Amantombazana amnandi, andizukukuondla nge-indonas, ukuxelela ukuba kukho ifomula ethile (okanye ipateni yesenzo), efaka ixesha kwaye ngonaphakade ngaphandle kokukhupha isini esahlukileyo. Hayi! Le fomula, ngelishwa, ayikho, kungenjalo kuya kwanela ukuba ufundisise kwaye ngonaphakade uvale umbuzo ngenkani. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uhlale kwaye ulinde, "uyakuthatha", ngokungafaniyo namanye amantombazana asele equlathe le meko, okanye hayi.
Ewe, ayikho ifomula enjalo, efaka isicelo onokuthi sizikhusele ngokupheleleyo kwiimeko zokutshintsha, kodwa kukho inkqubo ethile enokuthi inciphise ukuvela kwengxaki yale ngxaki, siza kuthetha nawe namhlanje. Ke, qhubeka.
Eyokuqala kwaye eyona nto ilandelayo, yintoni ehambayo ukuba umntu angahambi kuloo mfazi mhle kakhulu, onobuchule okanye otyhafileyo (kuye ezi ndlela zenziwa yindima). Ushiya usuka kurhulumente ukuba ajonge ecaleni kwakho. Ewe, ewe, akufanelekanga ukuba kwemangaliseke, inyaniso enyulu. Indoda iphuma komnye umfazi, uyakushiya, khumbula lo mzuzu. Ukusuka apha kukho zonke iziphumo.
Indoda ingena kwenye, kodwa isuka kurhulumente ukuba ijonge ecaleni kwakho
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Nceda uqaphele, andithethi ngala madoda angafiki kwaye "atshintshe amantombazana njengegloves." Kwimeko enjalo, sele uxhomekeke kuwe, kwaye inyani yokuqalisa iya kwenzeka nakweyiphi na imeko, ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo ebomini bakho. Ke, amantombazana, ukuba indoda yakho ingumntu onobuchule kwaye onoxanduva, ke unokuphembelela imeko ahlangabezana nawe.
Masijongane nendlela yokwenza:
1. Imbonakalo ehleliweyo. Kufuneka iqondwe ukuba amadoda aphambili kumgangatho omkhulu wezinto ezibonakalayo. Okokuqala, bajonga "umfanekiso", imbonakalo yomfazi kwaye kuphela emva koko - kwicandelo langaphakathi. Ke indalo ilungiselelwe. Amantombazana amaninzi acinga ukuba xa ubudlelwane babo butshintshekile kwinqanaba eliphezulu, unokuphumla kwaye ungahambanga ngepeyintikile, ukulibala izinto ezinjengeenkozi, kuba sele sithandwa. Ngaba amantombazana amahle, akunjalo, akasayi kuyeka ukuthanda, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni kule meko? Yonke into ilula, indoda yakho iqala ngokuthe cwaka kwabanye abafazi (ejongeka ngakumbi kunawe), okanye ophulukene nomfazi, kwaye awusayi kuphinda uyiphelise. Ke ngoko, ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uhlale unqweneleka kwindoda yakho, zama ukuba kwithoni kwaye ungazenzi ube nokuzijongela phantsi, ukufihla abantwana, enye into.
Zama ukugcina uthando kubudlelwane
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2. ubufazi. Amantombazana, uphendula ngokwakho kule mibuzo ilandelayo: Ngaba uneemeko ezinjalo xa indoda yakho inikezele ukuba uthathe iingxowa zakho kunye neemveliso zakho, kwaye uyala, wamnika ukuba sikuqonde ntoni? Ngaba uthathe isando kwisando lakho Ngaba ukhe watyhila i-faucet ekhitshini okanye kwigumbi lokuhlambela? Kwaye ngoku cinga kakuhle kwaye undixelele xa wenze yonke le nto, ngaba uziva ngathi yintombi ebuthathaka nentombazana ethambileyo? Akunjalongo noko! Kodwa oku kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba kubudlelwane nendoda, ukubonisa ubutshaba bakho, ukuthamba, ukuthamba, ukuze umntu owuthandayo abe yindoda ecaleni kwakho. Sukuwabonisa onke amandla onokuthi ube ngumfazi onamandla kwaye ungaphakamisa i-10 ukuya kwi-20 kg ngomnwe omncinci. Kungcono ukubonisa ukuba uyindalo ethambileyo, indalo ebuthathaka efuna amandla angamadoda. Masiqonde umfana wakho ukuba awuyi kujongana nalo nawuphi na umsebenzi ofunekayo amandla omzimba, kwaye indoda yakho iya kuyibona intombazana ethambileyo efuna ukuthanda nokukhusela.
3. Ukuzikhusela. Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo, amantombazana awela ngokuthambekileyo eluthandweni kunye nomfana wabo omncinci kwaye aqalise ukuphumelela kuyo, ulibale ngokwabo njengomntu ohlukileyo. Sukwenza oko. Ukuba umntu omnye uyakhula kulwalamano, kwaye okwesibini kukwindawo, kusekwe kungekudala okanye kamva bayakuqhubela phambili ukuba kulungiselelwe ubomi. Ke ngoko, ukuze unganayo le nto, yenzele icandelo lakho ngaphakathi, ukuzalisa kwakho. Indoda yakho imele ukuba ithethe nawe. Qalisa ukufunda iincwadi eziluncedo, ndwendwela iinkomfa, iisemina, ukuqeqeshwa, ukubhalisela i-yoga, ukudanisa okanye umthambo. Ngamanye amagama, yenza ukuba ikwazi ukukhulisa kwaye wenze ubuntu obunomdla kuwe.
Zithathe inxaxheba ngokwakho
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4. Ukwamkelwa komntwana abengowomnye umntu. Ukuba ekuqaleni uqalile ukwakha ubudlelwane nomfana wakho ukuze "uhlengahlengise" kwixesha elizayo, ke le yimpazamo enkulu. "Ukwaphula" indoda njengababuntu, iya kuphumelela. Mvutha ukuba uye kulowo umthandayo njengaye - ewe. Ndivumele ukuba ndizisole ukuba utshatele - ngokuqinisekileyo ewe. Kodwa yenza ukuba ilungelelene yakho - le yinto evela kudidi lwentsomi. Ke ngoko, umntu ufanele ukuba athabathe njengoko kunjalo, okanye angabenaye kwaphela. Akukho wumbi. Ukuba ukhethe ukhetho lokuqala, uyalibala ukuthelekisa umfana wakho nomnye umntu. Yiyeke ukuba "Sika" kwisihlandlo ngasinye (fumana umsebenzi oqhelekileyo, uphosa ubuncinci inkunkuma, awunakukwazi, njl njl.). Endaweni yoko, bonisa indoda yakho njengoko umthanda kwaye ikulungele ukuyixhasa nakweyiphi na imeko. "Inkxaso"-oku akuthethi ukuba ufumane umsebenzi kwimisebenzi emi-3 kwaye ube nosapho lonke ngelixa unexesha elinzima. Khumbula into yesibini, esathetha ngayo ngasentla - "yobufazi"? Ke, "inkxaso", ekholwa kuyo, ekholwa kuyo, ukuba ibe yindalo ebuthathaka nelithambileyo, apho ifuna ukuba "ukoyisa yonke imiqobo.
5. Isithuba somntu. Kukho udidi olufanayo lwabasetyhini abalawula inyathelo ngalinye lendoda (iSMS, iifowuni, ukubekwa esweni, njl njl). Olu hambo luyinxalenye yokuzithemba okuphambili nokungazithembi konyulo lwayo. Kungekudala, indoda yakho idiniwe ngumshicileli wakho kwaye ifuna ukuphefumla ngoncedo oluthile ukusuka kuwe ngentombazana ethembekileyo (okwethutyana okanye ngonaphakade). Ukuze le nto le yenzeki, kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba wonke umntu abe nendawo yakho. Nabuphi na ulwalamano olomeleleyo lusekwe ikakhulu kwintembeko. Ke ngoko, akufuneki ukrokrela umntu othandekayo wakho kwinto ethile, endaweni yoko, makayiqonde into oyithandayo kwaye umthembile.
Intuthuzelo endlwini ibalulekile
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6. Intuthuzelo endlwini. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuza apho, apho umfazi onothando alinde khona, endlwini efudumeleyo efudumeleyo, ngesidlo esishushu emva kwetafile efihlakeleyo. Kwenzeka ntoni ekusebenzeni? Umfana uyeza ekhaya, phambi kwakhe ihleli itshutshiswa, umfazi ocaphukayo, yonke indlu isisasazeke, isidlo sangokuhlwa asikadideki. Udiniwe phantsi etafileni, kwaye ngelo xesha kwakukho iingxaki ezininzi zamabali omfazi wakhe. Yintoni umntu eyenzekayo entloko ngalo mzuzu? Ngalo lonke ixesha esitshabalalisa umnqweno wokubuya ekhaya, kwaye uhlala eqala ukukhangela izizathu zokuhlala emsebenzini. Ngelishwa, ndiyazi uninzi lweentsapho, kwaye lusizi kakhulu. Thina, abafazi, kufuneka sibubulumko obuncinci, zama ukuba soze sixoxe ngeengxaki kwitheyibhile yesidlo sangokuhlwa. Dibana nomntu wakho ngoncumo ebusweni bakho, xelela ngento emnandi. Yibani ngovuyo, ilanga kulo mfanekiso sysy kukuba indoda yakho ifuna ukubuyela ngokukhawuleza ekhaya apho ilungile kwaye ikhululekile.
7. Ukusondela. Amantombazana, ubomi bezesondo kwizibini ezitshatileyo zikwadlala indima ebalulekileyo. Hlala unomdla kwindoda yakho, musa ukwala impahla yangaphantsi entle, yenza yonke into ukuze uzijonge esipilini kwaye ubonile intombazana ekhwazayo kuyo. Andithethi ngayo nayiphi na imigangatho yobuhle, apho kufuneka ube une-90-60-90, ngeenwele ezinde ezinenzekileyo, kunye ne-eyerows egqibeleleyo kunye neliso elibanzi - hayi. Into ephambili kukuba uyithandile. Ke ecaleni kwendoda yakho uya kuziva uqinisekile kwaye wakhululeka. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziva kwaye aya kuxabisa.
La ngamaxesha aphambili, ukujonga ukuba yeyiphi na into onokuyindisa ubudlelwane bakho kwimeko yakho. Ndiyathemba ukuba inqaku lam liluncedo kuwe. Yonwaba!