Ugqirha wezengqondo uMikhail Labkovsky uthi: "Xa umntu ekhusela ukuzithemba, ubomi bakhe butshintsha ngokupheleleyo." Ingcali ikholelwa ukuba iyimfuneko ukuba iqale ukusebenza ngayo - ukufunda ukuzithanda ngaphandle ko, kodwa kanye kanye. Abanye abanyanga bavumelana nendawo yabo, bajonga ukuba le nto kanye ukungabikho ngxaki. Nangona kunjalo, ayinguye wonke umntu onokuzithanda- kwaye leyo yiyo loo nto.
Imbonakalo yomgxeki
Umbutho ucwangcisiwe ukuze uzama ukulunga konke phantsi komgangatho omnye. Lo ngumlinganiso wokubeka esweni nokuqinisekisa imeko yentuthuzelo-abantu kunzima ukwamkela abanye ukuba abanye bafundiswe ngakumbi, bomelele okanye balinyibilika. Ukusuka apha kukho imiyalelo njengoko umntu kufuneka aziphathe, yintoni enokunxiba nabani na ukuba ngumhlobo kunye njalo. Kwaye, ukuba ebuntwaneni kuphela i-gebbs evela kwintendelezo iyamqinisekisa umntwana ukuba "akafane." Kubi ngakumbi xa igxekwa kusapho kwakhona: ebizwa ngokuba sisidenge, ingcikivo ngokugqibelele okanye inkangeleko engafanelekanga. Okwangoku, ngamazwi abantu abasondeleyo abahlehliswa ngokunzulu kwaye bachaphazela ubomi obulandelayo bomntu. Shindezeleni nabantwana kwaye ungazami kwi-uLou kunye nokungakwazi ukudlulisela ingcinga ngolwimi oluqhelekileyo.
Ixhasa umntwana kwaye umnike uthando
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Amava amabi
Emva emva kokuba abazali banokuthi banyanzelise impatho emnandi yomntu ngamnye iba yintanda. Ngokufikisa, kuyinto efikelela kuyo ihlawulwe ngakumbi ekuvavanyweni kweempawu zangaphakathi, uninzi luya kukhula kakhulu kamva. Ubungakanani besifuba, ukujikeleza kwe-buttock, ubude beenwele kunye nokubonwa kwe-acuity - yonke into izakugxekwa. Ukuba unomntwana ofikisayo, landela ngononophelo imvakalelo yakhe kwaye uzame ukugcina unxibelelwano olusondeleyo, olujikeleze ingqalelo nothando. Ke ayiyi kuvalwa phambi kwakho, kwaye uya kuba nakho ukunceda ngexesha elifanelekileyo, ukudanisa ukuthandabuza ngokungagungqiyo. Ukuba ubukhe wadibana nemeko enjalo, cinga ngento yokuba abantu bakubethe ngaye? Indoda eyonwabileyo ifuna ukwabelana ngovuyo, hayi ukungathuki abanye ngabantu abaninzi abanesiphene abazama ukoyisa igunya kwaye bathe ufihla ukungazithembi.
Fumana iqabane lakho eliza kukubulela, lingakhubekisi
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Impazamo yempazamo
Ingozi elandelayo kwi-psyche iyakuthatha ekupheleni kweDyunivesithi. Apha abantu bahlulwe baba ngamaqela amabini: Abanye bagqiba ekubeni onke amandla anikele ukukhangela umntu esimthandayo aze aqonde usapho, abanye bakhathazeke kakhulu emsebenzini. Ukuba uziva malunga nelokugqibela, kuthetha nakuphi na ukusilela kwikhosi yemisebenzi yokusebenza kunokuba kukuphamba kakhulu. Jonga amava okuphumelela kwabantu abaphumeleleyo: Funda iimbali zabo, jonga iifilimu zoxwebhu. Uyakuqonda ukuba indlela abahamba ngayo yokuhamba ukuya esukelweni baphukile, hayi umgca othe ngqo. Omnye usomashishini wathetha ibinzana elilungileyo kangangokuba akukho bantu babekuphelanga kwizidenge. Ngamnye wethu unokwenza impazamo, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba asinakuyazi kwaye sifunde kwi-rake yethu. Inkxalabo efana neengxaki: Ukuqonda yonke into izolile kwaye yazi ukuba zilinde kakhulu ngaphambili.
Sukufuna ukwazi kwabanye abantu - wonke umntu kufuneka kuqala azinyamekele, aze acinge ngommelwane. Gcwalisa ngothando- funda ukuchitha ixesha yedwa kunye nawe, ungazinzi kwiholide, kodwa ukwenza iholide kuyo yonke imihla. Yiba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni kwaye wamkele ukuba ungumntu onjani. Kuphela kuhamba nge-zen kuphela- uyazi ukuba uzithanda nje.