Ukukhuliswa komntwana akuyonto kuphela kwimigaqo oyifaka ngaphakathi kwintsapho, kwaye uthatha inxaxheba ebomini bomntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali abafuni kuthatha isibakala sokuba unxibelelwano lwabo phakathi kwabo kunye nabanye abantu abadala luye lwangena ngokugqibeleleyo ngengqondo ekhawulezayo. Umntwana wakho akufuneki akhule ngengcinga yokuba ihlabathi lilungiselelwe kuye, kwaye umbono onjalo unokwenziwa ukuba abazali ngokwabo basengozini. Ke yeyiphi imibandela ebusweni bomntwana kufuneka ikhutshiwe okanye ikhutshelwe ngaphandle? Masiyifumane.
Ukugxekwa okunzima kwabanye abantu
Akukho mntu ungangekheli umhlaba, yinto eqhelekileyo. Kwangelo xesha, uninzi lwethu luyathanda ukunika uvavanyo olubukhali kwaye ngamanye amaxesha luvavanyo olungenabulungisa lwezenzo zabanye abantu. Ukucacisa umntwana, ukuba, masithi le ndoda iguqukela kwisibane esibomvu siphantse 'sinentloni yoluntu, "ufundisa umntwana ukuba abelane nehlabathi kumnyama nomhlophe. Ukuba ufuna ukuxelela umntwana, indlela yokwenza kwimeko enye okanye enye, zama ukwenza oku ngaphandle kokuvavanywa kokuvavanywa kwenye, ngakumbi umntu ongaqhelekanga kuwe.
Ingxubusho yootitshala
Mhlawumbi, wonke umzali nguhayi, kodwa wakhalaza ngotitshala wesikolo. Ewe, utitshala akanakusoloko efumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye nomntwana kwaye awunyanzelekanga ukuba uvume utitshala. Kwaye kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba intsebenzo yomntwana wakho ixhomekeke kulo mntu, ukongeza, ukungalunganga kwenu kwindlela katitshala kuya kumnika umntwana "inkonzo yezandla": Uya kunika ithuba lokutyeshela ngokupheleleyo i Amagama kunye nezicelo zoMfundisi, ngokwenza ngokungafikeleliyo engazinzanga. Ngapha koko, oku kusebenza kungekuphela kootitshala besikolo, kodwa nakwabanye abantu abadala abanxibelelana nomntwana wakho.
Sukugxeka izihlobo
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I-Opper
Kunzima ukuhlala kwinkcazo, ukudlula kweTV, apho kukho enye intetho ebonisa intetho. Umntwana ngokomgaqo akalula ukunika esi sihloko, ngakumbi ukuba sithetha ngabafundi abancinci, konke okuthe kratya ngokuvakalayo kuthathwa ngumntwana kwaye kusasazwa kwiindawo ezingafanelekanga kwesi sihloko. Lumnka.
I-Taboo ekugxekeni kwezalamane
Ungamthiya umama womyeni wam okanye iqabane lakho nxamnye notatomkhulu wakho kwikhaya lakho, kodwa kuba abantwana bakho abathandwa kunye nabantu bomthonyama. Ukugxekwa kwakho kunye ne-gogo kwicala labo akucaci ukuba abantwana, kwaye ukungaqondi kukhokelela kukhokelela kwixhala. Ingakumbi iingxaki zivela phakathi kukatata notata, ngelixa ngalinye lamaqela lizama "liphakamise" umntwana ecaleni kwakhe. Khumbula ukuba akukho nto, ngaphandle kokudideka, emva koko ithatyathe indawo ngumsindo kuwo ombi wobabini, awuyi kukhokela izenzo zakho.
I-Cacculysm
Ehlabathini, iziganeko zenzeka minyaka le ukuba umntu akakwazi ukulawula oko kubalulekileyo nje. Ewe kunjalo, umntwana unokuba nemibuzo yokuba kutheni ubomi obuqhelekileyo butshintshile kakhulu okanye kunye notitshala esikolweni okanye kwisangqa esithi, umsebenzi wakho kukuchaza umbuzo onzima, ngaphandle kokuvalelwa kweenkcukacha kwaye kunokwenzeka Isiphumo. Abantwana bathwaxwa kwiindaba ezimbi kunye nengqondo ekhawulezileyo isenokungathi ingathi ingathi.