Kutshanje, abafazi abafuna ukuzala umntwana bahlala bebhekiswa kum. Uninzi lwazo ezingama-30, zenzeka emsebenzini. Kwaye ngoku, xa kubonakala ngathi kuvuthiwe kwaye ilungele, abantwana babo ngesizathu esithile abaphathwa nabo.
Andizukuchaphazela imiba yezonyango kutheni abasetyhini bekunzima ukukhulelwa okanye ukuthatha umntwana. Siza kujonga into eqhelekileyo yengqondo. Kwaye ekubeni umphefumlo we (okanye endaweni yoko, i-psyche) kwaye umzimba udibene, umzimba unikwa iqela leqela labantwana lisekuqaleni kakhulu.
Ke, ukugqabhuka kwabo bonke aba bafazi kukugqibelela, umnqweno weenjongo.
Abanye babo bafuna eyona ndoda ifanelekileyo eya kuba ngumyeni ongumzekelo notata omangalisayo wabantwana babo. Abaphathi abalula / ababhali / iinkqubo (ababambeleyo kuyo nayiphi na imisebenzi) abayi kulunga. Ifuna isityebi, esempilweni, sifundile, esifundileyo, esasiqaqadekile, somelele, somelele, sinothando, sinothando, sinothando) umntu onolonwabo kunye naye, ngalo mfazi uya kufuna. Kodwa, kububi bakho, abafazi ngamaphupha anjalo bakrelekrele kakhulu. Baxambulisana ngolu hlobo: "Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntu onjalo ufuna usapho kum, kufuneka ndidibanise." Kwaye uzenzele imfezeko. Kunye neendawo kunye nokukhetha oku kuninzi: ukusuka kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ukuya kwiikhosi kwi-Feng Shui, i-Erotic Schoge kunye neendlela ezingama-30 zokulungisa iisandwich.
Konke oku kuyamangalisa, kodwa inyani yile yokuba kule nkqubo akunakwenzeka ukuba uyeke. Owona mfazi "uyaphucuka", ukuphakama kwendoda, ithuba elincinci lokuthatha indawo ecaleni komfazi onjalo kunye nendalo yakhe, kwaye akukho sikweni ukuba senjenjalo, okwangoku awukafumani Owona bantwana bafanelekileyo.
Kwabo sele begqibe kubantwana bakatata wabo, omnye umhambi: umzekelo, impilo. Kufanele ukuba igqibelele, ngokupheleleyo ukuze abantwana bazelwe basempilweni. Abafazi abanjalo bayamthanda lo mxholo ngokungathi ufuna ukubhabha ukuya kwindawo, kwaye ungazabeli abantwana.
Umntu othile usempilweni, kodwa imali yingxaki, funa ukubonelela nabuphi na ubunzima obunokubakho, baleka okanye imfuno evela kumadoda avela kwi-100 eyahlula-hamba.
Omnye umntu kufuneka azale umntwana ngeminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwengama-35. Kuba usuku lokuzalwa olungama-35 ngaphandle komntwana lusuku olulilayo. Iminyaka emi-5 ngaphambi kokuba - i-neurotic Chapy yomgangatho wentlalo.
Kwaye isiseko sayo yonke le nto kukugqibelela, umnqweno wokuthobela umbono ofanelekileyo nobomi babo, ubudlelwane babo, ubuhlakani kunye nolwalamano.
Ingxaki kuphela kukuba umama yimpazamo yempazamo. Abantwana abahambelani nakweyiphi na imigangatho. Yitya, ulale, ukhale, ukhule, uyagula, aphuhla ngokwecebo okanye ishedyuli, kodwa ngohlobo lwazo. Kodwa kunzima ukuvuma ukungafezeki kunye nabo, kwaye ke, isihloko sabantwana siya kuhlehliswa ngokupheleleyo - emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kuya kufuneka bazi yonke imisebenzi yabo - igcwele i-fiasco.
Akukho gonyo kuyo, ngaphandle kokufunda ukwenza iimpazamo, uyeke ulawulo kwaye uvumele ukuba uphile, ungafezekanga. Abantwana ngoyena titshala zibalaseleyo zothando olungenamiqathango kunye nabantu obathandayo. Iintsana azikhathali ukuba yimalini eya kwi-mama kwi-wallet, ngokutyibilikayo ngamazinyo akhe nokuba ihambelana nemibono malunga nomfazi we-vedic. Baya kuyifuna loo mama.
Ngendlela, iinkqubo zokuphelisa zinokukrokrela i-cramole tramole kweli nqaku ukuze ziziphose kunye nophuhliso lwabo. Kodwa akunjalo. Umsebenzi kuphela kukujonga kubalulekile kwimigangatho ozama ukufezekisa ekugqibeleni ibe ngumama. Mhlawumbi nawe unenkonzo yebhere kwaye ususe kuphela umama oxabisekileyo.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin