Umgangatho omuhle uvakaliswa kukungavumi kwayo ukugqiba ikhontrakthi, lo luphawu lokungakhathali kweemvakalelo, kunye neenjongo ezifihliweyo, hayi ukuzithemba kwisiqingatha semibini. Ingcinga ikhanyisa entloko ukuba olo xwebhu luza kutshabalalisa i-rolintics kwaye ubeke umnqamlezo kuthando lwaphakade. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kwabasetyhini- "phakathi kwethu nothando!".
Kwaye ukuba ucinga ngaluphi uhlobo losapho olucinga malunga naluphi uhlobo lobomi losapho? Ke kuyaqhubeka nokusebenza kubudlelwane! Ewe ewe kanye! Batyale nje kumaqabane akhe njengabaxhasi ngezinto, kodwa ngokomoya. Kwaye kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi obalulekileyo? Ilungile le nto - inzuzo. Kwaye inzuzo entsatsheni yosapho lolonwabo kunye nokuhambelana kokomoya.
I-Psychology yasetyhini imi kwindawo yokuqala. Okanye endaweni yoko - imiba yengqondo. Ke ngoko, ngeengcinga ngemvumelwano yomtshato, iingxaki zesicwangciso sengqondo sivela, kukho imvakalelo yokungathandeki. Amanenekazi amahle akaqondi ukuba uza kuthetha njani ngezinto ezinjalo, kwaye uninzi lwamaxhala alomeleleyo, "kwaye ngantoni ngathi kuya kuthini zingqonge abantu." Kwaye abafazi abaninzi bayathanda ukuphinda ukuba ikhontrakthi yomtshato yindlela ethe ngqo kuqhawulo mtshato.
Nangona kunjalo, isini esitshatileyo sibalulekile kwaye siyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba uyilo lolu xwebhu luphambene, isiphawuli sokuzithemba ngokunyaniseka kwiqabane labo, kunye nolwalamano lwayo, kuba onke amaXeshane sele isonjululwe. Ngokuhambelana, unokunandipha ubomi, wakhe ubudlelwane bexesha elide kunye nokucinga ngecala lokuziphatha komtshato, kuba icala lezezimali sele lisonjululwe! Oko kukuthi, ndize ndizenze ndinoyolo! Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ikhontrakthi yomtshato ayisiyo yokuqulunqwa koxwebhu olunelungelo lokuqhawula umtshato kwixesha elizayo. Esi sisivumelwano kwicandelo lempahla kunye nepropathi yeseli entsha yoluntu - usapho, malunga nenkqubo yezemali. Kwaye iodolo kuyo yonke into yabasetyhini ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye iyafuneka. Kwaye oku ngamandla olu xwebhu! Ke ngoko, kutheni le nto ubomi bube lula kwaye ngoko nangoko buzise i-odolo entsatsheni?
Imvumelwano yomtshato kukukhuseleka kwepropathi yakho. Kwimvumelwano yomtshato kuya kubakho ulawulo olwahlukileyo lwamaqabane kwaye ukuba omnye wamaqabane awela kwinqanaba lamatyala, uya kuphendula amatyala akwisabelo sakhe sepropathi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ihlala yenzeka ukuba umyeni anyamalale emva koqhawulo-mtshato, kodwa eshiya amatyala akhe ...
Ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye umzuzu wokubhaliswa kwemali mboleko. Imali mboleko ithatha phantse bonke abantu kwaye kuyo yonke into emalunga nomthengi kwimali mboleko. Inqaku lokuba izibophelelo zetyala lenza ukuba iqabane lakho likhuphe imali mboleko liza kusombulula ingxaki yokwahlula intlawulo yemali mboleko ngexesha loqhawulo mtshato.
Xa usenza imvumelwano yomtshato, kunokwenzeka ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngubani oza kufumana isipho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, iimbambano ezininzi kunye nokungavisisani kubangela izipho, ngakumbi ngomtshato. Kunye nokuhonjiswa kwemali kunye neemveliso ezivela ku-sur, kuthengwe emtshatweni - kuya kuza koobani? Rhoqo, amadoda emtshatweni anika ii-halves zawo zobukhulu, iingubo zoboya, iimoto kunye nexesha lenkqubo yokukrwada wonke umntu ufuna ukushiya isiphelo sale mipho kwaye ugqiba kwelokuba ulungiselelo lwekhontrakthi yomtshato.
Kananjalo, olu xwebhu luya kunceda ukulungelelanisa imicimbi yezemali yamaqabane - ukufumanisa iindleko zeendleko kwaye ucwangcise ukufunyanwa kwentloko. Xa ifikelela kwimvumelwano yomtshato, iya kufakwa ukuba yeyiphi ingeniso eya kwimali yohlahlo-lwabiwo mali lonke, kwaye ikwiindleko zobuqu ("epokothweni").
Kwaye okomzuzu olandelayo kuya kuba luncedo kubafazi abangasebenziyo ngakumbi. Abafazi abaninzi bazinikela ngobuchule kusapho kwaye emva koqhawulo mtshato akukho nto. Akukho msebenzi, akukho msebenzi, akukho mvuzo. Ukongeza, ibinzana leqabane lakho lihlala livakala kwiNkqubo yokuSutyiwa yeS screya-"Wayengasebenzi." Xa usenza isivumelwano somtshato, into iya kubandakanywa, eya kuthi inyanzelise iqabane ukuba lihlawule isibonelelo, kunye nento ngokulungiswa kwexabiso lenzuzo yesibonelelo kunye ne-frequency yentlawulo yayo.
Ngokubanzi, ikhontrakthi yomtshato ikhuselekile kakhulu imicimbi yesondo entle. Ke ngoko, akunyanzelekanga ukuba basebenzise ibinzana elithi "isivumelwano somtshato asisiyo imigaqo-nkqubo", kufanelekile ukuba siye kwiYilo laso.
Kufanelekile ukuba ucinge malunga nokuqinisekiswa kwe-vansal yeqabane leqabane. Kwaye akukho nto icekisayo. Ukuba kwindawo yokuqala kwindawo yokuqala akukho zixabiso zezinto ezibonakalayo, emva koko amaqabane ezexesha elizayo aya kusayina ngokukhuselekileyo.
Xa uqukumbela umtshato, ukubalwa, okwaneleyo kwaye kuya kuba njalo. Kwaye ukuba abantu abancinci basondeza umtshato kunye noxanduva olunzulu noxanduva, ke olo xwebhu lubalulekileyo alukhathaze. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubumelwane bababini baqala-ngokweemvakalelo nangokuqina - umtshato buya komeleza kuphela. Uthando luya kuphela, kwaye imiba yepropathi iya kuhlala. Kwaye abafazi basenabo abantwana abafuna 'babeke iinyawo zabo. " Kwaye akusoloko umyeni wangaphambili uya kunceda. Kwaye ikhontrakthi yomtshato iya kunyanzeleka ukuba igcine umfazi nabantwana bayo.
Umtshato yintsebenziswano nemeko "yenqanawa" iyimfuneko yangaphambili. Kwaye ndingena kwithandabuzo kwaye ndibone izibonelelo zoyilo lwekhontrakthi yomtshato, isiqingatha sakho siya kuvuma ukuqukumbela kwakhe.
Ukuba kusenokwenzeka ngaphambi kokugqitywa komtshato awukayifumani imvume kulo mbandela, kuya kufuneka ukwazi kwaye ukhumbule ukuba olu xwebhu lunokugqitywa emva komtshato, nangaliphi na ixesha lobomi bakho. Mhlawumbi, emva kwexesha elithile emva kokupheliswa komtshato, ukuzithemba kumaqabane ngokunxulumene nomnye kuya kuba ngaphezulu, iingcinga ezifanayo ziya kuphinda zibuyekeze, kwaye kungacwangciswanga "kunye nemvumelwano yomtshato iya kuba Ityikitywe.