Iholide yosapho yinto eninzi abantu abalinde kuyo yonke iveki yomsebenzi. Kodwa kukho neempelaveki ezolileyo, emva koko ndifuna ukuphumla kwakhona. Ukudinwa kuqokeleleka, ukucaphuka koqoqosho kuyavela, kukho iingxabano entsatsheni, kuba wonke umntu uyabona ukuphumla ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Konke oku kungenxa yokuba abantu abakwazi ukwenza isigqibo sokuba ungalichitha njani ixesha nentuthuzelo kunye. Ukuba ezi ngxaki ziqhelekile kuwe, emva koko sicebisa ukuba sijonge kumsitho "weemvakalelo eziphilayo". Kulapha ukuba uya kufumana incoko ephezulu yosapho, kwaye ngamnye amakhaya uya kufumana umdlalo ofanelekileyo kuye.
Vumelani, ngamanye amaxesha kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana ixesha lakho kunye nosapho lwakho, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, fumana amandla okutyhala. Iholide yosapho ibalulekile kwaye kuba idibanisa abantwana kunye nabantu abadala. Kwabaninzi, kubalulekile ukuba babe neminqweno, kwaye izicwangciso ezihlanganisiweyo zobomi ziphakanyisiwe, kwaye ukuqonda kophuhliso lwabo kuya kuvela.
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Ke ngoko, kutheni, ukuba endaweni yeholide yosapho eqhelekileyo kwi-cafe okanye kwipaki yokuzihlaziya, chitha ixesha ngokwenene ngenjongo yosapho lwakho? Ukuba yile nto uyifunayo, ukuba le yinto osilela kuyo usapho lwakho - wamkelekile kumnyhadala weemvakalelo ophilayo.
Umsitho wenzelwe ukuba abaphulaphuli abaninzi, ngoko ke kukho indawo yokuhlala kwaye kubantu abadala, nangabathathi-nxaxheba abancinci. Emthendeleko baya kufumana umdlalo kunye nabantwana abancinci, ukuqala kwiminyaka emithathu yobudala.
Isithuba somnyhadala sahlulwe saba yimimandla ebopheleleneyo. Ukuze ukhethe wena umdlalo ungaqhelekanga-chonga isihloko semidla kwimidlalo yeli candelo, kwaye sele uhleli phantsi etafileni ngokuchongwa kolu mbala.
Kwakhona, indawo yomthendeleko yahlulwe yiminyaka ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emithathu ukuya kwemithandathu, ukusuka kwishumi elinambini ukuya kwishumi elinambini ukuya kwishumi elinambini leminyaka elishumi elinambini ukuya kwelishumi elinababini. Amacandelo anjalo ayenzelwe ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana ngamnye wayeziva ekhululekile phakathi koontanga bakhe. Kule midlalo, abantwana abakaze bachithe ixesha, kodwa bafunda ngeetalente kunye nobuchule babo. Kodwa oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kuyimfuneko.
Ukongeza, umdlalo unemali yayo-la ngamakhadi eemvakalelo ezikhuthaza abanye abathathi-nxaxheba kwaye zikhokele. Emva komdlalo ngamnye, iKhadi elinye kufuneka linikwe umgcini womdlalo. Uza kufuna ukunika imvakalelo, kuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela. Ekupheleni kosuku, abo baza kufundisa baya kubalwa impilo yabo yeemvakalelo kunye nabo bazuze okungakumbi baya kufumana imeko "yokukhokelela" ngokukhokelela "kwi-rolk jwerk".
Ekupheleni komnyhadala "zilungile", la makhadi angatshintshwa ngezipho.
Ngaba ungathanda ezinye iimvakalelo? Yiza neencwadi kunye nebhodi yebhodi kumthendeleko ongasafuneki. Kumthendeleko kuya kubakho ukutshintshiselana neencwadi ezithandwayo kunye nemidlalo yeBhodi nabanye abathathi-nxaxheba bomthendeleko.
Umthendeleko unemigaqo yayo.
Isithuba siya kwahlulwa sibe ziindawo ezinokukunceda ukhetha ngokuthe ngqo indlela yomdlalo:
* ubudlelwane,
* Impumelelo yeenjongo,
* Khangela iintsingiselo
* Sebenza ngengqumbo kunye noloyiko
* Imvume yemicimbi yezemali,
* Ukusebenza kunye nawomthonyama
* Khangela ukuphuma kwimeko enzima nakwabanye.
Abathathi-nxaxheba kuMthendeleko banokuba ngabantu abathetha isiNgesi. Iitafile zemidlalo ezahlukileyo ziya kulungelelaniswa.
Abantwana baya kunikwa ukuba baphuhliswe imidlalo yeBhodi.
Umdlalo omnye uhlala iiyure ezimbini.
Emthendeleko, uya kuba nakho ukuqhelana nababhali bemidlalo kunye nobuchule. Kwaye ukuba unqwenela ukuthenga.
Umnyhadala wosapho ujolise ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo yosapho lonke.
Kwaye ukuhlala emthendelekweni akukho kuphela ixesha elichwayitile kunye nomsitho onomdla kwimidlalo yenguqu. Wena nabantwana bakho uya kuxela ezo talente ungazaziyo ngaphambili. Funda ngakumbi malunga nolwalamano oluvela kusapho kwaye unokutshintsha oko kudala. Yenze kuphela kwifomathi ye-teme ofikekayo.
Kwaye abo banomdla wokuzikhusela baya kwenza inyathelo elikhulu lenguqu yobomi babo kwaye kwifom yomdlalo iya kuba nakho ukuphuhlisa izakhono eziyimfuneko koku.
Ngapha koko, eyona nguqu ixabisekileyo lulonwabo lwabantu abasondeleyo kuthi. Nguwuphi owona mdlalo unzima? Lo ngumdlalo wobomi. Kwaye eyona ndlela isebenzayo nelungileyo iyadlula nezalamane zakho! Yiyo loo nto umthendeleko wenziwe njengentsapho ngendlela yendawo, apho unokuza neqabane lakho, abantwana bakho, nabazali kunye nemidlalo yokudlala imidlalo. Kodwa umthathi-nxaxheba unokuza yedwa kwaye ukuqonda kwakhe ngexesha lomdlalo kuya kuba sisifudumeleyo esikhanyisela ukukhanya kwabo bonke abaza kuba sekunye naye!