Ungaziqonda njani? Oku kubuzwa wonke umntu. Imibuzo "endizibonayo emva kwe-5, 10 eneminyaka ubudala" ibonakala isisidenge, yonke into itshintsha ngokukhawuleza, kodwa entloko sisacinga malunga nenqanaba lesibini eli phambili. Ke indlela yokuphumeza ngokuchanekileyo, musa ukuba kude kwindlela elungileyo, kwaye ufumane nendlela.
1. Mhlawumbi eyona nto ibalulekileyo yile Sukoyika . Abantu abaninzi boyika ngokwenene ukwenza izinto zabo zokuthanda izinto, bacinge ukuba abayi kuba nento, bengazami. Kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela iindlela ezahlukeneyo kwimisebenzi yayo. Mhlawumbi into oyitshisileyo kwiingcinga ezininzi iminyaka emininzi, ingeyiyo yeyakho, kodwa awuyi kwazi ngayo de uzame.
2. Isigqibo kuphela kuwe . Sijikeleze thina baninzi abacebisi abakwenzayo oko bafundisa into. Ewe, kukho izalamane nabahlobo abangafuni ububi konke, kodwa baya kuba nazo, kodwa abayi kuba nakho ukusombulula ukuba ungcono. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukwenza into, kodwa uthandabuze, kwaye nokubathandekayo uyakuphembelela ku "umbono osisiyatha." Kungcono wenze into ocinga ukuba uyiyo. Uya kuba uphosakele, impazamo yakho iya kuba, hayi "umhlobo olungileyo uEdika."
3. Sukuzifumana Kwaye musa ukuhlehlisa amatyala kamva. "Ke" masingangeni kungekudala okanye ungangeni nto konke konke. Yenza apha kwaye ngoku. Uhlala okwangoku.
ezine. Akukho sidingo sokubeka iinjongo ezingenakwenzeka kakhulu . Kungcono ukumisela enye kwaye uqwalasele imisebenzi emincinci eya kukukhokelela kule njongo. Ungazibamba ixesha elifutshane. Ke awuyi kuba nemvakalelo yokungoneliseki ngokwakho, kuba uya kuhlala ufuna into. Kuzo zonke ezi mpumelelo zincinci kwaye ekugqibeleni ziya kuba yeyona njongo ibalulekileyo.
5. Ungaze uphantsi kweyiphi imeko Sukuzithelekisa nomntu . Lo nguMgaqo obaluleke kakhulu owaziyo, kodwa basawahoyi. Unokuphefumlelwa abanye abantu, uze uze nezimvo, kodwa ungafani. Ngapha koko, abantu abaphumelele impumelelo khange bavuke ngexesha elinye. Basebenze ixesha elide, kodwa sibona kuphela iziphumo zabo. Ndikholelwe, umsebenzi wabo omkhulu uhlala nje emva kweziganeko. Kungcono ukhathalela ixesha lam elidlulileyo kwaye yinyani. Oko ukwazileyo ukufezekisa, ngubani owaba yiyo, into etshintshileyo. Ungabhala uluhlu lwempumelelo yakho, nakuphi na. Unokumangaliswa yimalini. Uziqhele nje "ngokwesiqhelo", funda ukuba uziva abantu.
6. Sukubuya kwiNjongo . Egudileyo kwaye akukho nto iya kubakho. Yikhumbule. Ayizukuphuma ngoku, iya kuphuma kamva. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ube "ungumntu ovuthayo", phuhlisa amandla akho kunye nendlela enkulu kwityala.
7. Mamela ukugxekwa . Uya kuba nakho ukuyithatha kwaye mhlawumbi aphucule into oyingenisayo. Kodwa ukugxekwa kufuneka kugwetyelwe kwaye kuxhaswe ziimpikiswano. Wonke umntu unembono yalo yembono, kwaye mhlawumbi akayithandi into oyenzayo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba uyakwenza okubi. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba ugxekwa, akufuneki ukuba ungabikho kudidi: "Ke, into ethile ingeyiyo enye ...", ayifani. Ngalo naluphi na ugxeko, fumana ukuba yintoni kanye kanye engamthandiyo umntu kwimisebenzi yakho kunye nendlela enokulungiswa ngayo.
Sibhozo. Sukucinga ukuba abanye baya kucinga . Ngayiphi na imeko, umntu ungumntu ongumntu, yonke imihla kuthi sele sicinga ukuba kwaye ngubani ocinga ngathi, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa akufuneki ukuba zityhutyha izimvo zoluntu, ngakumbi xa ichaphazela ikamva lakho. Kukho ibinzana elilula kakhulu: "Ayinamsebenzi ukuba abanye bacinga ntoni - kuba baya kucinga nangayiphi na imeko. Phumla. " Kwaye le yinyaniso. Khumbula, okokuqala, wonke umntu ucinga ngokwakhe, kwaye emva kwabanye.
Thoba. Buza icebiso kubantu abanamava Entsimini yakho, zama ukuqonda ukuba zenza njani kwaye ziqhubeke nokufuna impumelelo. Ungayifunda ibhayiloji yabo, ukuba ungayibhala kwi-imeyile okanye kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Ukuba lo myalezo usesikweni, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphendula.
10. Zama Zingqonge nabantu abanenjongo , ke ufuna ukwenza into. Lawula inyathelo, kodwa ungabeki. Kuyo yonke into kufuneka ibe ngumlinganiso. Sebenza ngokwakho, ninonyamezelo, kwaye ziya kuzisa iziqhamo zazo kwixesha elizayo.