Yonke intombazana iphupha ukunxiba isinxibo esimhlophe kwaye sithi "ewe" le ndoda eyakwazi ukukhetha isitshixo sentliziyo yakhe. Sivala amehlo akho kwiingozi zomntu okhethiweyo ngethemba lokuba zonke ezi zinto zizinto ezincinci xa uthando luphakathi kwethu. Kwiminyaka embalwa kamva, ndiphendula imibuzo kwi-psychologist: "Emncinci yayisisidenge." Kodwa sifikelele kwisigqibo kuphela xa sele isusiwe: umtshato, ukukhulelwa, ukuzalwa komntwana, iingxabano, iingcinga ngoqhawulo-mtshato. Kwaye xa sele siqiniseke ukuba abazali bethu: "Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, olu luthando lokwenene!" Masifumanise ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwamadoda kufuneka luphephe, ke ukunganyanga inxeba kwingcali.
Udidi lokuqala ngabantu abaneengxaki ezinkulu zengqondo kunye nabantu abanengxaki kuzo zonke iintlobo zokuxhomekeka: Abadlali benyamakazi, amatywala, iziyobisi zeziyobisi njalo njalo. Ayilungelanga ukukhohlisa kangangokuba ungasindisa umphefumlo olahlekileyo. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, lo "mphefumlo" uza kukuthatha ezantsi. Sukuthatha uxanduva lomntu ongekhe atshintshe. Amadoda aqhelekileyo ehlabathi anele, kufanelekile ukusebenza kancinci, iingcinga zethu kunye nezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ebomini.
Ukuhlaselwa komsindo-isizathu sokucinga malunga nokuba kufanelekile ukuba kudalwe usapho ngomntu onjalo
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Udidi lwesibini - amadoda anotyekelo lolwaphulo-mthetho kunye nenkohlakalo, enyanisweni, ngabantu abangenampilo abangenampilo. Xa umntu engenasizathu esihle, ukuhlasela ubushushu kuyenzeka yintsimbi eyoyikisayo. Wayeyinto nje etyibilikisiweyo okanye umlindi akazange ayikhuphe le pizza- kwaye uyakhwaza, ngokungathi asungulwe kwibhulukhwe yakhe, kwaye kangangokuba 'eqaqanjelwe kwibhulukhwe yakhe, kwaye kangangokuba' emva kwe "isigameko" eqhubeka enomsindo kwaye ecaphuka. Ewe kunjalo, unokuyila izizathu ezahlukeneyo: Unomsebenzi onovalo, udiniwe, njl njl. Nangona kunjalo, akufanelekanga ukuba unethemba lokuba kwixa elizayo unyamezele. Into oyibonayo kwinqanaba lokuqala ubudlelwane lunokuphindaphindeka ngokukhuselekileyo ngo-20- kwaye uziva ukuba imeko izakuba yiyo emva kweminyaka emi-5 yomtshato.
Ngaba uyabelana ngezimvo malunga nosapho lomfana wakho ngokungacwangciswanga?
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Udidi lwesithathu alunamsebenzi ombi, iMarginal, ethintela amaxabiso aqhelekileyo, i-Taboo, uhlala kwimithetho yabo kuphela kwaye itshilo ifuneke kubo bonke. Guys ezimbi, njengoko uyazi, njengamantombazana. Ayiqhelekanga, inothando, i-sexy. Kodwa ngaba uqinisekile ukuba iimbono zentsapho yakho ziyahambelana nayo? Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba xa umxelela ukuba ukhulelwe, akasayi kushiya "iHarley" yakhe, "engaphezulu, ngaphandle kokushiya needilesi? Akaphila ngokwemithetho jikelele, kwihlabathi lakhe, mhlawumbi yile nto kanye ezayo amadoda okwenene. Ke ngoko, yiba ungasebenzi ngakumbi nazo zonke iintlobo ze-goths, iibhayisekile, iipakethi. Ubuncinci, sihlikihla ukuba yimalini, kwaye ingakanani imeko yomphefumlo kunye nobomi. Inyaniso yokuba iinwele ezimfusa kunye neendlela ezimfusa ezindlebeni, akukho ngxaki ukuba udale iminyaka yakhe iminyaka engama-30, wakha indlu yabazali bakhe kwaye sele elungele ukudala usapho. Le yingxaki kuphela ukuba akazange adale nantoni na ebomini bakhe, uphila ngokufumana abazali bakhe kwaye akazukugula ngolonwabo.
Bukela indlela obalisa ngayo umntu wakho ngomfazi wakhe
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Udidi lwesine ngamadoda atshatileyo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uqalise ubudlelwane kunye nabo? Isayensi iyaziwa xa umntu ongu-Ackerter oguqulwa waba ngumtshato wesibini. Kwanamabali ayaziwa xa umtshato uphumelele. Kodwa kufanele ukuba kukhathalelwe ukuba inani elikhulu lamadoda atshatileyo ajika iinkohliso konke konke ukuze atshate. Nangona kunjalo, le meko ayithinteli ekubeni bangafunga izithembiso zothando kunye nokusasaza. Ukuba uyakholelwa kwezi zithembiso ngesizathu esithile, ke ngoko gcina ukuba, ngokwemidlalo, ukuba umntu otshatileyo akatshatanga kumfazi wam, kodwa yonke into immangalela. Mamela indlela aphendula ngayo imibuzo malunga nenkosikazi yakhe. Ukuba uyakhuthele kakhulu, ngokuvisisayo kukhalaza, akhawuleze, athi abo bafuna ukushiya, kodwa malunga nabo bathandayo, bazame ukuphilisa. Ukuqaqazeka kwemiba umntu asabuxabisa ubudlelwane bomntu, nokuba banzima kangakanani na. Ukuba akakhumbuli ngenkosikazi yakhe, aze aphendule imibuzo yenye indlela, ehambisa isandla, sele elona phawu lubalaseleyo, oko kuthetha ukuba ayilonakaliswe kuye. Kodwa akufanelekanga ukuba kwabelwane ngako: Ukungakhathalelwa kwinkosikazi yakhe okwangoku kwesizathu sokuphosa. Ukuba uthatha yonke impelaveki uye e-Dacha, ohamba emtshatweni womfazi wakhe, ehamba nenkosikazi yakhe nabantwana ukuba baphumle kwikamva le-multicofered-uqiniseke ukuba ngumntu okwaziniyo ?