Ukuba ulinganisa amaxabiso apheleleyo, akukho nto ibaluleke ngaphezu kosapho. Kodwa, ngokoluvo lwam, ukuthelekisa apha akulunganga ngokupheleleyo. Ngokufanelekileyo, umntu ufanele aphelele enye. Nje ukungalingani ngokweendleko zexesha kunye nemizamo ehamba nayo iyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kubuso bangoku. Kum, ndazimisela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba le ntsapho, ukukhulisa intombi encinci kwinqanaba langoku lobomi bam, kunjalo, yeyona nto iphambili.
Ngokusekwe koku, ndicwangcisa ingqesho yam yobungcali, nangona, nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha akukho lula. Ngokukodwa, xa inkqubo yokubuyisa izalisekisiwe, ihlala ithatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomgudu. Ndenze ndade ndiyeke indima ethile xa wayecinga ukungabikho kwendlu kudala ngenxa yokhenketho lotyelelo. Kum, ulonwabo losapho, okokuqala, ubudlelwane obuhambelana, apho kungekho kuphela uthando, kodwa nentlonipho, inkxaso kunye nokuqonda. Kwaye, kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ndilondoloze le mibuso kwaye ndiphindaphinde. Ayisiyonto ilixesha leminyaka yeenkulungwane ngendlela abafazi baqwalaselwa ngabagcini bendoda.
Imithetho emihlanu:
1. Ngamaxesha onke ukusuka ngokuhlwa ndiceba usuku olulandelayo hayi kuphela izinto, kodwa neengubo, i-hairstyle, i-makeup. Igcina ixesha elibonakalayo kwaye ikuvumela ukuba uchithe ngokufanelekileyo.
2. Andithathi into ukuba andiqondi ukuba ndingayenza njani. Oku kusebenza kungekuphela kwinqanaba lobungcali, kodwa nobomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngokoluvo lwam, oko kuyanceda ukungachithi ixesha lichithwe kwimizamo engenamsebenzi yokuphumelela kwinto ongenayo intshayelelo. Soloko ukhokelwa ngumgaqo: okokuqala ukuhlolisisa zonke iinkalo, emva koko uqhubeke nale meko.
3. Ndicinga ukuba ukukhathazeka asisosizathu sokupheka kakubi kwaye, ngakumbi, jonga kakubi. Omnye wemithetho ephambili endinceda ukuba ndingalibali ukuba uthumo olubalulekileyo luphathiswe amagxa ayo nayiphi na isondo esifanelekileyo - phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko ukuhlala umfazi. Ukuthobela lo mthetho kuyathintela iingxaki ezininzi ebomini.
4. Sikhusela uluvo lwakho kuphela ukuba ndinempikiswano eyaneleyo. Lo mthetho ulungele onke amanqanaba obomi kwaye unceda ekuphephe ukucaciswa kobudlelwane kunye noogxa babo kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Ungalibali ukuba umnqweno wokuba nantoni na ukulwela uloyiso kwimbambano usikhathalela amandla anokubhekiswa kuthi kwindalo kwaye uchithe ngengenelo enkulu kunye nabathandekayo babo.
5. Andiyeki kuphuhliso. Akukho nto idiyayo kunomfazi ofanayo. Iingcali zengqondo azidinwa kukuphinda-phinda ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuma, kodwa rhoqo ukuqhubela phambili-kulwazi olutsha, amathuba, ukufumana ubuchule obutsha kwaye ufumane izakhono ezitsha. Ukuhamba phambili kuyafuneka umntu ophumeleleyo.
Ngapha koko, ndihlala ndikhumbula loo nto:
- Eyona ndlela ikhulayo yokukhulisa ngumzekelo wakho;
-Ngaphambi kokuba uthi, Kungcono ukucinga malunga namaxesha amaninzi;
-Akuswele fungo yokuthembisa ukuba ungakwenzi ntoni;
-Ngaba ke ukhawulezile ngezigqibo, ungabi nayo yonke ingcaciso;
-Impumelelo iya kuza kulowo ungoyiki umsebenzi;
"Uncumo lwenza imvakalelo kwabanye, kwaye igama elihle likhathaza ubushushu.
-umfazi olinganayo kwaye athobelayo uyakuhlala eze phambi komgama oqhumayo kunye nokungafikeleli;
-Ukuphazamiseka kwiingcinga kuya kutsala umnxeba kwiimvakalelo nakwizenzo;
-Kufanelekile ukuchitha ubuchule bakho, amandla akho kunye nexesha labo abangayifuni okanye bangakwazi ukuxabisa.