Sonke sifuna ukufana nemifanekiso yekrinte yokufumana impumelelo kunye nabafazi abazithembileyo abanokuphila uqhawulo-mtshato, ngaphandle kokuphela iinyembezi, kodwa bangqina ubuhle babo. Kodwa ebomini buphela akusoloko. Nokuba ukugqabhuka kobudlelwane obusemthethweni kungankqonkqoza ngokupheleleyo igeji.
Ukuba, njengokuba uninzi, alunakusisindisa uxolo lwengqondo ngexesha lokwahlula, musa ukuzibekela. Ixhala kwaye ukhala kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Zinike ithuba lokuphanga, musa ukukopa iimvakalelo. Kodwa zama ukungawele kwindima yexhoba kwaye unciphise ukubandezeleka kweeveki ezimbalwa.
Emva koko kuya kufuneka uhlalutye izizathu zokukhokelela ekuphelisweni kobudlelwane. Mhlawumbi oku kuya kucacisa ukuba ngawaphi amadoda afanele ukuthintela kwixesha elizayo kwaye ungayitshintsha njani indlela oziphethe ngayo ukuze wenze umanyano olomeleleyo.
Zama ukungahlali kwimeko yakho ye-diverrgent. Sebenzisa ixesha kunye nezibonelelo: Ukudibana nabahlobo, yiya kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga, funda iincwadi. Enkosi kule nto unokuphuma kuxinzelelo ngeelahleko ezincinci.