke iimeko zobomi.
Kodwa nasiphi na isivumelwano, ikhontrakthi phakathi kwabantu (kubandakanya imitya yomtshato) ayifezekanga. Iimpazamo azinakuphepheka. Ke ngoko, xa ubudlelwane bupholile, kwaye awufuni ukwenza umsebenzi omkhulu onjalo obizwa ngokuba yi "lusapho", inkohliso yam yeza enkundleni.
Indima yabo ibalulekile kakhulu. Abantu basebenzise imibono yabo kunye nabo, banike inkanuko engathandekiyo, uthando kunye nokukhathalela umfazi akakwazi ukuthatha. Amacala ubudlelwane nabasetyhini basondele kunabafazi babo. Kwakufuneka ndive rhoqo amabali abasetyhini anxibelelana nabo ngamadoda atshatileyo ngamadoda atshatileyo angasondeli nje, kwaye imiphefumlo yekhaya yangoku.
Oku akusoloko ngamathuba, kuba amadoda azama ukuhlawula imbuyekezo kunye neemvakalelo ezinganyangekiyo, amaphupha, iminqweno, utyala ngokwenene kolu budlelwane, ngelixa zikho.
Kwaye, zonke iimpazamo zamadoda zifumana "eyona ncwadi": intle, ikhule, inesisa, kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu - engaphazamisi ukwakha umsebenzi, umzekelo.
Kudala kucacile ukuba abafazi bangqina ngamanye amaqela abalinganiswa kunye nokuziphatha kwabo: Xa abo basengxakini, abaguli, bediniwe, badidekile. Xa ukurhanelwa, uyakhathazeka njengabantwana, uzimisele kwaye uzihoye iimfuno zabathandekayo babo.
Abathandi banelungelo ukunxibelelana nendoda kuphela kumaxesha akhe amangcono. Nangona kunjalo, ixabiso lolwalamano lothando luzinzo. Le yeyona ndlela ifunekayo umfazi wam. Inkosikazi ayikwazi kuphumla ngokupheleleyo kwaye ithembele umntu. Emanciselene enzonzobileni komphefumlo awayaziyo ukuba akanyulanga, omnye komnye. Kwaye kuya kufuneka ajonge indlela yokubuyela umva. Kwaye nokuba ngexesha elithile lonwabile, kwixesha elizayo kuya kufuneka ajonge iindlela zokusinda ngaphandle kwale ndoda. Kwaye inqaku alikho ekuboneleleni ngezinto. Emanzi enzonzobileni womphefumlo, inkosikazi iyazi ukuba akasayi kuhlala naye ngalo lonke uthando nokusondelelana phakathi kwabo.
Ngendlela, ngokweenkcukacha-manani, kuphela iipesenti ezi-5 zokuthanda izibini ezitshatileyo. Zonke ezinye zisekuqaleni okanye zenza inxenye.
Kwaye le nto ubudlelwane bothando bubudlelwane olwakhelwe kwisiseko esibuthathaka. Njengomthetho, bavela xa isibini esitshatileyo sihlangabezana nengxaki. Kwaye ukuze siphile kwaye sizisindise, esi sibini sifumana indlela engazi nto - ukuxhomekeka komnye umntu onesithathu. Umzekelo, ngelixa ibhinqa litshatile kumntwana wakhe, umntwana osanda kuzalwa, indoda iphumeza isidingo sokuqaqamba ecaleni. Ngaphezulu kwe-70 pesenti yeeakhawunti zotshintsho zinokukhulelwa okokuqala kunye nonyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana kusapho. Xa lo mfazi "ekhululwe" ngendoda yakhe kwakhona, imfuneko yokuba unxantathu wothando iba lincinci kakhulu.
Kunyango losapho, ukwakhiwa konxantathu wothando kubizwa ngokuba yi "Stabilizer"-Inkxaso eyongezelelweyo kusapho ukuze ingalami kwaye ingabi ngokunyaniseka, kodwa zisinde.
Enye indima esingakhange siqwalasele ngumfazi waseburhulumenteni. Into phakathi kweyokuqala nakwesibini. Kwelinye icala, yamkelwa njengokuphela kweqabane elithembisayo, kwelinye icala, aliba ngumfazi wakhe. Rhoqo abafazi kule ndibandi bathi imeko kunye nesitampu asizukutshintsha nto. Kodwa kutheni ungayisebenzisi?
Into kukuba abafazi kule ndima baqhubeka nokuphila ngolweyiseko olunzulu ngaye ukuba umfazi wakhe angakufanelanga ukuba le ndoda ayikhethi ipesenti ezili-100 kwaye ilinde ngokulula ukhetho olungcono. Ayikhethwanga ukuba ikwaye kuye kwada kwangamaxesha angcono. Njengoko besitsho, indoda njengetram - emva kwemizuzu eli-15 elandelayo iya kuza. Ngayiphi na imeko, umtshato waseburhulumenteni wenza ukuba ikwazi ukuba namaqabane, ngesazela okanye hayi, ixhase umgama kwaye ugcine omnye komnye kumgama okhuselekileyo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na imeko oyiyo, ekuphela kwento ephakamisa iodolo sisimo sengqondo sokuqonda ngokwakho kunye negalelo lakho kubudlelwane. Kwaye ukuba into ayikufanisi, tshintsha! Kuba akukho mntu uya kuyenza.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin