Uninzi lubhalwa malunga nothando. Wayechazwa ngabantu abaphumelelayo nabanempumelelo, iifilogoso kunye neebhadi. Kwaye ngequbuliso ndiyeza ndathi: "Ke, njalo. Uthando yinto kwaye leyo, kwaye ukuze ufumane, kufuneka wenze njalo. " Ewe yiyo. Ndiyakuthanda ukuthetha ngalo mxholo. Kwaye ayiqhelekanga, kuba ndifumana inani elikhulu leeleta kunye nombulelo rhoqo kubantu ababulela kwiziganeko zam bahlangane okanye badala uthando lwabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, bayivuselela okanye bayigciniwe.
Uthando lwabasetyhini lwendoda luquka kakhulu. Amagama amathathu aphambili:
Nye. Umzimba wothando . Ngesiqhelo, ibizwa ngokuba "luthando". Ungu "uthando ekuqaleni kokubona." Ayikho into ngaphandle kwesidlo esiqhelekileyo sesondo. Olu hlobo lothando luphela ngokukhawuleza. Amaqabane anokuphulukana nomdla omnye komnye ngenyanga.
2. Thanda ingqondo . Inezinto ezininzi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuhlonipha. Hlonipha umntu ikakhulu kwiimpawu zobunkokeli. Ukongeza, uthando lwengqondo luneempawu zabantu, iipropathi zobuntu. Iimpawu ezinjalo zabafazi njengombulelo, ukwamkela, ubuntununtunu, ukuqonda, ububele, ububele, ukubuna, ukubuna, ukuzonwabisa, ukudala ingqondo.
3. Uthando lokomoya . Inokuthelekiswa nothando lwabazali. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho uthando phakathi kwamaqabane, ngokuchasene ne-Logic. Olu hlobo lothando lwenziwa ngokudibanisa ubunzima obahlukeneyo. Ukuba isibini siyakhula, uyazazi izinto ezininzi ezintsha, ilungiselelwe ukudala nobuchule, uthando lokomoya luyakhula.
Umzimba wothando - Yintoni endiyithandayo?
Ingqondo yothando-le ndiyithandayo?
Umphefumlo wothando-Ndithanda njani?
Uthando lokwenyani luzo zonke izikhunta ezintathu zithathwe kunye. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ezi zithandwa zinokuphuhliswa. Intaba kwabo bahleli kwaye balinde imvakalelo "inesiphiwo esingenasiphelo." Ukungasebenzi, umntu unciphisa amathuba akhe okuthandana okwenene kwaye elahlekile kwanesipho esinikezwe ngokwemvelo. Umzimba uyaguga, ubuchopho buyekisi. Iinkolelo ezitshabalalisayo zibuchaphazela kakubi ubomi bakhe. Amanzi, engahambiyo, atshayela kwaye ajike abe ngumgxobhozo.
Uthando lomzimba luyimvakalelo engaqhelekanga, i-Jeking amandla, inika amandla okwethutyana. Uthando lomphefumlo lithuba lokuthanda ixesha elide, ngokuchasene nazo zonke iimeko kunye nenzuzo yayo.
Kwaye lowo utyayo kulwalamano uyalithanda ngakumbi iqabane. Ukuqonda indlela yokuphuhlisa uthando lomphefumlo nomzimba kuzelwe engqondweni. Kuyimfuneko ukwenza isigqibo sokutyala imali ngokunxulumene. Umntu okwisikhundla sobomi esisebenzayo kwaye uthathe uxanduva ngento eyenzekayo, uyakwazi ukwenza uthando lokwenyani.
Rhoqo kwincwadi (nkqu naseCileclical), ungahlangabezana neentetho "ufumana" uthando "," hlala "," Uthando lwalubonakala "," uthando lwenza into nam. " Hayi kwaye kwakhona. Sonke senze ebomini bethu ngokubhekisele kuphuhliso lwethu lwethu, kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba kufikelele uxanduva luthando. Le yimvakalelo yakho. Andikhathali ukuba ndithini: "Umlenze wam wasekhohlo ugxekwa ukuba ndingazange ndiye apho." Ndifuna ukukunika uxanduva lokudala ingqondo yengqondo, eya kukunceda ufumane uthando lokwenene.
I-Pavel Rukov
Umzimba, umphefumlo nengqondo ...
Ngoku ngakumbi. Yintoni uthando lomzimba? Esi sisimo sesondo . Idlula kwiintsuku ezingama-40. Yonke into. Inqaku. Le yincopho, ke incinci kwaye incinci. Ke ukucwangciswa kwendalo ukuze uphile. Ukuba umtsalane wesini sesondo ide, indoda iya kufa! Nawe. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kubalulekile ukukhumbula into eyenzekayo ngelo xesha: Uyalimaza, ungalali, udiniwe, udiniwe. Oko kukuthi, umzimba usebenzela ukunxiba. Njengawe lonke ixesha trace kwiklabhu yomzimba.
Awungekhe uyenze ngale ndlela. Ke ungayigcoba iiflene. Ke ngoko, umzimba uqaphela ukubaleka. Nangayiphi na indlela yokuphuma kubudlelwane. Le yinto efana nebhafu: Xa usiya kwigumbi le-Steam, kuqala akushushu, emva koko umzuzu uza xa ushushu kwaye kulungile, kulungile ... kwaye emva koko i-Krenovo. Ukuba awukabaleki apho, iya kuba yinto eyoyikekayo. Ngokufanayo nomzimba wothando.
Uthando ekuqaleni kokubonayo alikho ngaphandle kwe-tunraction yesini esiqhelekileyo. Kwaye umfazi usenokungafanele anikezele kule mpembelelo kude kube sekuhlonipheni. Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka usebenze nzima ukuze uqonde izinto ezithile ukuze udale nothando lwengqondo.
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Uthando lwengqondo luyayihlonipha . Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba unikezele ngezizathu zendoda ngokuhlonipha. Kuya kufuneka ngaphambili ngaphambi kokuba uhambe nomthendeleko, kuba ngeentsuku ezingama-40 umtsalane, kwaye imbeko iya kuhlala.
Ngapha koko, ngokufuthi kwizibini ezitshatileyo, kuyayihlonipha ukuba amaza amatsha okuxuba, kufana nolunye uhlobo lwe-tide kunye ne-tide ephantsi. Kuyaziwa ukuba ukutya kuchaphazela indlela yethu yokucinga. Ke ngoko, ekutyeni, qiniseka ukuba ubandakanya imifuno entsha kunye neziqhamo. Ukusuka kokutya okufanelekileyo nokufanelekileyo endifuna ukwabelana nothando. Ukuba utya iitshiphu, uya kuba lusizi! Ukusuka kwisondlo esibi kuhlala kulusizi kwaye ngandlel 'ithile! Kungqinelwa: Abo bathanda ukutya okungcolileyo bahlala befumana imeko yokungabikho kunye nesizungu.
Ukutya okunempilo yindlela entle yokwandisa umtsalane wobomi. Uyondla ngokufanelekileyo, kule nto uyiqhubi, awuhlali ekhaya, ufuna ukuthanda, wena impilo, kwaye uyakuthanda!
Kuyimfuneko ukudibanisa iingcinga ezifanelekileyo, kunye nesondlo esifanelekileyo. Khawufane ucinge ukuba unyawo lwasekhohlo kukutya, ekunene - iingcinga. Ukuba utsiba lonke ixesha kwelinye, uya kudinwa kwaye ke uya kuba ungaphumelelanga. Kwaye ukuba uyahamba ngokungxama kwimilenze emibini: ukutya, iingcinga, ukutya, iingcinga, yonke into ihamba nawe, ngokuhambelana nokulingana.
Incasa yakho ixhomekeke ekuziphatheni kwakho. Iilekese, kwaye uzikhathalele ngokunyaniseka amadoda akho, kwaye uya kumangaliswa: imfuneko yesantya emnandi kwaye umgubo iyanyamalala!
Xa umntu ehleli ekutyeni, izihlunu zakhe ziphulukana nobunzima. Endaweni yokubopha amanqatha, izihlunu ze-miscofles, kwaye uphulukana nobunzima bemisipha. Ukuba ufuna ukunciphisa umzimba, kufuneka uhlengahlengise indlela yokuphila, isondlo kunye neengcinga.
Amabelekazi e-Aids akwidoda akabikho kwindawo yokuqala. Lo ngumfazi obhinqileyo. Xa umfazi evakalelwa kukuba, indoda idluliselwa kule mvakalelo. Ukwenzela ukuba ugxile ekugxileni kwakho kwingqwalaselo yakho kwiimbaleki zakho, kuyafuneka ukuba namandla okomoya ophucukileyo. Ngamafutshane, ukuze njengamadoda, wonke umntu obhinqileyo kufuneka akhulise amandla oMoya. Ukuza kule, kubalulekile ukuba sikhulise ukuqonda. Ingqondo nje ijika apha. Ekuqaleni ukuqondakala ukuqaphela, oko kufuneka kwenziwe, kwaye, ngokubeka umoya, ize emfezekweni ngokomoya nangokwasemzimbeni. Ngaba uyayiqonda indlela zonke ezi zinto zinxibelelana ngayo?
I-esile lakho libaluleke kakhulu! Le yimpilo yabasetyhini. Esi sisizathu esishukumisayo kuthi, amadoda! Imbonakalo yentliziyo iyinyani nje! Ubuso bunomtsalane, isifuba siyatsala, kwaye singamadoda, ngokweenkcukacha-manani, ezona zinto zibonisa i-esile lamabhinqa ayo. Zifumane isipili esinemilinganiselo emithathu kwaye, sijonge kuye ngaphambi kokuba uphume endlwini, qiniseka ukuba ujonge ngasemva. Ukuba umile phambi koKhetho: nxiba into yefashoni okanye ubonise i-char yakho ye-char yakho, ungaze ucinge. Esihogweni! Ngapha koko, ngasemva, ngaphezulu kwemilenze ongenayo incasa, kodwa bubuso bokwenene, kwaye iminyaka yalo mntu ibeka umnqweno wokuba nawe.
Sele uqonde ukuba iingxaki ngomntu, kubandakanya ngasemva, yingxaki engasonjululwanga entloko. Ungayenza njani le nto ngengqondo abonayo sisondele kwimfezeko? Unokufunda ngayo kwincwadi yam ethi "Akufumane phi amandla okuphumelela", oya kukunceda ukuba ube mhle ngakumbi kwaye unomdla.
Iphepha lokuCwangciswa "Inombolo yeNcwadi 1 # Neshur"
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Umphefumlo wothando ... Ubudlelwane phakathi komfundi kunye notitshala. Xa indoda ifundisa umfazi obelana ngento, kunye ne-visi. Ukuba awuzange woyise ubunzima kusapho, uthando lokomoya aluzalwanga, akukho nto ijolise kuyo. Kuyavela, uthando lomphefumlo kufuneka lufanelwe. Kwaye kuhle ukwazi indlela yokuphila uthando lokomoya.
Ukuba weza enziwe enziwe enziwe, wathabatha umntu ofanelekileyo (njengoko abanye befuna), ekungafuneki ukuba basebenzise yonke imibuzo enamashishini ayo, indlela yokuphila? Akukho bunzima! Kwaye ukuba awukasebenzi, akukho ntlonipho. Yintoni ke? Kuphela. Ewe, ukuba ngokomzimba woyikeka ke ngoko ngokwasemzimbeni, ewe, kude kube ngumbingeleli kunye amabele angayi kutshabalaliswa, uya kuba likhadi lakhe leshishini. Emva koko uya kufumana enye.
Nokuba ungakanani kangakanani umtshato, uthando lomphefumlo kufuneka lwenziwe, ukoyisa, kuquka ubunzima, ukuxolelana, ukunyuka kwayo, ukwanda kunye nokunyuka kwamanqanaba awo okomoya. Sinazo izinto zethu zokuziphatha zibangela abantu ukuba baziphathe okanye ngenye indlela.
Jonga amandla owaneleyo madoda! Cinga. Uyaphikisana nendoda. Ngubani ophulukana? Umntu. Ukuba uphakamisa isandla sakho emntwini, le yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye ngokuthe cwaka kwabanye brown. Kwaye ukuba indoda iphakamise isandla sakho kuwe? Ukuba indoda ihlala ikhala kuwe?
"Ingonyama ayidingi ukuba ikhule - yonke into esehlathini kwaye yazi ukuba uyingonyama," Nantsi imoto yoqeqesho lwam lwamadoda. "Ukuhombisa", ngemvume yokutsho, indoda yaphulukana nenqanaba layo emehlweni abafazi. Ukuzama ukungqina into kunye nebhinqa lam ndilile, uyayitshintsha imbopheleleko kunye naye kumagxa ebhinqileyo. Intlonipho kwesi sibini iwile. Uthando lwengqondo luyahamba.
Kwaye ukuba ukwindoda ekhwaza? Indoda ayikuva, ke ngoko ingqondo yethu icwangcisiwe. Mhlawumbi ibona ulwazi kwelinye ixesha rhoqo, kwaye akazivumeli i-squeaks ephezulu. Ngaba uyawuqonda umahluko? Ngononophelo nje, ungaze uthethe ngobuthathaka bomzimba kunye neempawu zomntu. Imvakalelo! Ukuthuka kunye nokufunda . Ngomsindo, umhle, qabt ngokwamandla obuqaqambileyo kwaye ubumnandi. Kule meko, kukho itekhnoloji, kwaye uqikelela ukuba uphi kwaye unokufunda ukuba ngubani na.
Unamandla phezu kwethu. Nje ukuba uqale umntu ocaphukayo izinto ezithile eziphantsi, uziva enetyala lakhe. Nokuba umntu angakonakalisa, nokuba kube lula kuye, uya kuziva enetyala. Kuyaziwa ukuba imvakalelo yetyala itsalela isohlwayo.
Ngaba iluncedo kusapho ukuze indoda yakho ivalelwe okanye yohlwaywa ngemali enkulu? Awunakuba ne-clairvoyant ukujonga kwikamva okanye kwixesha elidlulileyo, jonga nje kuwe, kwindlela onxibelelana ngayo nendoda. Ke ngoko, ekulondolozo lwam, uninzi lwabathathi-nxaxheba bajamelana nokothusa xa ndithetha yonke into ngobomi babo, ndinxibelelana nabo kwinqanaba lemizuzu elinye okanye emibini kuphela. Uyabona, njengakwicala elithathu, unokwenza uhlalutyo lwempilo yonke, kunye nezenzo zomntu onokuthi uxelele kakhulu ngobomi bakhe.