Kwinqaku lokugqibela, siphikisana ngesizathu sokuba kube nzima ukuxolela abazali xa beneminyaka yobudala. Kwaye ayilunganga ngokupheleleyo ukuchukumisa isihloko esinjalo, sinciphise icala layo ngasemva. Kumntu, abazali bangabazi, nangomntu, iingelosi, zingaphantsi. Eyona nto ifanelekileyo, engenakuphikiswa, enothando kwaye intanda, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kwaye ikhululwe.
Ukuba ngumzali ngokwayo, ndingathi le, kunjalo, iphupha. Iphupha lokuba abantwana bam abazange bandikhuphe "akhawunti" ngenxa yeempazamo zam. Ukuzijonga kubo, njengakwisipili sonyoko, ndingathi: "Yonke into yenziwa ngokuchanekileyo." Intsomi enjalo inceda ukuthoba amandla otyala.
Ukuba ngumzali wale mihla kule mvakalelo ihlangane kakhulu. Ukuqala ngokukhulelwa, icala elichasayo lolonwabo liyiwayini, lilele ngokupheleleyo kumama kwaye lincinci kuye. Kwindlela engalunganga, yokukhula, indlela yokuziphatha, kamva, iWorld kunye nezenzo zomntwana zibekekile abazali. Ulungiselele uluntu. Ngophuhliso lwe-Intanethi, izihloko malunga netyala loomama nootata basiphezulu kwingxoxo. Amagqabantshintshi nge-Hesteg, uYazhem, aqalisa ukwenza izinto ezihlekisayo malunga nabantwana, iiposti malunga nabantwana ekhwaza inqwelomoya, ethanda ukulala nabanye abakhweli, bafumana ukuthandwa kwenethiwekhi yentlalo. Emehlweni oluntu, umama akafezekanga , Bawo ungaphantsi kwemibuzo kwinkcubeko yethu. Nawuphina umama, nantoni na, kwinxalenye ethile yoluntu, kuya kuba yinto ephosakeleyo kwaye ibe netyala ekukhetheni iindlela zokhathalelo kumntwana kunye nokukhula kwayo. Kwaye yintoni ekhoyo oomama abanjalo? Bancinane, yintoni ekhoyo?
Umntwana uthanda abazali bakhe ngaphandle kwemeko, kodwa akuyimfuneko ukuyisebenzisa
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Ababukeli kuphela abangaziyo ukuba kufanele ukuba kuba ngabantwana babo ngokuchanekileyo. Boyiswa ngayo nayiphi na intando yomzali. Yintoni eyona nto ilusizi, bayabathanda abazali babo, kwaye ngokufuthi oko bangabavumeli ukuba bawuphawule umzali wokwenyani okanye ophathwayo. Bazali ixesha elide bahlala behleli ebantwaneni. Kwaye ngale nto, ngelishwa, kulula ukuqala ukusebenzisa, ngaloo ndlela kukhuthaza ukungabikho kokusesikweni kwexesha elijikelezileyo. Nokuba umama uyazi ukuba unolwalamano olupheleleyo kulwalamano lwakhe, ukuvukela kwakhe, emva koko emehlweni omntwana, uyimfezeko esenza yonke into ukuze igcine usapho. Kwaye xa indoda ithe yenza imali kwaye yezemali inyamekele usapho, umntwana, ukuba uyathetha kakuhle, kuba ixesha elithile liya kuvelana noTata, kwaye lilinde umphefumlo kumsebenzi ongafundwanga.
Bonakalisa abazali bomntwana-Lowo lolona nqanaba. Ngaye, zizinto ezimbilini, ziyazimela amandla, amandla, inzaliseko yazo zonke izinto neemfuno zakhe, ngakumbi xa esemncinci. Ingxaki ivela xa abazali beqala ukwandisa ngokutsha kokuthandana nomntwana kubaphathi babo.
Kwimntwana, ineziphumo ezomeleleyo. Ukucinga kwishumi elivisayo kuyadilisela ukuze kuya kuba nzima kwaye kuvuze iziseko zabo, ezifunyenwe kwintsapho yomzali ngokuzalwa, zoyisa igunya labo kunye nenkululeko yazo. Kodwa yintoni le bhuncte esithetha ngayo? Ungahlangana njani neyona nto ilungileyo? Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ulungile. Ingenze ntoni?
Kodwa I-riot iyimfuneko ukuze kulungiswe ubuntu obugcweleyo . Akunakubakho mntu uzimeleyo ongaziyo indlela aziyo ukuzikhusela, exhomekeke kwimigwebo yakhe, alandele inyaniso. Ngokwesiqhelo, ezi zakhono zenziwa ngokulinganayo, kodwa azisenziwanga konke konke ukuba kukho umzali ofezekileyo. Kule minyaka yobudala yengqondo, umntu obambekile kwaye amashumi eminyaka aqala ukugqobhoza nabanye abasemagunyeni: amaqabane, abaphathi, abaLevi, abangabalusi, abafazi, abavela kwidilesi apho. Konke kuba xa umzali ofezekileyo wasebenzisa ithuba lothando lomntwana wakhe, wayithatha ngerente ukuze unciphise uxinzelelo lwetyala lakhe. Kwaye abantwana bakhe abakhulayo ababesele bedalele iintsapho zabo beziphatha njengamantombazana alishumi elinesithathu ubudala kunye nabafana, baziinqambile kwaye beyijongela phantsi intembelo apho kungafanelekanga khona.
Abazali abafanelekileyo abananto yokugxeka. Kodwa i-riot iyimfuneko yokuqulunqwa kobuntu bomntwana
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Kwaye kunjalo, umatshini ogqibeleleyo uphinda kwisizukulwana esilandelayo. Ngalo lonke ixesha umntu engaqali ukugweba ityala lakhe, azinzile xa ejongene nezinto zikawonke-wonke, ezingaphezulu kwexabiso lokwenyani. Okukhona abazali abaninzi bafunda ukukhulisa abantwana, ukuxhomekeka kwiinqobo ezisemgangathweni, abantwana abancinci kuya kufuneka bathwale iimpahla zabazali, kwaye ke bakhululeke kubomi babo kwaye babe yinyani ngakumbi. Inyani ikude kakhulu, kwaye inomdla.
Kodwa Kuthekani ukuba 'ubazali' abafanelekileyo? Ilungile? Qala ukwazisana nawe. Kunye nabo. Ndikunye nawe ubuxoki, ubugwala, gqitha, udlula, unganyanisekanga, onganyanisekanga, ongenakunyaniseka, ongakhathaliyo, ongahoywanga ... kwaye ubona olu fana nabazali bakho. Nokuba yenze ukuba kube lula kwaye kuya kuqala ukuba "iapile evela kumthi weapile ziwe." Ngamanye amaxesha ishiye iminyaka, kodwa ayimfuneko. Uvelwano alumnandi, kodwa olona lonwabo luqhelekile luyinyani.