Awu, iinyani zokubetha kunye nokuthotywa kwiintsapho zabafazi noonina kusenzeka rhoqo. Amajelo eendaba ahlala ebonakala amabali adumileyo, abrelekrele, ababhinqileyo nabanetalente ababehlala esihogweni iminyaka eliqela, okanye baba ngumbingelelo wentlungu engalindelekanga evela kwindoda ethandekayo.
Ngubani okwiqela lomngcipheko, indlela yokuphepha ulwalamano olunje kwintsapho yakhe, kulo lonke lonke kufuneka acelwe ukuba acele uncedo, indlela yokuphelisa uTirana - oku kuncedwa yi-Psychologist "I-Alis" ye-Alis ALTGOTT.
Ukholelwa ukuba kunyanzelekile ukuba umshiye umntu okungenani nje ukuba uzivumele ukuba aphakamise isandla sakho phezu kwakho, kuba, njengomthetho, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuphinda. Ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kuwa ngexesha ngalinye kwaye kuya kuvela uxinzelelo, okuya kukhokelela kwezinye izifo kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukuzibulala.
Ewe kunjalo, kukho iimeko apho indoda eyoyikayo kukuphulukana nabantu esibathandayo, iba ngomnye, kodwa ngelishwa, yindlela yokwakhiwa.
I-cine-cinezela ifuna uncedo lwengqondo ukutshintsha. NaseRussia, oku ayamkelwa. "Ndithini, ndikhalela okanye uza kuya kwingqondo?" - Ke uninzi lucinga. Yenza idinga ngengcali kwaye inxibelelane namadoda idla ngokuhlazeka.
Kukho abafazi abathi, kuhlobo lwabo lwengqondo, banethuba eliphezulu lokuba lixhoba le-Tyran ekhaya. Baxhomekeke kakhulu kwiqabane, bazabalazela ukunyibilika emntwini, abazigqali ngokwabo umntu obalekayo opheleleyo. Ngokuphathelelene ngokwemeko, banokubizwa ngokuba "ngabafazi -", bafuna ukukholisa iqabane, bemenze, kodwa akukho mntu ubathanda abafazi abanjalo.
Ukuba ngephanyazo kwenzekile ukuba wathandana, kodwa umntu akanamsebenzi, oko akuyomfuneko ukuba amquqele. Kuyimfuneko ukufumana enye into, kuba, njengommiselo, iqabane liya kuziva ngaphezulu kwakho kwaye likuhlaze. Uthando kufuneka lube lodwa, lusekwe kwintlonipho kunye nokuzithemba kwamaqabane, kuphela kuya kuba yintsapho eyonwabileyo.
Kufuneka ishiye indoda ekrexeze ukuba izalisekise isandla sakho
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Rhoqo, abafazi ngokwabo abanakukwazi ukususa uthando olunjalo lomonde-ukuxhomekeka. Emva koko kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo kwi-psychologist.
Ekhohlo yedwa ngengxaki yakhe, umfazi akanakuhlangabezana nale ngxaki kwaye akaboni uphume. Ingcali yengqondo iyazazi izisombululo. Uba ngumqhubi. Abanye abantu basetyhini kufuneka bafake isicelo kwi-psychotherapists yengqondo yenkxaso ukuba sele ixinezelekile, ephathwa kuphela ngamachiza athile.
Kaninzi, amabhinqa akhule kwintsapho efanayo abe ngamaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya, bayayazi imodeli enjalo yokuziphatha kwabantwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo wayeyinto eyoyikisayo, eyoyikisayo, kodwa abayiboni enye indlela yokuziphatha. Ngelishwa, kwasebusuku obuthile kudluliselwe kubudala.
Ukongeza, uluntu lwethu esikhula ngalo, lubeka intsingiselo ebalulekileyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukusukela kwiminyaka yokuqala, ootitshala bahlala bekhwaza, banokuhamba ekliniki, umakhulu kwindawo yokungena ithi indlela yokuziphatha nokunxiba. Sisoloko sihlatywa, kwaye iba yinto eqhelekileyo, siqala ukukholelwa ukuba kufuneka sibe sekunye nathi.
Ewe kunjalo, ukuzama ekuqaleni ukungazixabisi ngokwabelana ngobudlelwane nomntu ongakuhloniphi nina.
Ukwenza oku, okokuqala, kuya kufuneka ujonge ubudlelwane kusapho losapho lwakho, njengoko bemphatha umama. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ekuqaleni uza kuwe. Ukuba indoda iyavumela ukuba ivumele iziqhulo zokungahloniphi idilesi yakho, ayikhathali ngawe, inokuhlazisa nabahlobo, ke akufuneki uqhubeke obu budlelwane.
Omnye umfazi wale mihla akafanele axhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuloo ndoda, kuyanyanzeleka ukuba nomsebenzi ongoveli, kunye nezindlu ezinokuhlala zihamba.
Kwaye awusoze ufune ukuphulukana nokuzithemba kwaye uvumele abanye ukuba banxibelelane nawe.