Intlanganiso, ukujonga okokuqala, uthando, ukwanga okokuqala, isini, umtshato, uvutha, kodwa uninzi lwabantu banolwalamano lwemeko enjalo. Ke umbuzo uphakama: kutheni ukukhohlisa iqabane laba lisebenze kakhulu kuluntu lwethu.
Kwisigqibo sam, ndingatsho ukuba izizathu zokutshintsha zinokwahluka kwaye ezi zezona zibaluleke kakhulu:
Nye. Akuvumi . Umanyano lwakho sisivumelwano sokuba sisibini, usapho. Kubalulekile apha ukuba omabini amacala aqonda ukuba kwamkelekile kuwe, kwaye ungamkelekanga. Umzekelo, iqabane lakho liye lahlala kulwalamano oluvulekileyo, oko kukuthi, kubudlelwane ekunyene nokudibana kwesondo nomnye umfazi kwakungeyondezelelo, kodwa kwamkelekile. Kwaye uhlala okanye ucinga ukuba uphile kubudlelwane bemveli, apho iqabane linye kuphela. Kulwalamano olutsha, ngamnye kuni uyaqonda ukuba okungagqibekanga. Kule meko, kufuneka uqonde ukuba awuvumi kwaye uthethe ngokweenkcukacha into onokuyenza, kwaye yintoni onayo, kodwa yintoni. Ukuba esi sivumelwano azange senziwe ngokucacileyo, kungekho mntu ubeka ityala, kodwa kuphela ongenakuvuma.
2. Udlala imidlalo eyahlukeneyo. Ucinga ukuba unolwalamano olintsapho wena kwaye njalo, kwaye indoda yakho "iphoswe": ubonakala ephila nawe, kodwa kwangaxeshanye ukhangelo. Inokuba yintoni ngaphandle kwento yokuba utshatile ukuba unesatifiketi somtshato. Kubuhlungu kakhulu kuba ngamnye kuni uhlala ngohlobo oluthile lokwenyani, kwaye ukuze le nyani kukudibanisa, ufuna inqanaba eliphezulu lobuchule onokuthi ube nalo, xa sele eyifumene le meko. Kule meko, okanye kufuneka uvume ukuba kunjalo, kwaye uphila, okanye ugqibezele ubudlelwane, okanye ugqibezele ngokwakho, phuhlisa ukufikelela kulo lonke olo lonyulo, kwaye wenze Ngokuphandle ngaphandle kwezenzo ezenzayo, kunye nokudala indawo enjalo yokutshintsha kwayo.
3. Akakhuli . Usapho olunemimoya kwaye ngokubanzi ubudlelwane beebhanti ngumsebenzi, umntu ongenamntu ongacacanga, lo ngumsebenzi wabantu abadala. Ukuba indoda yakho ayifikeleli kwingqondo, iya kubaphatha njengomntwana okwishumi elivisayo, ukuhlala ungaziphathi kakuhle, nokuba ingakanani na, nokuba ingakanani na. Akunamsebenzi ukumcaphukisa aze enze amabango kuye - uncinci nje. Kubuhlungu ukuba ubukwimeko efanayo kwaye akubonanga ukuba iqabane lakho alizange liqole ngokwaneleyo le projekthi njengentsapho eyonwabileyo. Ungazalisa olu lwalamano okanye uphuhlise njengabafazi ukuze kwindawo yakho ukuvuthwa kwayo kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa lo ngumsebenzi omkhulu ophela ngesiphumo esingaqinisekanga: Ukuvuthwa, unokuqonda ukuba awungomfazi wakhe, nokuba kufuneka utyale imali kuyo. Kwelinye icala, ukuba siphumelela nayiphi na imeko, ngokuba ukuphuhlisa nokuphucula umgangatho wakho, wena ufeze umsebenzi wenu zibalulekile yaye ecaleni uya kuba yindoda engcono - nokuba loo mntu, okanye elinye.
4. Esona sizathu sibalulekileyo Akavumelekanga kuMtshato Lomtshato akafumani amandla obhinqileyo. Kule meko, uyahamba kwaye ayifumane kwenye indawo. Rhoqo, abafazi bakholelwa ukuba le ndoda ifanele. Ngapha koko, akukho mntu ufanele. Indoda isenokulala ngesondo. Mhlawumbi inengxaki yokuthantamisa, uthando, ukuncoma. Mhlawumbi umgangatho wendawo yeNdlu ayisiyo inqanaba oyifunayo. Mhlawumbi unomdla kakhulu ngabantwana. Njengenxalenye yalo mbhalo, asiyi kuhlalutya oko akuphosayo, kodwa ukubonakala komnye umntu obhinqileyo uthi uphuhliso kwisibini sakho uyekile ukuba alunamfazi, kwaye ubudlelwane bakho Sukuphuhlisa. Akukho nto sinokwenza kuye, kodwa ungaqala ophuhliso lwakho, unokuphucula ubugcisa bakho, kwaye andithethi ngesondo, kodwa ngayo yonke into efumileyo yothando. Ungakhula iimpawu zakho zomfazi, ibhinqa lenu litshoyo, emva koko, mhlawumbi liya kuba nomdla ekubuyiseleni kuni, liza kubonakala ngathi lihleli nani, okanye enye indoda iya kuvela.