Njengoko bendibhale kwibhlog yangaphambili, ukuzalwa komntwana kwandiguqulela ndangena ecaleni. Yongeza kule qhinga lifumene amanqaku, kwaye ngokubanzi, ukupeyinta umfanekiso. Kodwa bendinezibophelelo, ke ngoko, kwiiveki ezintathu emva kokuzala, ndavela eofisini. Ndingathanda ukuthi, mna, hayi mna noMama omncinci kakhulu siye sancitshiswa eofisini saya eofisini yabasebenzi, kodwa hayi, osifune kakhulu e-ofisini, ebinga i-fully ngesisu sakhe , nokuba iziqithi zibuyile. Akazange abuye, abo babengazi ukuba ndiza kuzala, ndibuze xa ndisithandane, kunokuba ndilahle idrown. Kodwa ubomi babubila, kwaye umsebenzi uqhubeka. Nje ijelo litshintshe umniniyo emva kwentlanganiso yokuqala endayiqondayo ukuba andizukusebenza, kodwa sasilungiselela abantu base-fashoni kwaye bendinezibophelelo kubaxhasi, ndisazisa isikhokelo esitsha emva kwe ipremiyamu, kwaye ingene kulungiselelo. Ubunkokeli abungakholelwa kum, kwaye ndaphinda ndaphela imihla nobusuku eofisini. USereda, wanyamalala iintsuku, nobusuku obunxibe nge-filipper-ngezandla zalo, u-Alexander wayo, yayingazange ilale kwaye yayingazange ihlale kwizibambo zakhe, emva koko kwavela ezinye zeengxaki zaKhe, emva koko kwavela ezinye iingxaki zayo. Kwaye oku ngaphandle kwenyani yokuba sibe ne-nanny. Iinyanga ezintathu zokuqala umntwana akazange alale ebusuku, kuphela ezandleni, kwaye ukusuka kumva wam, njengoko bendicinga umama. Ndisoloko ndinekratshi ukuba unyana wam olide ulala kusuku lokuqala ebhedini yakhe kwaye akazange abe nemfuneko yokumtsalela ezingalweni zakhe okanye amme amaxesha ama-10 ebusuku. Ndasasaza icebiso kubahlobo bam, indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba ndilale ndedwa, ndabhala intloko yam, ndabhala ukuba omnye umama wanikezela kwaye wabeka umntwana wam phantsi kwecala lebhedi, ngenxa yoko lalingafanelekanga Ilungele inyani yokuba umntwana wam uya kuba ngumntwana obelana ngazo zonke iingcinga zam malunga nendlela yokukhulisa abantwana kwi-Fluff nothuli.
Ukuqala ukusuka ngentsimbi yesibhozo ngokuhlwa, waqalisa ukulila, kwaye sayinxiba ezingalweni zakhe, ke sayityalela, salala ubuthongo obungenakuphela. Kufanelekile ukuzama ukuyibeka okanye ubuncinci uhlala phantsi, wavula kwangoko amehlo akhe kuqala, kwaye emva koko wapapasha "owupapashiweyo" waza waqalisa ukujikeleza kwigumbi. Emva kwenyanga kamva, izinto ezingxamisekileyo zafunyanwa e-Arizona, okanye eWashington, kwaye wayemka evekini, njengoko ndikrokrela, ndilale nje. Sahlala kunye ne-nanny kunye kwaye uFilipu wasithetha ngaye. Emva kwexesha ndaye ndayeka, ndahlala ngokuqinileyo ebhedini yam, apho ndalala khona ukuba ndidlule, ndivuka ndizokutya. Andazi ukuba kwenzeka njani ukuba uphendule ngale nto, kodwa waya kuhlala khona ixesha elide kwaye kude kube yiminyaka emine, bekungakwazi ukuyichaza. Ixesha elide, watya ebusuku watya, emva koko wasela, kwaye emva koko wonwabe ngohlobo lwemibuzo phakathi kobusuku "Mama, ulapha?" Okanye "Mama, ndingandinge." Kwiminyaka emi-4 ubudala, umyeni akamvungeni. Hayi, hayi kwigumbi elahlukileyo, kodwa ubuncinci kwibhedi eyahlukileyo. Njengoko kwenzeke - isihloko esahlukileyo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ndiza kuxela ngayo, ukupheliswa kokugqibela kwi-Philipper yam yenzekile kwi-Philipper entle-nye kuphela kwiminyaka emi-6 enesiqingatha kuphela. Apha ngendiya kuthi "Musa ukuphinda iimpazamo zam", kodwa, kodwa, ukuba ngokunyaniseka, andiyi kuba yingqondo, kuba ndimyeka umntwana ukuba akhwaze.
Ewe, ndaphinda ndasebenza umama: Ukuza kwikhaya langokuhlwa, ndaliphulaphula loo nto "noFilipu Namhlanje ndafunda ukuyigcina intloko," ojikayo "wakhe, kwaye wafunda ukuphakama kwizibambo." Ngonyana olizibulo, andizange ndikhethe "musa ukusebenzela" okanye ubuncinci uye kummiselo, ukuzalwa konyana kuyakhawuleza ukusinda, kodwa ke kwakuyimfuneko ukuba uphile, kodwa kwimeko kaPhilip yonke into yayihlukile . Ndandiqonda ukuba andizukundivumela ukuba ndiye nakweyiphi na imimiselo kwaye yonke imihla endandisomelela ngayo ukuba isigqibo sokuya emva kwebhaso lelona liyinyaniso.
Kwaye emva koko ku-Epreli. NJENGOKO ZONKE IZIMVOZO ZIYAWULA, Esona siganeko sibonakale ngokucacileyo loo nyaka kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngenkqubela phambili. Ndisaqhayisa ngeqela lam, nam nomsebenzi. Imvakalelo exubeneyo kakhulu yayindim ngokuhlwa, ndaqonda ukuba le yeyona nto intle ndiyenzileyo, kodwa le yeyokugqibela. Imvakalelo yokuziva. Ndaye ndancuma ngasekunene nangasekhohlo, ndithumela iikhamera, ndijonga zonke iinkwenkwezi, iintatheli kunye nabahlobo, ndicinga ukuba zingaphi zazo ezaziya kunyamalala xa ziyeza nini. Ndahamba ngesigqibo sam kuphela kwiqela lam. Ukubaleka phambili kuya kuthi oko ubuncinci bendikulungele ukuba ifowuni yam iza kuthatha iifowuni ezingenayo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo bendingakulungelanga ukuba ungabi nawo umnxeba. Kukwalungile kangangokuba ukutyhubela iminyaka emininzi endiyenzakalisa izixhobo, ndibhala into yokwenzakalisa kwaye ndiphantse kube nzima ukukhubeka. Kwaye ndabethwa yinto abantu endiba nayo malunga nodidi lwabahlobo abalahlekileyo. Ndilindele oku kwi-Celabritis nakwintatheli intatheli, ngenxa yokuba kwakungekho buhlobo apho, kwaye kwakufuneka sifuneke, kodwa sikufumane phantsi kwabahlobo bakho besimangalisa. Kodwa ndaqonda ukuba kakhulu ngexesha lomsebenzi wam ndenza ngokuchanekileyo, kuba ndigcine ubudlelwane obuhle ndinentatheli abaninzi, iifoto kunye nabameli bobomi behlabathi, kodwa ubudlelwane obulungileyo kunye nobuhlobo obusenyongweni abuphezulu. Kodwa ngokuhlwa, ndandingazi oku okwangoku kwaye ndinandiphe nje usuku lokugqibela lomsebenzi.
Ngemini elandelayo ndazisa ingxelo malunga nononophelo. Ubunkokeli abukholwa, wagqiba kwelokuba ndilitatatile, kodwa bendifuna ukuphila ubomi bam. Ukuze ube ngumama kwaye ufumanise ukuba umntwana wam ukhulisa njani ukuba angavumeli i-nanny elungileyo ehlabathini, kodwa oyena mntu. Ndiphulukene neenyanga ezine zobomi bakhe abancinci, ngenxa yoko ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndineminyaka embalwa ndinelungelo lokuzama ukuba ngumfazi wam kuphela kunye nomama.
Asikhange sithathe ezinye izigqibo zelizwe liphela. Sigqibe kwelokuba ihlobo liza kuchitha eRhodes, emva koko lithathe isigqibo sokuba ihambe phi. Ke ngoko, ngaphandle kokucinga ngaphandle kokucinga, ukuqokelela abantwana kunye nokupakisha isutikheyisi, thina, njengeentaka ezifudukayo, ezisemzantsi. Kunzima ukuthi, ndiza kuyenza kwakhona ngoku, kuba andizange ndiyazi ukuba ndisuka eMoscow ukuba kungenjalo, kwaoko ixesha elide. Andikaze ndizisole ngento yokushiya umsebenzi wakho, hayi malunga nokuhamba, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayifanelekanga ukuba ibukhali yonke into ebukhali ebomini bam. Ndikhutshiwe kubomi bam bangaphambili kunye nabahlobo bokwenene, impazamo yesiqhelo kunye nezinye izinto. Ekuqaleni bekumnandi. Njengokuza kwayo xa ufika kwindawo ekuchithe kuyo, kwaye yonke into iyayithethelela: izulu eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, ulwandle, neentyatyambo kunye nokungakhathali. Ke, xa ufika kwelinye inkcubeko ayisekho xa ubakhenkethi, kodwa njengomntu lowo ekufuneka eyivume kwaye abe yinxalenye yayo, ke ubunzima buqala.
IGrisi, bendihlala ndikuthanda kwaye ndiyathanda kude kube ngoku, kodwa ngaphambi kokunyulwa, andikwazanga ukuhlala kwiziqithi ngaphezulu kweeveki ezimbini, ndicinge kakhulu ukuba zilindelwe yintoni. Kwaye bendilinde izimanga ezininzi. Ngokuthe ngcembe, ndafunda amasiko asekuhlaleni, uninzi lwabo bandimangalisa, abanye bakhathazeka, kwaye banomsindo. Umzekelo, umzekelo, umnqweno waphakade wamaGrike chukumisa umntwana kwaye ubethelele kuye kwiliso elingendawo. UPhilip wakukhalela ngalo lonke ixesha lendla elingazibumbekileyo, wambamba kumtya. Ekowukweni umntu, inkwenkwe yayimangalisa, "abazali abaqhelekileyo bomyeni wam watsho. Abazali bakaYani ngokwabo babantu abaqhubela phambili kakhulu ababephila ubomi babo uninzi lobomi babo eMelika, ngoko bahleka, bajonga ubuso bam obumangalisayo. Kodwa ndabandezeleka kwaye ndavukela kube kanye, xa ndaxelelwa ukuba kufuneka ucoce umntwana kwiidemon ezizama ukuwuba umphefumlo wakhe. Inkqubo yokucoca sele iqalile, abanye abafazi abadala beza kwiingubo ezimnyama kwaye baqalisa ukubhaptizwa, babhale ecaleni likaFilipu kwaye bazame ukumbamba ezandleni zakhe. Ndiphakame nodonga phakathi kwabo, walila ngokukhala kwabantu abangaqhelekanga, kwaye babona ukuba yonke into ihamba njengoko injalo iidemon ziyahamba Ekugqibeleni. Ndaye ndatsho ukuba ngoku le vakahanalia ayimiswanga, ndibhabhe ndisiya eMoscow kuqala, ndabiza uJani, owayekuhambo lokushishina, kwaye ndibandezeleka. I-Yani yabhadula kwifowuni kwaye yathi ukuba inganikeli ingqalelo. Abafazi abadala, badanile ngokucacileyo ukuba yonke into ihamba needemon, bakhawuleza bathuthuzela xa ndaya kwi-pizza kunye neti. Iti, kwagqitywa ekubeni kungabikho zidemon, kwaye nje kwinkwenkwe inqunyulwe kwaye iintsini kufuneka zithathwe kuye. Kwaye i-Uzo luhlobo lwe-nyaine yeGrappa kunye nokongezwa kwe-ANASA. Kuphela ndizolile, kanjalo ndaphinda ndayoyika ukuba xa ndijika, uFilipu wakhawuleza waliva iintsini ze-Uzny, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuchaphazela ubomi bakhe obuzayo. EGrisi, ngandlela, ngokufuthi njengabantwana kunye nokuthoba, banikwa isonka, buthathaka kancinci kwi-Uzo, okanye iintsini. Nditsho i-Island Greece, kwikomkhulu, kunjalo, kungekho mntu ucalucalulo. Inkxaso yoku ukuba umntwana uhlala ezama ukwenza izinto emlonyeni nakuphi na ukutya okuvela kwi-baklava emnandi, ejonga into yokuba usemxubeni kwaye uqalise kuphela ukubambelela kwi-zucchini kuphela sisidenge kuphela Ucalucalulo, uya kuqonda ukuba bendihlala ndigadwa kwaye andinalo ixesha lokucinga malunga nokuba ubutshintshe njani ubomi bam.