Ngokusekwe ekuqaleni kwenkulungwane yama-20, i-Gestalt-psychology eJamani yam yaziwa ngenxa yokuba wanceda abantu banceda abantu bajamelane nemicimbi yabo yokuphazamisa. Kwiseshoni kunye nogqirha wezengqondo, abathengi bayazidibanisa uloyiko lwabo neengxaki okwangoku, ukufumana isizathu esiyinyani kwixesha elidlulileyo. Imeko nganye engasonjululwanga sisibeka impatho ngendlela yeemvakalelo ezingalunganga, izimo zengqondo ezimbi nezinye izinto ezithintela ukuhlala sisisityebi kwaye kuvuyise yonke imihla. Iya kuzama ukukunceda ujongane neengxaki kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma kwimeko enzima.
Zibuze imibuzo
Ukuba awunalo ithuba lezezimali lokujika kwi-psychologist, chitha uhlalutyo-le yindlela enye ekufuneka uyisebenzise ngalo lonke ixesha udibana nengxaki. Thatha iphepha kwaye ngaphezulu kwesiko kwaye ngaphezulu kwesiko bhala igama lengxaki yakho, emva koko uzibuze umbuzo "Yeyiphi indlela endibangela ngayo?" Ubhale phantsi yonke into eza engqondweni yakho. Cinga ngesizathu sokuba imvakalelo nganye inxulunyaniswa nalo msitho - jonga iimpendulo kwixesha elidlulileyo, ekukhumbuleni iimeko ezithile. Ukuba akukho nto ingenayo entlokweni, nxibelelana nabazali bakho okanye kubahlobo bakho - baya kukunceda uhlaziye inkumbulo yam. Umzekelo, umntu unokuthintela amanzi, akafihli ukuba uqhume ukuba wangena ebuntwaneni bakhe. Kwisihlalo se-psychotherapist, inkumbulo ivuya yi-hypnosis, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzimele uqinisekise amachaphaza eminyhadala yeziganeko zangaphambili.
Qaphela umthombo wengxaki
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Ibalaselisa i-Prosfs kunye neCLWE
Wonke umntu, ukuba ufuna ukukhula, kufuneka asebenze kubuntu bakhe. Ewe, abantu ababathandayo kufuneka bakuthathe ukuba bafuna ukunxibelelana nawe ngaphandle kwengxabano kunye nomnqweno wokulungisa umntu owakha walungisa umntu obekhe walungisa umntu osele elungisa. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba njengokuba umntu omdala akufuneki asebenze kwiintsilelo zakho - ukuba nobukrakra, uloyiko lokuthembela kubantu, abangalunganga, ukuncwina kunye nezinye izinto. Abantu abonwabileyo ngabangabo abo bangazaziyo iingxaki, kodwa abo baziqondayo. Thatha elinye iphepha kwaye wahlule kwiikholamu ezimbini-kwi-One, bhala iimpawu zakho ezintle, kwenye-negali. Khumbula xa ubonile ukubonakaliswa kwezi mpawu- oku kuya kukunceda unxibelelane nomcimbi kunye nesiphumo sayo. Sikholelwa ukuba kubalulekile ukuba sisebenzele kungekuphela nje ngezimo zengqondo ezimbi, kodwa nazo zithandana, ukuze zinganyanzeli imvakalelo yobuxoki ukuba ubomi bakho bube nothotho lweempazamo kunye nokusilela.
Gqibezela iimeko ezingafanelekanga
Kubalulekile ukuba ungacingi, kodwa nezokwenza. Ukuba, umzekelo, khange uthenge unodoli omnandi ebuntwaneni, uphupha, thatha uzithenge. Oku kuyasebenza kufakelo "kubhetele ndiza kuthenga into kufutshane, kunokuba ndikhonze" - Uvela kwindalo esondeleyo, xa abazali bebingelela iimfuno zabo zabantwana okanye abazukulwana. Nangona kunjalo, intetho apha ayikuphela njenga kuthengi, kodwa nezenzo zokuzibophelela ozibophelelayo. Ungazisola ngokuba bububi uphendule intombi yesikolo, bakhubekisa ummelwane okanye bengathethi kwimiphefumlo enomfana owayesakuba benombala osakhe wabonana nabo kwaye bachaze oko uzivayo. Nokuba ufumana ukungaphumeleli, uya kwazi ukuba uzamile ukwenza into, kwaye uya kulala ngoxolo.
Musa ukuhlala wedwa, cela uluncedo
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Musa ukoyika ukufumana uncedo
Ukusinda kunamava amabi, sonke sithanda ukuvala ngokunxulumene nabanye, sikholelwa ukuba iingxaki zethu ziyafuneka kuthi kuphela. Ewe, mamela umhlobo obukhali obukhali akawuthandi mntu, kodwa ukuxhasa umntu, ongumlinganiswa wakhe ofanelekileyo, mhlawumbi wonke umntu. Biza intombi yakho kwaye undixelele ukuba ulusizi - uya kukuphulaphula kwaye unike icebiso elithembekileyo. Akufuneki uhlale ungumntu onamandla, kwaye ebusuku khankanye kumqamelo: amandla kukwaqonda ingxaki kwaye uvule kwisigqibo sokutshintsha imeko. Sukuzifihla iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ungabi nazintloni- bakwenza ukuba ungubani.