Oomama abaninzi balinde xa bebaleka kwinkathalo yasekhaya xa bengayi kuba ngumfazi weshishini kwakhona kwaye baqhubeke nemisebenzi yabo yobungcali, kodwa indlela yokuphuma kommiselo ihlala ihamba kunye noxinzelelo. Zama ukunciphisa olu xinzelelo ngeengcebiso zam ezilula.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba ufanele uyithande into oyenzayo. Vuka ngengcinga yokuba yimfuneko ukuya kumsebenzi ongafunwanga, kunzima kakhulu, kwaye ushiye umntwana oyithandayo kumsebenzi ongathandwayo. Akukho nto ilungileyo kule nto ayizukusebenza, ngokuhlwa awuyi kuba namandla osapho kwaye ndiza kongeza ukucaphukisa. Andizukudinwa kukuphinda-phindwayo lixesha elihle lokufunda indlela yokuthembela kwizakhono eziyimfuneko kwaye ekugqibeleni bakufumanise oko ngaphambi kokuba ulwe nguwe.
Qiniseka ukuba ulungiselela ukwahlukana nawe, kunye nomntwana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, eli linqanaba elitsha ebomini bakho, nangalo - inqanaba elitsha lokukhula. Akufanelanga ukuba uhambe nemvakalelo yokuba unetyala kule nto uyishiyayo, babwana kufuneka baphuhlise kwaye balazi umhlaba, kwaye kweli lizwe akukho kuphela.
Ukumisela kwangaphambili umntwana wakho oya kuhlala naye: umhlohli we-kindergarten / gooner / nnanny. Musa ukudibanisa inyathelo lokuguqulela ngentsuku zokuqala zomsebenzi, kungcono ukulungisa imeko kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ukuze umntwana aqhelene neemeko ezintsha, kwaye akuzange ubenoloyiko emsebenzini, njengomntwana Apho ngaphandle kwakho.
Njengoko uneeyure ezimbalwa zasimahla, ngelixa umntwana edlula, lixesha lokuba ayokuthenga izinto ezintsha. Phuma emsebenzini. Qikelela njengesizathu sokunxiba kunye nepeyinti yonke imihla, kuba siya kuba sinyanisekile: Sihleli nomntwana, sihlala silibala ngathi.
Ngelixa ubukwikhefu lokuya kubeleka, okuninzi kunokutshintsha, kodwa awuzukukoyika oku. Khawufane ucinge indlela epholileyo kakhulu ukunxibelelana nabo osebenza nabo, funda kwaye uphumle kwintsimi yakho. Ewe, kuqala bekungayi kuba lula, kodwa wakhawuleza waqhela, kuba umama angakwazi konke! Umama unezakhono zolawulo lwexesha aziswe emfezekweni.
Qaphela ibhalansi phakathi komsebenzi kunye nosapho. Sukuthatha imicimbi yabanye abantu kwaye ungavumeli oogxa baxhoma imisebenzi yethu kuwe. Funda ukuthi "hayi". Ke umsebenzi wakho awuyi kubandezeleka, imisebenzi iya kugqitywa ngexesha, kwaye ii-nerves zicocekile. Sukuzizisa ekufuduseni ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Ngorhatya, yenza uluhlu lwamatyala ngomso. Kuya kukunceda ukutshintshela kwimodi yokuzonwabisa, musa ukugcina izinto entloko kwaye uchithe ixesha nosapho lwakho.
Ukuphuma kummiselo yinqanaba elitsha lokufumana wonke umntu, kodwa eli xesha lotshintsho kufuneka lifunelwe kuphuhliso olupheleleyo nonina, kunye nomntwana. Yonwaba emva kwako konke, zininzi kakhulu ezifunyenweyo ngaphambili.