Okubangela umdla kukuba, phantse wonke umzali ukuqiniseka ukuba iyazisa ngokuchane kakuhle umntwana. Nokuba umntwana uziphatha kakubi kwaye akamameli, oomamma nootata baqinisekile ukuba indalo esingqongileyo / isikolo inetyala-kungenjalo. Ngeyona mifanekiso mihle incinci, abantu abadala ngamanye amaxesha baphuma ngokwabo, bahlala besebenzisa amandla omzimba. Ngokwemvelo, umntwana okwimeko enjalo akasayi kukhulisa ilungu elinetyala elipheleleyo loluntu. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana usafuna ukuchaza ukuba ngamanye amaxesha akalunganga. Ke uthini? Masiyibone kunye.
Abantwana baya kwazi umhlaba kwaye abafuni ukutshabalalisa
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Akukho sidingo ukohlwaya umntwana uthanda nje oko
Ngokwesiqhelo, abantwana baya kwazi ihlabathi kwaye lenze njalo ayilunganga: ngamanye amaxesha ukwaphula indawo yabanye abantu okanye ukwaphula izinto. Ayifanelanga ukuba isitshixo sokutyhala umntwana ngokubonisa umdla. Mcacisele ukuba yintoni engalunganga, kwaye kwixesha elizayo uya kucinga ngaphambi kokwenza into. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana unokukhulisa ukungakhuseleki. Kuyimfuneko ukukhuthaza umsebenzi kunye nomdla kwihlabathi liphela.
Diza iingcinga "zokunikezela" kunye "Qaphela"
Kubaluleke kakhulu apha ukuba uza kufika ngokufanelekileyo ngumntu omdala. Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi "Mhlawumbi udlala kwenye indawo?" Kwaye "musa ukudlala endleleni." Kwimeko yesibini, ukhuthaza umntwana ukuba acinge ngokhuseleko kwaye angaphulukani nentloko. Kuphela ukuba uyayikhupha imiyalelo yakho kuphela, kuyafuneka ukuba usebenzise isivakalisi, kodwa kuphela, ngaphandle kokukhwaza uyilo lwencwadana yemigaqo.
Sukukhathazeka kakhulu
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Akukho sidingo inzima
Uninzi lwabantu abadala kufuneka lulawulwe ngumntu wonke, ingakumbi abantwana babo. Abazali bahlala benyanzelisa umntwana kulindelo, kodwa kunqabile ukuba amadini awo akhutshwe enyanisweni. Oku kukhokelela kulwalutya olunganyanisekanga kumzali. Umntwana uqalisa amalahle kwaye ecacisa ithambeka. Cinga ngendlela i-psyche engazinzanga ingasabela ngayo kwi ntetho yakho. Awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho avuke ngumntu ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokuthanda kunye neminqweno, eya kuthi ithobele abantu abaninzi ngaphandle kokuthatha ingqalelo kwiminqweno yabo?
Musa ukohlwaya esidlangalaleni
Awunakuyicingela indlela yokudideka ngayo kwaye icaphukisa abantu. Nomntu omdala. Umntwana ohlazisayo usisidlangalaleni, uyashukumisela imida yakhe, bonakalisa ukuba wena nabanye abantu banelungelo lokuphambukisa. Ke ngoko, ukuba umntwana wenze into engalunganga, amthabathe ecaleni aze andixelele ukuba kutheni engalunganga kwaye wenza ntoni kwixesha elizayo.
Ungafungi, kodwa uyacacisa
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Bamba izithembiso
Ukuba uyayivala into emntwaneni, oko kuthetha ukuba isivalo sihlala ixesha elide kwiiyure ezimbalwa. Kufanelekile ukuba ukhathaze umntwana wakho okungenani kanye, njengoko eqala ukuqhelisela, kwaye emva koko iya kuyeka ukukholelwa izisongelo zakho. Yiya kulandelelana.
Mbohlwayo kwangoko okanye musa ukohlwaya konke konke
Kukho umthetho "wabazali": ukohlwaya, uxolele, ulibale. Khumbula ukuba isohlwayo esisisigxina sokuziphatha gwenxa kwexesha elidlulileyo kukhokelo lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ezahlukeneyo. UMTHETHO malunga nemeko, ukuba ufundile malunga nokungaziphathi kakuhle, thetha nje lo mbuzo nomntwana kwaye uchaze imiphumo.