Ndinabantwana abahlanu: Oonyana abayi-15 neli-12 ubudala, intombi eneminyaka eli-10 namawele kunye namawele nentombi, oneminyaka emi-4. Iqabane lam lobomi likaJulia likwanazo iintombi ezimbini (iminyaka eli-16 nele-10 ubudala), ke ezimbini sinabantwana abasixhenxe. Kwaye umahluko weminyaka yabo kubalulekile.
Kwiminyaka edlulileyo, iMbali yeHlabathi yeHlabathi iyatshintsha, iingcinga neemfuno zakhe. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iya kubonakaliswa ekukhuliseni. Indlela eya kwaba mdala kwaye emncinci ayinakufani, kuba umntu ufuna inkululeko, ithuba elinye elifuna, icebiso elibalulekileyo, kwaye enye inkxaso, uncedo, uncedo.
Kwaye wonke umntwana, nokuba ungaphantsi kweminyaka, unempawu zalo zomlinganiswa, ezingafanele zithathelwe ingqalelo. Umntu omelezelwe bubuntwana, kwaye umntu nkqu kwiminyaka engama-20 kubalulekile ukuba uzive wamkelwe. Ewe, imfundo inefuthe layo, kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha yonke into inokutshintsha. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uqonde: umntwana ngamnye ngumntu, kwaye umsebenzi wabazali kufuneka athathe isitshixo sakho kuye, uManeru kunye nemfundo kunye neMfundo.
Ingcebiso: Kwimfundo efanelekileyo, indlela yomntu ngamnye kunye nesimo sengqondo sokucinga malunga neemfuno zomntwana ngamnye zibalulekile.
UMichael Yak uphakama kabini kunye nenkosikazi yakhe
Iindlela zokukhulisa kwintsapho enkulu
Ngaphandle kweshedyuli yoxinzelelo, ngokuqinisekileyo ndiza kubeka ixesha lokuncokola nabantwana. Siphila kwizixeko ezahlukeneyo, ndibhabha kubo rhoqo ngempelaveki. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ndichitha iholide yakho nosapho lwakho. Kungekuphela nje kubo bonke abantwana, kodwa ngokwahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, kulo nyaka uphelileyo, sityelele iKiev, eNew York naseMlando kunye nonyana olizibulo, sidlalwe kwiipaki zokuzonwabisa zikaFlorida. Kulo nyaka siceba uhambo olufanayo nonyana wesibini, i-stan, kunye kunye kunye nokukhetha apho ukuya khona. Kodwa oku kungenxa yokuba ndithanda oonyana abadala abangakumbi - kwintsapho yethu, ngokomgaqo, akwamkelwa ukuba wabele umntu othile ebantwaneni. Nangona kunjalo bayazi ukuba ndiyavuya kubanika ixesha labo bonke, kodwa wonke umntu ngamnye. Eyona ndlela iphambili yokukhulisa kwintsapho enkulu luthando olomeleleyo.
Ewe, abanye abantwana abaninzi, kuya kuba nzima ukuhambisa ingqalelo yakho phakathi kwabo. Ke ngoko, sinazo izithethe-Iziganeko ezidibeneyo xa lonke usapho luhamba kunye. Ezi ziisidlo sangeCawa, amaphulo kwi-cinema okanye intambo. Ngempelaveki, sihlala sikhetha ukuhamba epakini, khwela amahashe okanye iibhayisikile, yiya sking.
Kodwa ke makungafanele ukuphelelwa yimpelaveki - kubalulekile ukuba uYise uthathe inxaxheba kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ndizigxothe kwi-kindergarten, ndityelele i-matrenikov kunye nokhuphiswano kwaye ndithathe inxaxheba kwimveliso yeqonga. Kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi, kwakungekho kuphela kotata owayengaphoswa yintlanganiso yomzali omnye. Nangona kuyinto engafaniyo kunokulawula - ngokufuthi ukuba ootata beza esikolweni i-Akin kwilungu elibuhlungu, bona ngandlela zonke ukuphepha. Kodwa ibaluleke kakhulu - ukwazi oko abantwana bakho bahlala, ngaba banobunzima kunye neengxaki ngokufunda okanye ukunxibelelana. Kwaye kumnandi kakhulu ukufunda ngezinto abaziphumezileyo kunye nokoyisa!
Ingcebiso: Ukongeza ixesha elichithwe kunye nabo bonke abantwana, kufuneka ufumane ithuba lokuhlala nomntwana ngamnye kuphela. Abantwana kufuneka babazi ukubaluleka kwabo ngobomi bakho, kwaye eyona ndlela yokubonisa ukuba iyaqonda ukuba uyavuya ukuchitha ixesha lakho.
Ukuhlulela abazali: Indlela yokunceda abantwana basinde kwisithuba
Ebomini bam bekukho imeko enzima - umfazi wam kunye nenkosikazi yam (ngoku ngaphambili) bagqiba kwelokuba bahlukane. Kwakungekho ngaphandle kwengxabano, izityholo ezikhubekisayo nezityholo, nabantwana bethu bafumana le nto ibuhlungu kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, sakwazi ukufumana ukulalanisa ngexesha, kuqonde iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kwaye kuseke unxibelelwano oluqhelekileyo. Kuba igxile kwinto eyintloko: Ukuyeka ukuba yindoda nomfazi, sahlala sikaTata nomama. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba siya kuba ngabantu bomthonyama ngonaphakade.
Ngoku abantwana bam kumfazi wangaphambili nangoku banxibelelana ngokugqibeleleyo - njengomntwana, aba bantu kulula ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunabantu abadala. Akukho butshaba okanye imbambano phakathi kwabo, olu lunxibelelwano oluqhelekileyo lomntu. Bayaqonda ukuba sonke singabantu bomthonyama, kwaye kuyamangalisa ukuba kwiholide sinokuhlangana kunye kwitafile eqhelekileyo, ukuxoxa ngezihloko ezinomdla, ukuba ziphumelele kwimpumelelo enye okanye icacisa isisombululo kwezinye iingxaki. Kwaye sonke sidibanisa ngokusondeleyo izinto zokuzonwabisa ngokubanzi kunye nokuphumla okudibeneyo.
Ingcebiso: Kwanasemva koqhawulo-mtshato, abazali kufuneka bazame ukumisela unxibelelwano olufudumeleyo nolunoxolo. Ulwalamano oluqhelekileyo phakathi kukaMama noTata luyele kwaye intembelo ebantwaneni. Amagqabi aqaqambileyo eqaqambileyo, kwaye kuyanceda ukuphepha ukulimala komntwana.
Ukuba nguTata kunye nokuziqonda: Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uphumelele kuyo yonke into
Kubonakala kum ukuba ayikho kuphela, kodwa iyimfuneko - kwaye wena, nabantwana bakho. Okokuqala, icala elibonakalayo libalulekile, kuba usapho olukhulu luxanduva olukhulu. Abantwana kufuneka babe nesemva lezezimali eqinileyo ukuze ufumane imfundo elungileyo kwaye uqalise ebomini. Kwaye ngale nto kufuneka usebenze kakhulu kwaye uphumelele. Okwesibini, intembelo yokuba uloyiso lobomi olunikiweyo uya kuchaphazela abantwana. Uvumela ukholo kubo nangokwakho, namathuba abo.
Kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu - ukubabulala kunika iimvakalelo ezahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo kunye namava. Andikaze ndilufumane olo lonwabo njengangoku xa abantwana bam bagobe. Ezi mvakalelo zazibonakaliswa kwiingoma, kwaye kwiminyaka engama-40 ubudala ishishini laseShishini, uMhambi kunye notata omkhulu uMichael Yak waba yimvumi. Iingoma zam ndibathanda abaphulaphuli, kwaye ndiyavuya kuba amava endiwatyhilayo kwizicatshulwa zam ayaqondakala kwaye asondele kwinani elikhulu labantu.
Ingcebiso: Kuyimfuneko ukuphumeza amandla akho, kuba abantwana bayakuthatha umzekelo nawe. Nokuba kunzima kangakanani ukugcina ibhalansi, zama ukungayishiyi intloko yakho ukuze isebenze, kodwa nayo ayiyinyibili abantwana. Bafuna ukuphumelela, okwenzekayo, abaya kuba yimodeli efanelekileyo yokuxelisa.