Akunantsingiselo ukunika amanani oqhawulo-mtshato eRussia kunye nehlabathi- wonke umntu uyazi ukuba inani labo likhulu. Kunzima ukuthi, kubi okanye kulungile. Ukuphila nomntu ongathandwayo okanye onobungozi kwaye unesibindi ngokucacileyo awuluxabisi, kodwa kulula ukuphatha uqhawulo-mtshato kwiiyunithi. Ukubandezeleka kwengqondo yomntwana odibeneyo, imicimbi yezemali, ukuxhomekeka kwengqondo kwiqabane- yonke le mibuzo ivela kubantu abacinga ngokulonakalisa umtshato. Impembelelo ezona ngxaki ziphambili kwaye inika ingcebiso ebalulekileyo.
Uxinzelelo kwi-psyche
Ubundlobongela bekhaya yingxaki rhoqo kwilizwe lethu. Kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo, amatyala angaphezu kwama-21 amawaka abhalwa kwiCandelo leMicimbi yangaphakathi, kwiminyaka edlulileyo amatyala angahambi kakuhle. Ayisiyo yonke imibingelelo icela uncedo, sisazi ukuba kwinqanaba lezomthetho abanamalungelo amancinci- "ukuxhomekeka kwiintsapho" ezingaphezulu kweentsuku ezili-15. Ngapha koko, uninzi lwezenzo zogonyamelo lwengqondo kunzima ukuzichonga amaxhoba: Badla ngokunyanzelisa umntu oziphatha ngokungenakude okanye udlale indima yexhoba, kuba kanye ixesha elingaphezulu kwe-zungud enokuphenjelelwa ngakumbi. Ngelishwa, kuba ebuntwaneni nabantwana, abazali abaninzi abathethi nokukhusela imida, amandla okushiya ngabom ukwanelisa ubudlelwane babo kwaye bazixabise ngaphandle komlinganiso wempumelelo kunye nobuhle.
Abantwana baqaqamba uqhawulo-mtshato, kodwa banokujamelana noxinzelelo
Uloyiko lwabantwana
Ngokuthatha isigqibo sokuzala umntwana, uxanduva lokukhuliswa kwayo kunye nenkxaso yezinto eziphathekayo kuthatha zombini, hayi umama nje. Kutheni ucinga ukuba emva koqhawulo-mtshato umyeni uza kuyeka ukunxibelelana nabantwana? Ewe, kukho abantu abaphethe iqabane kubantwana abaqhelekileyo, kodwa aba bantu ngokucacileyo banomoya. Musa ukwenza impazamo enjalo, nokuba wena nomyeni wam baxambulisana: ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane kunye nabazali abanawo abantwana zizinto ezahlukeneyo. Uninzi lukatata luyaqhubeka nokunxibelelana neentombi kunye noonyana emva kokuba zichithe kubafazi bazo. Ke ngoko xoxa kwangaphambili indlela umntu owayengasixhasa ngayo unxibelelwano, ithemba lokukhohlisa, kwaye ngenye indlela, enze isicelo kwinkundla ukuba abuyisele i-alimonyon.
Intsomi malunga nethuba lokugqibela
Ukuba nomntu kuphela ngenxa yokuba awukamfumani mntu ngcono- esi sisigqibo esingenantlonelo. Uyazikhohlisa, kodwa uhlala ungonwabanga. Ukuba ucinga ngoqhawulo-mtshato, kodwa uyoyika ukuhlala wedwa ebomini, kufuneka usebenze kunye nogqirha wezengqondo. Ingcali iya kucacisa ukuba ukufa okunjalo akunazo izizathu, kwaye uya kunyanzela ukuba akholwe. Emva koqhawulo-mtshato, musa ukungxama entanyeni yendoda yokuqala yokuqala: Ukusebenza kweengxaki zengqondo, yizintembele kuwe kwaye ubone ukuba leliphi iqabane ofuna ukulibona elandelayo.
Yenza imali kwangaphambili
Ukungazinzi kwemali
Abafazi abatshatileyo basemncinci, ekuphelisweni komtshato bahlala bengenalo impahla yabo yokuthengisa izindlu nomhlaba kunye nokugcinwa kwemali kwi-capital kwilungiselelo lobomi. Ewe, unesiqingatha sepropathi, kodwa sonke siyayazi indlela onokuthi ucwangcise ngayo amaxwebhu emva kokuba uza kuhlala phantsi kwanto. Musa ukuchitha ixesha lilize-ngoku qala ukugcina inani elincinci ekuqaleni okanye lithethe nomyeni wakho ukuba ufuna uncedo okwethutyana. Ukuba uyindoda eyaneleyo, akazithathi la mazwi angaqhelekanga.