Umbhali we-Fontastic Marika-I-Switmarey Alere yendlela entsha kwintsomi yesayensi yi-biofank yengqondo yengqondo. UMerika wayefuna inoveli engaqhelekanga, imiqulu emibini yalo "ukuzalwa komntu", "ukusweleka komsebenzi" - esele ipapashwe. Le ncwadi ayinamdla nje ngokwemigaqo yoncwadi, kodwa iluncedo ngokwe-psychology. YINTONI NAMHLANJE NGOKU KUPHELA.
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo into engaqhelekanga le nto intsomi, i-fantasy ngakumbi, ithwele ixabiso elithile kubafundi. Yintoni kanye kanye onokuyifunda kuyo?
Ngokwenyani ndibonisa zonke izinto "zokungalingani" zamadoda nabafazi. Ngokubanzi, uJi weba intombi enyulu, kuba umfazi ungcono kuwo onke amacala, ayinakukhusela, kodwa ikhusela eyakhe, isoloko iyindlela yokufumana into efunekayo. Wonke umntu uhlala kwizibonelelo zayo, kodwa ukusetyenziswa komnye umntu kunokuba ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
1. Ukulingana kwamaxabiso. Ndiyenza kuwe, kuba kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe kwindalo iphela kwaye ndiyayithanda into endiyenzayo kuwe. Kuba ekugqibeleni, ndisayenza kulonwabo lwam.
2. I-Lichivo-igwala. Xa umntu engazithembi kwixabiso lakhe kwazenzele yona. Ke isinyobo, i-blackmail, ixhaphaza yonke into inokuthi, kubandakanya iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ze-propaganda kunye nengcinezelo yengqondo nezengqondo.
Kutheni le nto abafazi behlala beqala ukuphila ubomi bomntu wabo?
Ithini le ncwadi malunga
Umlawuli we-Depourtic ji wetha intombazana egama linguHakiss ebuya ebuntwaneni, kwaye, edidekile eluthandweni olupheleleyo ngokwakhe, wenza ukuba abe ngumgwebi - ogqibeleleyo. I-Khakiss, yi-bass, inobuchule be-telepathicac eyahlukileyo kwaye iyakwazi ukuphinda iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde ibe nasiphi na isidalwa esiphilayo kwindawo eselula. Ubomi be-crum kukungazenzi ukuba basebenze i-Emperor, ukuba yinto yakhe ukuba angayinika okanye isebenzise njengomgwebi, amaxesha athile asuse inkumbulo yakhe. Kukuba nakuphi na ukungathobeli okanye ukubonakaliswa komlinganiswa, uTiran Wohlwaywe ngenkani intombazana, kwaye ukuzithoba kwakunikezelwa rhoqo. Kodwa ngenye imini, usana lwafumanisa ukuba ulilinge eliqhelekileyo, oludingayo oludingayo lokufezekisa iinjongo zakhe zobuqu.
Kodwa ngoku sele kunzima ngakumbi. Kuba kuyimfuneko kuqala ukuqonda, ukuzenza ubomi bakho, phakathi kweemeko zokwenyani nangeentsomi kunye neminqweno. Kwaye apha nganye inako. Abanye baxakekile 'kumthendeleko' wabo osasaza ukukhathalela koomama kuyo yonke into ngeenxa zonke, balibale ngokwabo. Oko kukuthi, i-crumb ngumzekelo we-hyperttrophic womfazi. Ishiywe ngokupheleleyo kwindoda yakhe. Kwaye ngexesha lohambo, uzijonga.
Logama nje umntu obhinqileyo akasiqondi ukubaluleka kwakhe, uya kuba nongaphantsi komnye umntu. Apha ndikwisiqhwithi, apha ayikho kumxhaphali ingxaki, kodwa kwi-crumb. Oko kukuthi, kumgaqo othile, "uvumelekile" - kukho umlinganiso wayo wenyaniso.
Kwaye njani ukuba uqonde njani eli xabiso, ukuba kukho uxinzelelo olusisigxina kunye nengcebiso evela kumntu othandekayo?
Kungenxa yoko le nto ndibhale incwadi enceda ukuvula amehlo akho kwinyaniso, nokuba ungathini na. Kwaye ukujongana nomntu okuthandayo kwaye ngoba. Umntu ngokwakhe ufanele acinge ngexabiso lakhe kuqala. Kuba uphila ubomi bakhe, nokuba uya kukwenza, yiyo le nto.
Oko kukuthi, kutheni ndiqala? Yonke into ihamba kakuhle kwaye imangalisa: Ukungabikho kweyona ndawo iphela, yonke indalo eneqela le-Superconders lihlala ngothando oluqinileyo kunye nolonwabo kunye ne-batz! -Ngakuphela yonke into ilunge kakhulu kwaye ihambela phambili, kweyona nto imbi. Ngoba?! Ukusuka kwelinye icala: Yonke into iyamangalisa. Umyeni, umsebenzi, ilungiselelo elipheleleyo. Kwaye uqala ukujonga ngaphakathi-yonke into imbi ngokupheleleyo. Kutheni le nto? Kwaye njani ukumisela yonke into, ukuze kuhle kwaye ngaphakathi? Nantsi i-cruimb kule ndlela ngokuthe cwaka ihamba. Kodwa ekuqaleni ufanele abone ukuba kubi.
Kutshanje kwabakho isisongo esinomzekeliso weTV, wathi amaxhoba ogonyamelo ngokwawo abekek 'ityala ngabo abangazange benze nto abangabethanga. Ucinga ukuba iyinyani na le ngxelo?
Nasiphi na isigqibo senye kunye nokunyanzelwa / ukunyanzeliswa-akufuneki ukuba sibe njalo, kodwa apha kubalulekile ukuba nenkqubo ye-pemanti, njengoko abantu kufuneka bakhuselwe kwi-freak. Ongenayo ukuqonda kwemida yobuntu bomnye umntu. Oko kukuthi, naziphi na izaphuli-mthetho kufuneka zihluthwe ithuba lokuzisa ukonakala komzimba okanye zokuziphatha kwabanye abantu.
Ndithatha ingxaki ebanzi yobuntu kumyili ngaphandle kwedabi kunye ne-absurrr. Umxhaphazi yingxaki yangasese, ukhetho lobudlelwane babantu abaphilayo, abangabufumanisiyo ubuntu kunye nembonakalo.
Kukholelwa ukuba idini ngokwalo lifuna ukuba lusizi kumaqabane, ngaba kunjalo?
Kwimeko yokuqonda inyani yokuqonda kwengqondo-ukuba ixhoba lifunekile, ngemka. Uninzi lwamaxhoba kwixesha elizayo bakheke abahlukumezi ngamaqabane. Kodwa apha kufuneka uqwalasele izinto ezimbini:
1. Ukusuka kwinqanaba lokujonga izinto zokuziphatha zokuziphatha- ukuwa komnye umntu kakubi.
Ukuba ungumhlazi-Jonga i-maschist, kwaye ungazenzi i-masochist kwinto yokuqala.
2. SEARINE abanye konke konke akulunganga.
Kwaye njani ukufumana ubudlelwane ngokudibeneyo ngokubanzi?
Kwihlabathi elahlukileyo kakhulu, kufuneka sifunde ukuphila kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neenqobo ezahlukeneyo. Imfazwe ayizisi namnye umntu, kwanabaphumeleleyo ukuba bangcwabe ilahleko yabo, kwaye kunye nezixhobo zanamhlanje akuyi kubakho njani, ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukufunda phakathi kwenkcubeko yezihlanganisi kunye nabaphathe bazo. Oko kukuthi, eyona nto iphambili yinkululeko yakho yokuthatha omnye umntu njengoko kunjalo, ngelixa engenziwa emphefumlweni wakho.
Oko kukuthi, Trion-Inkululeko yakho iphela apho inkululeko yomnye umntu iqala khona kwaye le bhalansi imbi kakhulu ibalulekile ekusindeni uluntu.
Nantsi into ephambili yokubeka kwaye ithobele le mida. Ngaba kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe ukuba intombi yakho ihamba ntoni - isiketi okanye ibhulukhwe? Ngaba umchweli komnye umfazi womnye umntu uza kukukhathazeka xa wayezanelise lo mfazi nomyeni wakhe? Kodwa kulungile ude undenze ukuba unxibe umnqweno wakho. Oko kukuthi, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ngokucacileyo apho imida yobuqu, kwaye uya konwaba.
