Omnye wabafundi bethu babelana ngobuthongo obangela umdla. Uphuphe ngeli phupha ngexesha lokuqalisa umntu ukuba anyamekele iimvakalelo zakhe.
Mayitshilo apha ekukhetheni iqabane esikhokela amava amaninzi: kwaye imfuneko yothando kunye nokusondela, kunye nomnqweno oza kuthi: "Ndiyaphila, ndinomlingani osisigxina." Kwaye lo mnqweno unokucinezela ezinye iimpembelelo zethu kungekudala njengabagqatswa abafanelekileyo kuzo zonke iiparamitha, kubonakala ngathi ukuba kunjalo! Kwaye ezinye iimpembelelo zomphefumlo kunye nomzimba zinokukhokelela kwigama lethagethi enkulu. Nangona kunjalo, ngamaphupha, indlela esiphendula ngayo ngokwenyani kwiziganeko okanye abantu esikwele kuthi. Nanku umzekelo obonakalayo.
"Indoda iyandikhathalela. Ndiyithandile yonke into kuye-imbonakalo, umlinganiswa, ukuhlekisa. Ngayo yonke le nto, uzimisele kwaye ufuna ubudlelwane obunokukhokelela emtshatweni. Ukhuselwe, ulumkile kakhulu. Ngokubanzi, ndihlala ndinamathela kum, kwaye oku kukhangelwe. Kodwa ngokudanisa nokanga lokuqala - xa wayengathi, bendinengxaki yokucekiseka kwaye umnqweno wokuyeka ukwanga, andiyithandi imvakalelo yokuqabula. Kwangelo xesha, akuzange kunuka engathandekiyo kuye, akatshayi, ngoko ayisiyo. Kwaye, enyanisweni, andizange ndisiqonde ukuba kutheni. Kuzo zonke ezinye, ndiyayithanda. Kodwa yayikukwahluka ngokwasemzimbeni kunyanzelekile. Kwaye le meko inexhala kakhulu. Ngaphambi kokuncancisa kwam. Ngoku ndiyaqonda ukuba ndingayithatha njengomhlobo. Ndacinga ukuba kuqala ukuba kuya kudlula, mhlawumbi kungangcono, kodwa ukuqabula kwakungathandeki. Ndiziva ndikhathazekile kwaye andiqondi ukuba? Ngabo bonke abanye, ndiyithanda kakhulu, kwaye eyona nto iphambili, ufuna usapho kwaye linokubonelela. "
Ngosuku lokuncancisa ngokungathandekiyo kwi-heroine yethu, iphupha laliphupha.
"Ndima phambi komnyango we-balcony, ndibona ucango lweglasi ukuba umhlobo wam uthoba esitratweni - uyayigcuma kwaye ngovuyo kwi-balcony. Kwi-Balcony kukho ucingo oluhle olufanelekileyo, lo ngumgangatho wokuqala. Umhlobo umi kwaye ndilinde mna. Nditsho ndincancisa esidleleni. Apha ijika ibe yinja-i-recriever yegolide. Ndiyaqala ukuyibetha. Emva koko uguqukela kwi-swan. Ndibona ichibi phambi kwendlu, sisiqingatha secala. Ndisami kwi-balcony, kusekho amadoda amabini angaziwayo kum ukuba athi: "Makabi yinja kwakhona, njengentloko encinci, ngenxa yoko akasayi kuphinda aphile . " Ndijonge i-swan kwaye ndiqinisekise - banyanisile, kuya kuba ngcono ukuba yinja kwakhona. Uguqukela kwakhona, kwaye ngalo mzuzu, ndivuka. "
Ukuba udibanisa ukulala kunye nesiganeko esilandelayo, ke iqhawe lethu elisileyo lazi ukuba iqabane alimlinganisi: Ungumntu olona lungelo luphezulu - oluhle kwaye aluyifanelanga. I-metamorphosis yomhlobo wakhe kwiphupha lithetha nje ngalo. Kodwa eneneni yenza ukuba inzame ezimbalwa zokuhlengahlengisa inyani kwimisebenzi yabo, kuba usapho lwentsapho lufuna. " Umzimba mayithethe ngokuchaseneyo, vumela ukuphatha kunye nokuncancisa kubangele ukwaliwa-kugcinwa okungakumbi kokugwetywa kwayo. Umzekelo, "Kuya kufuneka ndibenentsapho, kwaye le ndoda ifuna ukudala nam." Kulungile ukuba amaphupha ethu ekugqibeleni akazange azityumze ngeebhokisi ezintathu kwaye azifumane umntu owona mzuzu ubuninzi bayo omnye komnye. Kodwa ityala lakhe alinqabile. Abafazi abakhokelwa ziinkolelo zabo bahlengahlengiswa phantsi kwamaqabane abohlukeneyo egameni lento "yexabiso" njengentsapho. Ndiyithatha intelekelelo kwiikowuti ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba kule meko sithetha ngeenkolelo, i-stereotypes kunamava obuqu. Ngcwele ukukholelwa kwistereotypes kunye nemilinganiselo yoluntu, abaninzi bahlala nabayeni babo abababetha, okanye basele, okanye batshintshe. Ukukholelwa kwimeko yakhe kuyatyhala ukuvala amehlo kwizibakala ezibonakalayo, ukukhohlisa kunye nokuthuthumbisa umzimba wabo, ukumnyanzela ukuba athobele iinjongo eziphezulu.
Kodwa ukulala lilungelo lethu lobukhosi kulwazi lwenyani. Inyaniso yethu, enokuzama ukuzifihla okanye, endaweni yakhe, yazi kwaye iphila ngokuhambelana nayo.
Ngethamsanqa ephupheni lethu!
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin