Kutshanje ndiye ndafika kum iileta ezimbalwa ezinemibuzo efanayo kwaye phantse kumxholo ofanayo wamaphupha.
Ezi leta ezivela kubafazi abancinci abatshatileyo, nabantwana abancinci, banelisekile sisikhundla sabo, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu - bayabathanda abayeni babo. Kodwa amaphupha atyhilwa ngeenkanuko zemfihlo. Imfihlo, okokuqala kubo bonke, kubo ngokwabo.
Nantsi la maphupha:
"Ngomhla we-EX olu busuku ndicocwe ibhokisi yeposi. Kuba ndisanda kutshata, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndinenye yokugcina imbalelwano kunye nabathandi bangaphambili kunye nabalandeli. Ngorhatya, ndicime yonke into esuka kwi-imeyile, kwaye ebusuku ndaphupha ndinesifo 'sangaphambili ", kwaye ndikwinkqubo yexesha elithi:" Ndivuka Ngengqondo eyoyikisayo yehlazo kunye neengcinga zokuba ndikwazi ukungayicingeli indlela endihlala ngayo nako ukuba ibingelilo iphupha, kodwa iYawl. "
Iphupha lomnye ibhinqa: "Ephupheni, ndiphinda ndidibane nesithandi sam sangaphambili. Kwaye kwanombono wokuba nditshatile kwaye ndifuna ukuhlala umyeni othembekileyo, andizange ndiyeke. Ndenza uthando kunye naye, ohlangabezana neemvakalelo ezinamandla ezingaziva ekuqalekeni nomyeni wam. Ndivuka ngokupheleleyo, kuba ndingakhange ndikhumbule babeneminyaka emininzi, kwaye andizange ndicinge ngokuhlangana naye emva kokwahlula kobuhlungu. "
Ewe kunjalo, kuyanyanzelwa ngokulula ukuba batshintshe abafazi kumnqweno wokufihla ngokutshintsha amadoda abo, kwaye umbono ophambeneyo ulukhuni, amanqatha ngamanye amadoda ahlukane namaphupha.
Kodwa ayizizo zonke ezicacayo, nangona le ndlela inokuthembeka.
Ngexesha leMatrimony, ubudlelwane bobabini buyela amanqanaba ahlukeneyo. Ixesha lenoveli eliqaqambileyo, euphoria, i-Romance, njengommiselo, uphela phambi komtshato (ukuba awudibani). Ngexesha lokuqala kwe-rappirochement, isibini sihlangabezana noluhlu lonke lweemvakalelo, uthando, ezongezelelweyo. Rhoqo bakhumbula ubudlelwane bokwabelana ngesondo ngogwebo olukhulu.
Ubomi obudibeneyo ngaphambi kokuvela kwabantwana kubizwa ngokuba yi-Diaboband inqanaba. Ukongeza kuvuyo lokuhlala ngokudibeneyo, ngeli xesha isibini sifunda ukuhlangana ngokwenyani sidibane, sivelise izithethe, imithetho, izithethe zobomi bosapho. Ukuba amava abo angaphambili kwiintsapho zabazali okanye ngamaqabane akhoyo aya kwahluka kakhulu, ke eli nqanaba linokuhlala ngogonyamelo, ngezityholo, kunye nolwaziso abakumnini wendlu. Emva koko isaqhwithi sokuqala sothando kunye nothando singena ngasemva. Amaqabane abonisa omnye komnye kungekuphela nje umgangatho wabo, kodwa ubonakalisa ubuchule babo bemfazwe kunye neendlela zokusombulula iingxaki. Xa eli nqanaba liphela, isibini sivelisa iziseko ezidibeneyo kunye nemithetho, kwiimeko ezininzi kwinqanaba 3 liqala. Eli lixesha leesikeli, oko kukuthi, imbonakalo yamazibulo. Ukuba ngumzali kongezwa kwintsebenziswano yabo, ukuthatha phantse lonke ixesha ababenalo phambi komnye. Uthando kunye nokuvana luninzi ziinkumbulo ezininzi nje.
Kodwa ilangazelela la mazwe, umnqweno wokubonisa isaqhwithi semvakalelo kwakhona. Akukho xesha lokuphupha, kodwa kukho indlela yokuphuma-eli liphupha. Ukukhetha i-subconsion yethu yokuthathwa kwento kuyo yonke iiprojekthi ezingafakwanga kuzo, amaphupha angafakwanga kunye nemibono, kuba amagorha ethu eqaqambile, enamandla amava.
Endaweni yoko, bacebisa ukuba kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla, sinomthwalo weenkxalabo malunga nabantwana, ubomi obudibeneyo, akukho ndawo ye-teantasies, akukho ndawo yokuva ibhinqa eliyifunayo nelikhethekileyo. Ke ngoko, inkanuko iphela iqhekeza ngokulala. Kuyenzeka ukuba amaqhawe akho afumene ukona kubayeni babo ukuba inkanuko iye yaya ngasemva, kuba ngamaphupha kwaye babone ukuba le nto yayiyinto engathandekiyo (kodwa kwakungekho nto ngaphandle kwayo).
Amaphupha ethu anokunikwa kuphela ukubuyisela inkanuko kubudlelwane babo bomtshato. Akayi ndawo, ixesha kuphela lexesha elithunyelwe kwiimbombo ezimnyama zomphefumlo. Ukongeza, kufuneka batshekishwe njengoko benxibelelana nabayeni babo: Nokuba abayikhathaleli isimo sengqondo sendlela yesiqhelo, sukuvuma ukwamkelwa kunye nokuthandwayo - kodwa kunjalo? Ezi zifundo ziya kubanika ithuba lokuphinda baphinde baphinde babe ngumjelo omtsha kubudlelwane kunye nabantu babo abasondeleyo.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin