Olona xesha linzima ebomini bomntwana kunye nobomi babazali-Iminyaka yotshintsho, egqityiweyo malunga neminyaka eli-17. Ngeli xesha, ukutshintsha kunye nokuphuma emntwaneni, imeko inokutshintsha rhoqo iyure, kwaye abazali bengazi ukuba benze ntoni, bahlala behlukane nokuphelelwa lithemba. Nangona kunjalo, indlela enjalo yokuziphatha kwabazali inokuqhekeza nokuba nolwalamano lwakho olomeleleyo, ke nawuphi na umfowunelwa wakho nomntwana kufuneka ube nethemba kwaye ungashiyi i-sediment engathandekiyo kumacala omabini. Ke indlela yokugqitha kwixesha leshumi elivisayo ngaphandle kokungqubana okuphakathi kwezizukulwana? Siza kuxela ngale nto namhlanje.
Ndingenza ntoni njengomzali?
Unxibelelwano nomntwana wakhe, oluguquka ukuba ngumntu omdala luhlala lungoyena mthetho ubalulekileyo. Akufanele nje wenze ujonga umdla, kodwa nyhani uthatha umnqweno wokuqonda into ehlala kuyo umntwana wakho, zeziphi iimvakalelo awajamelana nazo. Umgaqo wesibini obalulekileyo: Akukho shkidi. Ukwenza oku, zama ukungasebenzisi isiseko "Hayi" kwintetho yakho, endaweni yazo ngokungathathi cala "kusenokwenzeka ukuba". Umntwana ofikisayo ohlangabezana nohlengahlengiso lwehomoni luya kuqala ukuvukela ekuphenduleni kwisivalo sakho, esiya kukhokelela ekukhuleni nasekusetyenzisweni kakhulu kwenu.
Kubalulekile ukuba uthathele ingqalelo iminyaka yobudala. Masithethe ngawo ngamnye wabo.
Zama ukuba "udlulisela"
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Iminyaka eli-12
Njengomthetho, ukusuka kwiminyaka eli-12 kuphela oko kulona tshintsho lucacileyo ngenkangeleko kunye nokuziphatha komntwana kwenzeka. Esakho sele ikwindlela yokukhula, nangona kunjalo, ngoku esondele eluntwini kunabadala, kwaye ke ngoku ngeli xesha umntwana enza lula, obala ukuba uMntwana wabo "ukhona ngokupheleleyo Indoda endala ", ngokomzimba, ungatshintsha ngokumangalisayo amaqhinga okuziphatha - ukunxibelelana kakhulu njengabantu abadala. Emntwana, iya kuba ngequbuliso kakhulu, njengoko kucacile kuye ukuba kutheni indlela yokuziphatha yabazali itshintshe kakhulu. Endaweni yemfundo eyomeleleyo, zama ukufaka isikhundla somntwana: iqala ukutshintsha ngaphandle, ukukhathalela uninzi lwamantombazana angayaziyo indlela yokujongana nezo okanye ezinye izinto, umzekelo, ukuba enze ntoni nge Yenzeka ukuya esikhathini. Uninzi lwabantwana alusonjululwa kwincoko nabazali babo, kwaye bahlala bevalwa ngokwabo. Ungavumeli ukuba kwenzeke kwaye uthathe inyathelo kumntwana wakho.
Iminyaka eli-13
"Ukuqhuba" kweHormones kufikelela kwincopho yakhe. Kwezi zinto, umntwana unokuthi angalawulwa ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana uqalisa ukuqonda okwenzekayo kuye kwaye uzama ukukhawulezisa le nkqubo kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ufuna ukuzuza le nkqubo kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye ubonakala emdala emehlweni oontanga. Ukusuka apha, zonke izinto ozithandayo ezinobungozi, ezifuna abazali ukuba zilawulwe, kungenjalo kukho ithuba lokuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo uza kutsala kwi-whirlpool yeengxaki. Landela ngononophelo, ngubani ojikeleze umntwana wakho kweli xesha, kodwa musa ukubonisa inzala engaphezulu ebomini bakhe, ngenye indlela umntwana eza kuqala ecaphukisa ukuthatha inxaxheba kwaye uya kwazi ngobomi bakhe. Musa ukuyivumela.
Iminyaka eli-14
Ulutsha olusekumbindini wobuso bangaphakathi kunye nengaphandle. Ngeli xesha, ukhangela abasemagunyeni, ukuphenga ngumzali kungasasebenzi. Ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho wathandana okanye wayeka ukuhlonela, okwangoku kweli nqanaba kufuneka azibone. Egumbini lakhe lingazinza "zokuhlawula" iiposta ezinamagcisa angaziwa kuwe, uya kuqala ukukhumbula umculo ocaphukisayo, kodwa eyona nto iphosakeleyo onokuyenza kukuqalisa ukuphuma. Zama ukuthetha nomntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo, kodwa uyenze ngentlonelo, emva kwayo yonke into ongasakwazi ukuncokola naye njengomntwana. Kuya kufuneka ufezekise ubudlelwane bethemba kunye nomntwana o-Aden, ukuze uzifihle kangangoko unakho, aboyikayo.
Iminyaka le-15-16 ubudala
Ixesha xa umntwana sele enenkampani yalo, imvakalelo yokuqala enzulu ivela, isavela ekhaya kwaye iincoko zakho ziyayeka ukuba zincitshiswe kwimicimbi yesikolo. Ngoku umntwana usenza uluvo lokugqibela, waphantse wazamkela entsha, nangona kukho umsebenzi omninzi kuye, ngaphambi kokuba umntwana ofikisayo abe ngumntu onobuntu. Umntu okwishumi elivisayo uqalisa ukwenza okusingqongileyo, ezabelana ngezinto zakhe, kwaye isenokuba ngabanye eklasini okanye ngabahlobo kwicandelo lezemidlalo. Apha, kubalulekile ukuba abazali ekugqibeleni bangaphulukani nokunxibelelana nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo, ukuba unomnxibelelaniso wayo yonke iminyaka edlulileyo, ungafanele ube neengxaki ezinkulu, kuba simve umntwana wakho , ngelixa ungenaxinzelelo oluqinileyo kubomi bakhe obutsha.