Ukugweba ngoontanga bam esikolweni kunye nokuqhelana nanamhlanje, kwanele. Ngokucacileyo, abazali babo babezisiwe kakhulu - kwaye bavuka banobuthathaka, abanesingqala kwaye bantsonkotha, ukuba ekuphela kwendlela yokuthetha ngandlela thile ebomini babo yayingugonyamelo nxamnye nabantwana babo. Ngendlela yenzeka ngayo ayisiyomzimba nje, engaziqhelazanga kungekuphela nje, hayi ooyise, hayi ukuba ungumama. Kwaye oku, ndicinga ukuba eyona nto iyingozi enokubanceda abantwana babo.
Kodwa, kwelinye icala, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukohlwaya abantwana. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwahlula phakathi kobundlobongela omelana nomntwana kunye nesohlwayo esifanelekileyo. Kuba igqityiwe, ndaziqhelanisa.
Xa umntwana ephawula iminyaka emithathu (yenzeka ngaphambili, yenzeka kamva, kodwa ayininzi) uqala ingxaki yokuqala yobudala. Uziqonda njengomntu owahlukileyo kwaye ngoko nangoko uqale ukuzama amandla akhe. Kwaye kweli nqanaba ukuba kufuneka lenziwe ngokukhawuleza ukuba aqonde ukuba indawo yakhe ikwindawo yakhe yolawulo losapho. Kungenjalo, le ngxaki iya kuba yiyo yonke loo nto-baya kuqala ngokukhawuleza abazali babo ngokukhawuleza, kwaye umntwana akazange aphelise.
Iqela elilula elilula. Uvavanyo loNyana ngekati ye-ceramic - uhamba etafileni, esela amanzi, anxibelelane nezinye izilwanyana ezincinci. Sele exelelwe ukuba ngekati kufuneka aphathwe ngononophelo, kuba ubuthathaka kwaye ungaphula. Ukuba akufuneki ukuba inkqonkqoze okanye ilahle. Emva kwexesha elithile, ngaphandle kokulungiselela uhlaselo lweqhayi le, ikati ihamba ngokukhawuleza emgangathweni kwaye ikhefu ngamaqhekeza amancinci amancinci. Simcacisela umntwana ukuba akasekho ikati ye-ceramic, kuba utata akayiniki i-yona, emva koko aya kuba ngumtshayelo kunye namaqhekeza, aqengqelekayo kunye noqeqesho kwinkunkuma.
Ngokwamabali, oomama abaninzi kule meko "banike ibhanti", bambeke kwikona kwaye benze ezinye izinto ezimbi. Andiqondi ukuba kutheni. Akukho kungqubana njengoko kungekho sizathu sokusohlwaya. Ukuba abazali bayinto yento, akudingi ukumnika umntwana. Ukuba uyazithabatha ngokwakhe, kuthetha ukuba ususwe kakubi. Kwaye ngokubanzi-kwiimeko ezininzi, abazali kufuneka bohlwaye.
Enye imeko. I-EGOR ihlome njengoko ndikhangela kwisitovu segesi. Kwaye, ewe, kungekudala wazama ukuphindaphinda. Nceda uqaphele: Akukho mntu uyohlwaya nabani na ngokukhawuleza. Ndihleli ukuze amehlo ahambe malunga nenqanaba elinye, kwaye ndiyacacisa ukuba le ayinakwenzeka ukwenza le nto. Ngexesha elithile, kwaye, kunjalo, uzama ukuphinda uvavanyo. Ndiphinda ndixelele ukuba kukho izinto eziyingozi kakhulu, ezinokuba ngabantu abadala kuphela. Kwaye ndiyakongeza ukuba ukuphinda uzama ukwenza into enjalo, iya kufumana isandla. Masithi akafuni ukulalanisa, kwaye kwakhona uzama ukuvumela irhasi eflethini. Kwaye ke ndizolile kakhulu (kubaluleke kakhulu!) Mna ndimxelele ukuba wenza into engavumelekanga, kwaye ngoku iya kohlwaywa ngenxa yoko. Emva koko ndinikezela-kunganinzi, kodwa ndinobuthathaka kakhulu.
Kwimeko echaziweyo, "i-piris yeminyaka emithathu" ayiveli ngokubanzi. Esi sisifundo sokhuseleko ekufuneka somelele ngokwaneleyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba i-taboos ibalulekileyo kwi-Pediatric Pedto. Ke, kwiminyaka emihlanu okanye nangaphambi koko, mna ngokwam ndiza kumnika imatshisi kunye nenkunkuma yesayensi yokukhanyisa ipleyiti kwaye ndiliza umlilo. Okwangoku, ukuvalwa kwesithuba kuyafuneka kuye.
I-duot iminyaka emithathu zibonakaliswa kwenye imeko. I-Herra ithanda kakhulu ukuba ingalithi nyhani. Uye wafika ekutshintsheni kwaye waqala ngokukhawuleza ukuvula kwaye ucime ukukhanya. Waxelelwa izihlandlo ezininzi ukuba bekungenakwenzeka ukuba uyenze. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile wagqiba kwelokuba ilungelo lakhe elingenakufuneka ukuba lilwe. Ngenxa yoko, wohlwaywa kwaye okwethutyana akazange avume le nto. Kwaye emva koko waqala, kwaye ngaba yayingaphaya kwamehlo.
Kwakucacile ukuba olu lolunye uvavanyo lwabazali ngamandla. Kwaye kule meko ukuba isohlwayo sendawo kufuneka sisetyenziswe ngokuchanekileyo. Emncinci, akubangakho meko. Ukuba umzali waphakamisa izwi lakhe, ke umntwana uye wafumana eyakhe. Kwaye xa kufuneka aqinisekisile okanye atsalele umnxeba, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kwenza ukuba ixesha lokugqibela lisebenze kakuhle. Kufuneka sitsho ngokuzolileyo ngokupheleleyo ukuba uza kwenza into awayengavunyelwanga, kwaye ngoku uya kufumana ipopu. Ukuba umntwana akayeki ukuhamba, isoyikiso kufuneka aphunyezwe - kodwa kwakhona, ngokuzolileyo, ukubanda kwaye ngoomatshini.
Ngokwemvelo, kuya kubakho iinyembezi. Kwakhona, kuyimfuneko ukwenza ugcino: Ukuba ezi ziinyembezi zentlungu, oko kuthetha ukuba umntwana kufuneka athunyelwe ngokungxamisekileyo kugogo inyanga, kwaye umzali uwela kwisibhedlele sengqondo ukuze aphile. Bonke abantwana bayakhala, ukuba banikwa uPopu - kodwa bathuka, kwaye hayi kwiintlungu okanye ukumangaliswa.
Kwaye xa umntwana owahlwaywayo wayecaphukile, wathabatha, ukubanda kunye noomatshini. Utata (okanye umama-kuxhomekeke koosohlwayo) kufuneka abonise ukuba umntwana ngowona nolona lubalaseleyo. Ngokufutshane-hug, kiss, thetha iqhekeza lamagama athambileyo kwaye uyenze into enomdla kunye. I-misdemeanor iphela ngesohlwayo.
Andinyanzeli ukuba kufuneka unyuse ngale ndlela-kubonakala ngathi kum. Umntwana akanakubetha kwaye kwangaxeshanye akohlwaywa konke konke. Kuzo zombini iimeko, i-monster inokukhula, ekugqibeleni kuya kubetha abazali.
Kwaye, mhlawumbi, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukujonga kwam-ngokusisiseko umntwana kwiimeko ezimbini: xa edinga ingqalelo kubazali bakhe nangayiphi na indleko okanye xa engenanto yakwenza. Ke lo mbuzo uphambili obonakala kum kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sakho nabantu abadala, yindlela ekungcono ngayo ukuthatha umntwana, hayi indlela ekungcono ngayo ukohlwaya ngayo.