Baba ngunobangela wezaxa-zamva, ukuwa kweentsapho kwaye zenze abantu abamnika abanye abantu bahambe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Bayawathiya abafazi nangamadoda ngamaxesha athile bacinga ngayo. Namhlanje sithetha ngethemba. Yintoni enomdla, abanye abantu basetyhini baphatha kakubi (ukuba kunjalo, abahlaseli iintsapho zabo), njengommiselo, intombazana iba yinto ejijekileyo enomntu okhuselweyo ongakhathaliyo izipho ezixabisa kunye nezimbo zomzimba. Kodwa ngaba kusengqiqweni ukuphilisa umfazi ukuba kufuneka alawule iimvakalelo zakhe aze ayinze onke amabali amatsha abahlobo nezihlobo? Sukucinga. Siza kuxelela malunga nezizathu ezine eziya kukubulala kwinto yokuba ikati yesithathu kulwalamano ayinantliziyo.
Ixesha eliphosiweyo lokungabuyi
Nokuba lo mfazi akazange aqinisekise ngayo umfazi ukuba ubuntu buhlala iminyaka, amathuba okuba usapho luya kuwa phantsi le ndoda ukwakha usapho ngenkosikazi yayo, incinci kakhulu. Njengomthetho, umntu wanele ukuba uhlala kwindawo anokumqhubela kuyo endlwini ukuba kuye kwavela umfazi wakhe. Kodwa ngokukhululeka okufanayo, umntu uza kubuyela ekhaya, eshiya inkosikazi ukuba abandezeleke ngokulindela intlanganiso elandelayo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba umphimo umfazi uchithe ixesha lokukhohlisa?
Ubomi kwindima yesibini
Indoda inolwalamano ecaleni, xa ubomi kunye ne-monontoy yobomi buqala ukumxhasa ngokukhawuleza. Inkosikazi emehlweni endoda ngumfazi onokuthintela obu bomi kwaye iphumle njengoko ingenakwenzeka ngenkosikazi yayo ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Indoda ayikha izicwangciso ezinzulu, kwaye ke umfazi kunye neminqweno yakhe iya kuhlala iphambili. Inkosikazi ihlala iqhubeka, kwaye imeko enjalo iya kulungiselela umfazi omncinci.
Ukungathandeki kubudlelwane kukhokelela kuxinzelelo olungapheliyo
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I-neurosis esisigxina
Eyona thabatha i-thabatha kwisikhundla senkosikazi-ayinaso isimo. Akukho namnye usapho ngaphandle kwabahlobo okanye olinganayo ongamaziyo ubukho bayo, kodwa kuya kufuneka ufihle, phephe iifoto eziqhelekileyo ofuna ukuba nomntu wakho, kodwa akunakwenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuba nawuphi na umntu obhinqileyo aqonde ukuba unenkxaso, kodwa umntu otshatileyo akanakuwunika ngenxa yokuba ixhomekeke kusapho lwayo, okuthetha ukwahlukana nawo nangaliphi na ixesha ukuba angakwazi. Xa imvakalelo yokungakhuseleki iqala ukufumana amandla, yonke into inokuphelisa ukwahlukana nengxabano kunye nokuxabana okukhulu, okuya kukhokelela ekubeni nentembelo yakhe, kodwa ayiyi kuyicaphukisa le ndoda - inkosikazi enye inokuthi itshintshwe enye.
Ukubangenakubi kubonisa iimvakalelo
Kwindoda, inkosikazi ichasene nomfazi wayo, enokukhalaza, ukuba iqondwe ngokumodareyitha, ngamaxesha athile ajongeka njengomyeni wakhe. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kwinkosikazi kuya kuyeka umntu. Ngenxa yoko, zonke iigusha zakhe ezityebileyo, inkosikazi inyanzelwa ukuba ifihle kwaye ingavumeli umntu okhangela ukuphumla ezandleni zomfazi wakhe wesibini. Ukuba umntu obhinqileyo uyavumelana nokwazi "ngokungekho semthethweni", kufuneka akulungele ukuba kuya kuhlala kuxhomekeka kwimeko kunye neminqweno yendoda. Ayisiyonto inomdla kakhulu kakhulu, ungafumani?