Tshatisa izigidigidi-uqhuba ntoni? Ukukhathala ebomini, umthombo oqokelelweyo endifuna ukutyala imali, umnqweno wokufumana into efana nento - yintoni ebonisa ukuba ukhusela amandla kwinto engaphezulu, ebaluleke ngakumbi? Kufanelekile ukuba ubhekise, kodwa nangayiphi na imeko, yonke iminqweno inokwenzeka - umgaqo ophambili awunqweneli, kodwa ke kusonwabo, ke umnqweno olungileyo uza kuzisa ulwaneliseko nolonwabo.
Wonke umntu obhinqileyo ufuna ukubona ecaleni kwakhe indoda ephumeleleyo kwaye iqhelekile. Ukuba ulinganisa impumelelo yamadoda ngemali, ethi ngoko inqaku eliyinjongo ngokupheleleyo lokukwazi ukhathalela iqabane kunye nabantwana abazayo, ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ube sisigidi senjongo. Ke indlela yokutshata nesigidi?
Ndicebisa wonke umntu obhinqileyo oxhalabisayo ngalo mbuzo, azibuze ukuba sitshatile siqonde ukuba awuyizi. Kutheni ufuna isigidi? Ngaba kungenxa yokuba ukwimigaqo engakulungelanga ukunika into kubudlelwane bakho? Kuxhomekeka kwindlela owuphendula ngayo lo mbuzo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ucinge ngayo ayisiyonto yokufumana isityebi, kodwa malunga nento ekufuneka uyitshintsha.
Akukho nto ibonakalayo, kodwa isukelo lokwenyani yindoda ethembisayo eya kuba nakho ukufezekisa imeko yezigidi kwikamva elibonakalayo. Wonke umntu uyaziwa ngale nto, kodwa ayingabo bonke abafazi abakulungele ukushiya amaphupha abo ngenkosana emhlophe kwi-Mercedes kwaye baqonde imfuneko yokufumana impilo-ntle yabo. "Wonke umntu obhinqileyo ufuna ukuvela phantsi kwesihlwele sesithsaba, kuyingxaki ngqo." Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuyafana nangokuba umgaqo awulungelanga naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye ukukhangela okungapheliyo kwisigidi esisisigidi njengowona mgqatswa ofanelekileyo sisizathu sayo. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ukugabha kwizigidi zeemali kusoloko sisizathu sokuhlalisa okungenani ukuze sihlalutye, kwaye sibe sekupheleni kotyelelo kwi-psychoanalyst.
Nangona kunjalo, eyona ngxaki iphambili ilapha kwelinye. Ujonga isigidi, okuthetha ukuba, kunokubakho, wena ungacwangcisi ukuba sisigidi, kuba kungenjalo iingcinga zakho ziya kuhlala zahluke ngokupheleleyo. Ngokufanelekileyo, amaphupha akho kunye namabhongo akho kufuneka alele kwindiza yempumelelo yabo, hayi ukuba ngumyeni onokubakho. Ngaphandle koko, ungenise ubomi bakho ngokupheleleyo kwaye uziqonda ukuba kwezinye iimeko kunokuba yingozi, kuba akukho mntu uyinyibilikileyo nxamnye nomthendeleko ngasemva, kwaye abanye, xa isicwangciso secandelo lepropathi sinikwe uqhawulo-mtshato -icekeceke kwaye icekeceke. Nangona kunjalo, inyani ye-charsh yeyokuba nantoni na eza kwanela iZicwangciso zakho ezinkulu ezazineliswa yindima ye-lover-umxholo kangangexesha elithile, kodwa zingabala ngaphezulu.
Ngayiphi na imeko, ukukhangela ngokwakho kunye nendlela yokuzifezekisa yinkqubo ebangela umdla, apho ucocekile, womelele kwaye uzithembile ngakumbi ukuba akukho thelekiswa nabasebenzi besityebi. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kuye kwaphela ukusilela, kuba isiqingatha samantombazana angayifumani indawo yabo ebomini bavakalise ukuzingela, nto leyo, kunjalo, akwanelanga wonke umntu. Ukuba awufuni ukuba ngomhlambi, jonga indlela yakho!
Ngaphandle kokuvela kwitotali ngasentla, mhlawumbi, kuphela la mantombazana anokuqhayisa ngezigidi ezikhuselekileyo kwaye afuna i-nkqu. Kodwa bona, njengoMthetho, musa ukuvela ngokukhangela kwesigidi, kuba okokuqala bangena kwisangqa sonxibelelwano. Ndithetha nje ngento yokuba wonke umntu akhethe egudileyo kwisiseko esi siluleko siluncedo kubafundi abasakwazi ukunika. Kuya kuba sengqiqweni ukucinga ukuba isigidi, ngaphandle kokuba, kunjalo, ayihambelani nolwaphulo-mthetho- Lo ngumba ongenayo, onobuchule kwaye ongenangqondo. Kwaye ngaphandle, akunakulindeleka ukuba unqabile ukusasazeka ngasekunene nangasekhohlo, kuba imali eqokelelweyo ifuna utyalomali, kwaye
Hayi inkunkuma. Intombazana efundileyo enamabhongo kunye noluvo lwakhe, olungahambelaniyo kwindoda efuna ukuqala ishishini okanye ihamba phambili ngexabiso lemali, kwaye inamaxesha alikhulu ngokutshata isigidi , nokuba ungaba yenye inkosikazi. Kuphela kolu lwazi kuphela ekufuneka kwenziwe isikhokelo ukuba senze ngokwakho, ke awuyi kuphulukana na.
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